Validation: Healthy Versus Unhealthy
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oh thank you okay can you share with us what you'd like me to talk about today yes okay Palm Sunday anybody else okay very good for the folks online they're asking me to talk about playfulness and murder [Laughter] only in Sedona um you know it's interesting a couple weeks ago
I talked about something and then last week we covered a little bit more those of you who remember it was sort of titled the daughters of Heaven um it's sort of specific I can't get into that right now but we talked about it two weeks ago and then we talked about it last Sunday as well and then um I think it was the next day after last Sunday's service the next day I woke up went to my computer and wrote a book so it's almost done um after just a few days on the daughters of Heaven I I thought I was
not going to write any more books because time is so limited in my time you know schedule but anyway I wrote a book um it'll be um but the problem is printing it takes a couple months so it'll be in out in a couple of months but it'll be done within a week or so proofreading and all that um so thank you but this this is also a testament about you know when we live in the light walk and live in the light we're fed we're fed ideas Inspirations for paintings new things new Endeavors you know people that didn't know they
could paint their painting or poetry or greater friendship greater camaraderie I mean standing in the light of God we should be affected it shouldn't be the same old same old and I mean even if you're watching or attending a program like mine or here in in Sedona as a town or in this Center if if you're here once twice or a hundred times and you're not seeing changes in your life there's something wrong with that picture and it isn't us [Laughter] um could be us but you might want to think about that if it were me if I were
in your shoes and said you know oh I've been attending a spiritual center for a month I've been using a meditation technique for months whatever it is and I'm not seeing any changes I would evaluate myself if you're going to a 12 steps group and you're the same five years later you know you know you're just attending a group you could go play bingo I mean join poker night somewhere I mean what's the point if you're not changing something so I love that I love to I mean I can hear a song on the radio and
it can change me at least a bit or a lot you never know I think there's God there has to have been times in my life when I heard a song or a story for somebody told in a group and it just boom it's just a matter of seeing what's valuable calling it in pulling it in and anchoring it and letting it grow and when it's not happening it usually isn't the thing we attended or the song we listened to because technically as children of God we could turn bubble gum Raptor wrappers into you know unlocking the secrets of the universe I
mean we could we could do anything a song a title of a song could could download into something profound so there are you know books to be written or songs to Be Sung poems to be written but whatever it happens to be but do we live it do we anchor if you stand in the light enough you're going to get a tan you know there should be an effect there should be something happening you know um on that note you know and and in honor of some of the things you're asking about like some of the troubles going on in the world
the crazy behaviors and some people think and I think they're partly right you know what's wrong with this world as soon as somebody says that the next thing is going to be inaccurate it's kind of funny because nobody's understanding the issue isn't well we need a different President we need a different it's none of that stuff that the head can come up with but some people say overpopulation is an issue well it is it means you're using up more water you're polluting things more and so on but it's it's not an it's
not ever an external thing if everybody was at peace they wouldn't be able to ruin a world they wouldn't be able they wouldn't be able to toxify a world there wouldn't be shootings there wouldn't be anything like that if people found peace so the only real problem which isn't capital r real the only real problem is a lack of God if we are standing in the light of God we cannot be harmed nor cause harm there wouldn't be any Vibe of harm the stuff we do to each other is because we're hurting inside
it's pain that's acting out you know so and one of the interesting things about that this this term validation just because you know there are people that are that cause harm and sometimes they're doing it because nobody's heard them nobody has seen them if you would hear people and see people they would break free of some of the angst that's building up inside but on that note there's valid ways of validating people there's healthy ways and unhealthy ways of validating people generally speaking
validating people is a very healing thing builds people up it restores their soul you know like you're hearing me but my need for validation is a sickness that could be out of control so we also shouldn't be validating everybody for everything it's good it's kind of tricky right it's a bit of a paradox validate don't validate which one do we choose the right one at the right time when somebody's you know it's like the the concept of uh we don't bargain with terrorists kind of a thing because that
would be validating their garbage so there's a righteousness to that but can you meet with such people and also talk about what makes you so angry what makes you so upset if you have a child or a parent that's just constantly upset intense to sit down and say well what's going on now just because you go okay I hear you that's a step but that too can be very gratuitous I hear you can become a speech just a common phrase so those people don't know if you really heard them unless you can prove it
and one way you prove it is to repeat back some of what they said or to get it you can tell me some really crazy things about your life crazy things you've done and I can actually find a way in me to understand why you did it even if it was completely nuts how it's called imagination I can imagine how and why you feel the way you feel you see if I can't find a way it's because I don't want to I don't have time to figure out why you feel the way you feel great that's called separation and now
we're just in deeper problems people need to be heard people need to be validated but don't validate their ego so that gets even trickier there's more than once the comments that people ask the requests had the word child in it whether it was traumas going on or children of tomorrow so that's something we we need to address here a little bit the word playfulness came up and passion came up people are losing their sense of passion to feel passion you have to feel alive there's something that ignites the song
that we played prior to the service today song is shining star and what an amazing song most of us remember singing along oh yeah 70s you know and you just kind of sing along you can you're singing These enlightened lyrics and not realizing that they're enlightened you know you're singing along to to bands or musicians or songs that are they're fun melodic okay cool but you don't realize you're chanting shining star for you to see what your life can truly be they end in a chant for a reason
the writer said I want this to be chanted I want it to be drawn into the mind you're stating it as an affirmation and people don't realize that's what so they're you know parties and they don't realize you are you are chanting an affirmation you are decreeing to who to God to everyone everything everyone is a shining star no matter who they are or have been shining bright to see what you can truly be I mean wow right should have been a high school class it's called shining star instead
of every other class God you know it's to to I'm going to affirm people's remembrance the problem can be when we talk about validation is validate for a moment people's pain hear them I understand you know well my parents don't love me and my parents this and my parents that and yet they're living they're wealthy they have no Financial issues the parents give them anything they want and so on but they still need validated you see just because you have stuff doesn't mean you don't have pain or
don't have troubles so hear people out don't immediately use your head to cancel what they're saying well I'm having marital issues what do you mean you're married to that person everybody would love to be married to them yeah but nobody knows you know what it's like behind closed doors they don't know that the person's an alcoholic they just know that they're a celebrity you see so here hearing people it starts off listen to what they have to say let them tell you their feelings
let them tell you their dreams for that matter what's going on encourage to develop the place for children to to be able to share and if you say well your children or children in the world don't have a place to share then I guess it's up to us to create one you've got to create a safe space and place counselors should be well paid to work in schools but then their hands are tied when they try they're told what they're allowed to talk about and not allowed to talk about see counselors should be let loose in
schools they should be able to put their feet up and have a smoke if they want to with the kid if that's what's going to bridge with the kid just you know feed up so you know how's school you know oh here you go there you go you know I mean meet people where they are see instead of oh you're like that are you you know frowning upon them how's that bridging so I understand why there's an angst that builds up in kids I understand that there are kids that have been bullied and are venting I get it I understand it
I'm sure in one lifetime time or another we've been bullied and we have been the bullies so it happens in this world but some of the kids you could have sat and talked to them and it wouldn't have mattered because their ego once validated and guess what you can never validate the ego enough which is why I'm saying it's an ego sometimes it's never enough and that's when you and I need to know okay I listened I heard I connected this and that and they're still going on they're still going then you know
they're not wanting to be heard and validated their ego is in control and you cannot win it's like having a relationship of some form with someone with a personality disorder all you're going to do is get hooked into something that's not going to go well I'm not saying we should abandon people or I'm judging personality disorders it's just an example you can try to bond with a psychopath or a narcissist but they've got agendas in every one of those conversations where you're going I'm here with you they
they've got they've got all kinds of agendas to take that to places and you're unarmed you know you think your your kindness will work and it's sad because they're that broken are they so broken that you give up no but you better call in forces Beyond yourself prayer talk to their angels and say listen I'm here a human being willing to bridge with your human the Angels you know they're human that they're watching over I'm here I'm willing to help but I'm going to help from a distance
if you jump into helping people validating their ego you're in trouble but you also missed your test your learning lure lesson which was to learn to see when you've gone past a line of safety for yourself there's a wonderful probably favorite story when it comes to boundaries or validation from the Native American tradition you some of you may have heard the elders would sit you go there with a complaint well my neighbors you know too much peace pipe man they're just always smoking the peace pipe you know
and my neighbor and too much smoke and whatever they listen to you they give you advice you come back a second time oh my neighbor they're still doing this did you follow our advice well it wouldn't work anyway they send you on your way go practice what we told you third time they come back well I want to talk about my neighbor they all get up turned their back to you which I think the Senate should do to presidents but that's just you know wouldn't that be cool swivel chairs you know instead of those wooden ones
you know you know to Historic wooden chairs just swivel chairs you know wouldn't that send a message like no we don't buy it I think that'd be cool but anyway I have all kinds of ideas I could share with you swivel chairs in the Senate would be one of them turning your back now now that's isn't that kind of cool turn their back saying no we already answered you and apparently you don't want an answer if you do you'll go practice it and you'll come back different you'll come back with a different report
you're repeating the same thing and it could be us could be them or it could be you we're betting that it's you now you might go that's you know pretty brilliant and one of the reasons we say that because we go well native you know Native Americans wisdom Elders so there's okay there's a certain Prestige to elders but it's interesting when you practice that in your house you're not going to be respected for it you know it's when the kids go and talk to other parents well you know how
things go at home well I was trying to talk to my dad he just got up and turned his back to me they're going to think it's cruel when we practice that sort of thing here oh those unloving people at the global Center we don't mind hearing native elders and we go such oh native elders here they will not enable my ego you know and and I think it's funny but it's this is one of the issues in the world is enabling sickness enabling hurtfulness enabling ego if we could say no to things that are not of love and not
of God the world would change but why don't we well we should do that we should pick it it's before you go outside and do it start here do you say no to your own inner voices of ego your own low self-worth your own doubts and inner shames and regrets if you can't say no to those we shouldn't even be talking about how many people in the world you need to set boundaries with start here where can I say you know that's enough for example let's say you're wanting to start a project you want to take watercolor
painting classes or something and then Here Comes The Voice yeah but can you really afford the paint brushes I don't know I haven't even looked into prices right oh but already oh you know it could be expensive probably expensive really here's this dialogue yeah and then oh paints you know and I've heard that paints are made out of toxic materials no yeah you better be careful you know yeah but the teacher said we use safe paint colors yeah but she's trying to get students she wants money and you're
one of them oh I'm so on to you you know I'm glad I'm I'm aware I'm not like other human beings that are so gullible you know and and if you get past that Gauntlet you're going to end up in places like yeah but didn't you sign up for paint classes before and not go yeah yeah wasn't it five times that's true so you have a pattern of not doing things so why bother there's another so you will shoot down ideas before they even launch just shoot them down so that you do nothing nothing different nothing new
nothing fulfilling right and that's perfect that's where the ego wants people they want them in the Senate arguing so much that nothing gets done invalidate valid things so that nothing gets done support craziness because that can't go anywhere good so only validate things that are invalid and worthless it's a backwards world but if we can sit still and say well how do I know what to validate in my mind or in other people's behaviors just ask yourself couple questions first of all is the thing
they're saying loving that's worth validating if they're saying something that seems like it's of God seems like it's of love then it's probably worth validating I would say validate people that need to be heard that that haven't been heard before does that make sense if you know they sincerely want to be heard and they haven't been I think it's healthy let me be somebody listens to you there's people to not validate don't get too caught in validating people that need to be heard that's
different than I've never experienced that that I would validate I need to be heard okay I'll give you one minute oh no I need to be heard for 18 years really no I'm I like quicker Learners in my life you see people that need to be heard there's a that's already an accident waiting to be happening you know waiting to happen and you've all heard maybe even said those words I need to be validated now don't show them that face don't go oh God one of those just go oh and inside go ah you know
it's one of those I need to be Val you need to validate me there's people that'll say that Sedona is a town where a lot of people will say things like that oh I just need just be validated man no it's not going to happen here show the world no whether a person's one-year-old or 100 years old either one there's times to validate and times to invalidate If the child will cry unless you if you don't give them back that pair of scissors they need to be invalidated no you know but I want to try the other
scissors I'm going to run no I want to practice knife throwing no Val in you know invalidate that no they'll cry it too bad but I don't want them to not like me I don't want them to go to school when they're five and my mom never allows me to throw knives you know I don't want to be the mom that's resented you know so you give in you should say no but there's a hundred year old they're so wise and they've lived a life and oh the poor thing and they're you know nobody you know they're not getting
all the attention they should and there's times to invalidate them you see but there's also times to validity it isn't the age it isn't the gender it isn't the race it's the content of what they're looking to validate I want my hatred validated no however try it first to see if it makes a difference if you say to me Michael I have to have a session what how can I help you well I've done a lot of research and I've done a lot of looking soul searching and I've realized I am the
number one most hateful person on the planet I hate everybody every I hate you Michael you know I haven't met you before but I already hate you I hate everybody now I wouldn't say oh that's ego invalidate them no be stealthy try so that you know at least you tried any relationship you ever end you're going to want to know that you did what you could even if it's a client I would sit with that person you know and and laugh I mean there's I've told this story before but there was this elderly woman that I knew about 30 years
ago and she hated everybody I mean she was just a crotchety woman man and she would get her little cart with her cane and she you know across crosswalks and if a car the front of the car was over the line in the crosswalk she'd stop beat the hell out of the person's Hood get your car you know they back and you know and yet for some reason when she had seen me in a cafe or something you know I used to go to this one Cafe and and buy a a cream cheese muffin and then I would peel the cream cheese off the top and chew on that and
give my kids the muffin I was a great parent um they caught on one day they did how come we can't have that part well I guess we'll buy a second one you guys could split that one you know but but this lady she'd see me and she'd come in how's it going she something in her found me felt love she's not the type to go oh look a loving person she didn't trust anybody and somehow she found me and she trusted me and she told me I've never liked anybody I never trusted anybody and and I didn't preach to her
I didn't teach to her I didn't do anything like that there's a presence we should try and be that shift for them but don't jump in the quicksand wanting to be that shift you don't jump in the quicksand and say Let Me swim to the bottom of the quicksand and give you a foot up so you can get out while I drown that doesn't make any sense oh but that that would make me a a good you know martyr for the world and no it's not helpful it's a good test for you to stand on Solid Ground and reach a handout if they
take your hand they have achieved something if they don't they have to learn again but you did your part right no rescuing just offering so when it comes to validating those those who need to be heard you're in danger or sometimes people want you to validate that they're right I was talking to my brother the other day my sister my mom my boss and I told them a thing or two they're expecting you to go yo you're so right you were right to tell them that you're much better than all the other employees
and that you should be the one getting the raise you see they they want that and you're validating their ego I'm not saying shoot him down I'll come back to that in a minute I'm saying be stealthy hear them see if I'm listening to you say things like that I might look like I'm validating you but I'm only hearing you there's a difference I'm validating your soul that you deserve to be heard but I'm not just because I'm like you're kidding I didn't say and you're right you should
go back to work and beat them up I all I did was go you wow really you think I'm on your side I'm on the side of light so all I'm doing is hearing you if I'm going to tell you you're right I'll say it that was the right thing to do but if not I'll say well I I probably wouldn't have used that word you know might have left that one out if I were you that might have put them on defense you know or whatever I wouldn't want to validate their need to be hear the word need they need to be
heard they need to be right understand that word need comes from neediness it which comes from emptiness and only God can fill an emptiness not you so when you try to validate their neediness again You're In Harm's Way and there are people that will fight and complain just to get their way not just to be right not just to be heard they're going to fight to get their way and again you see you're In Harm's Way when you jump in that pool with them so understand this and recognize but your job just because you can see
someone's coming from their ego doesn't mean you should go uh that's ego I'm going to invalidate I would recommend try first to Bridge and see if they're willing to shift like a railroad you know engine coming down the track and they have the switch to different tracks here they come same old track same old conversation you offer the switch and if they switch it back and they want to stay on the same track of thought then let it be you've done yeah that's their choice but when you offer something else
when I talk to that elderly woman I wasn't going to get all kinds of like and then her face glowed and she had epiphanies and said I I see the Lord Michael what I was going to get out of her is well I don't know about that and I knew that that meant wow she couldn't say well it would just be well I'd have to think about that and things like that people that act like that have to be in pain to act like that okay and again I'm not validating their behavior I'm understanding it there's a
difference I get it I'm validating your soul so one of the first things besides the what things not to validate one of the first things is you validate the soul of a person not their ego and the Soul has sometimes been through hell okay sometimes they've gone through a lot my love for your soul allows me to hear what you're saying even if you're saying things in a really rough way I think it's kind of amazing to be able to hear people put things in such a harsh way and you be so clear that you
can hear Underneath It All what they're really trying to say which is nobody's ever cared or nobody's ever loved me well I do you know you can say that in thought or in Word it's good to validate people who have rarely if ever been heard guys it's it's not even hours of counseling just sitting really well what happened allowing them to speak you're centered enough to know when they're if they're trying to pull you into an into validating ego or that they're just looking for some validation
of their pain they're hurt make sense so saying I'm here listening to a person you know and it's an amazing thing because they they say things like I don't even know why I'm telling you this have you ever had that I don't even know I am telling you this and of course in the back of your mind me neither but but if you're in your Center you go out of the you know why are they telling me that's kind of ignorance that's a person who hasn't woken up yet it's amazing when you you know
oh my God this person is opening their heart and soul wow yeah like something magical must be happening and I I assure you it is that something in you had to have sent a note of Music a note to them that sounded accepting and loving that you must have set some sort of frequency out that they felt and they went for it and for me it's been on airplanes strangers airplanes trains wherever cars on the street in the stores anywhere and everywhere and it's just not at all surprising anymore I don't go well this
seems kind of weird I I just you know it's I could be talking to an 80 year old woman at one of the uh estate sales that I volunteer at and she could be telling me you know I've always wanted to be a stripper and I could go that actually makes sense you know like I can make that make sense in the middle of a shopping spree of people just get out of your head and everything starts to make more sense there are people that have come to you for help but because they didn't word themselves right you shut the door on it
well I have to validate that you shut the door probably because you didn't feel very safe in the moment so I get it but I'm saying that we will mature more and more to where we can handle a little more of it see when we're hyper defensive we have to shut the door set boundaries and be safe that's good especially if you have post trauma but you're going to find the more you Tethered to God the more you can afford you can afford one sentence that wasn't very nice and then you shut the door A year later
two sentences pretty soon you come to the place where like Jesus they spit on them they do whatever forgive them Father they know not what they do it's amazing he didn't say except that guy he was really extra rude right when we really and I'm not saying you should try to push yourself to the Christ level of understanding and forgiveness you actually should not you should not even though I'm saying we'll get there you should not thrust yourself to that place because you will put yourself In Harm's Way and then you're
going to shut down and pull back complete for maybe lifetimes because you put yourself too far out there it's got to be an organic process there's a point where they say something and you breathe and you handle it they say two things you breathe and you handle it one day they say three couldn't handle breathe shut it down set a boundary and go look at that what did they say that you know I mean when they started off and said you know you're just like everybody else you're not listening to me you handled that but
when they said that one thing you shut down what was it well when they said that they didn't like my eyebrows I'm really sensitive about my eyebrows you need to go look at that did you have some tweezing trauma somewhere you know we'll track it look at it release it heal it and now it you get to where it doesn't matter when Jesus says when somebody asks for your coat give them your shirt as well what he was saying was it doesn't matter when when people say I don't like your hair color he's saying to you that's like they're
pushing they're on the envelope with you you learn to find enough Center where it doesn't matter and it doesn't mean it's easy to hear harsh things somebody doesn't like you you know you're a musician and you're really oh vulnerable going out there you're playing and they go you're the worst musician I've ever heard is that easy you know you're like yeah I've been in my Christ self I don't care no you're like unplug that's it I'll never play again
and we've all had moments like that where we felt shut down all the way is that God no practice asking yourself is that God does that sound like the voice of God and likely it's not therefore maybe I don't want to listen to that particular voice I would say people that are coming from a place of inspiration need to be validated you know I'm thinking about I'm going to share this with you I haven't told anybody I'm thinking about taking up classes and scuba diving but I'm 105 and they're you know some
people are like you can't it's dangerous grandma we don't want you scuba diving it could be dangerous but the concept makes me feel so happy I think they need to be validated you know Grandma can we start in a swimming pool you know you know forget Jacques Cousteau for a minute let's just start with a swimming pool you know if you're afraid of a shower we shouldn't even go to swimming pool you know those who are ill those not just physically those who can't feel Joy they should be validated
heard and validated you're you're depressed don't validate staying depressed validate that it's how they feel today because something brought them there when people are wanting to find their authentic self validate them when people are saying well I just I just feel like my my marriage or my partnership I feel like it's over validate them I didn't say tell them to go file for divorce validate how people feel when you do it often Burns off the rash decisions they were going to make honestly
there's emotion that's building and it pushes or compels people to take an action whether it's shootings or whether it's ventings or whatever when you hear people it's like a pressure cooker building they're going to blow when you hear people you're letting out some of the pressure and they can then think more clearly okay we talk about things like Christ consciences Daughters of Heaven things like that here but sometimes it's important that we go and talk about this the human self the struggles not just
all the stuff about heaven it's important that we come back to earth once in a while and talk about what you know struggles that people are going through you know hearing people bridging we just did a workshop a couple of weeks ago or a week ago on spiritual counseling and that's what we're talking about here the ability to you not necessarily licensed counselors but we're all counselors because we all have opportunities to help people decompress hurt and then bring in the opposite peace of God
most of the time when I've ever been helpful to a person who isn't hiring me for a session just the spontaneous randoms um almost never did they know what I do or who I am or whatever I honestly and I do not say and here's my business card I just do the work I swear to God almost never have I made it overt and you you have no idea the bizarre things with all my travels the bizarre things that have gone on in airplanes oh my god oh it's just the weirdest stories one lady who was just out of it and you know I'm like are you okay oh
you know and you know God knows send them by Michael you know Michael got upgraded to First Class let's get him into the back of the plane somehow why are you gonna get me in the back I got upgraded that doesn't happen every day you know and then I'm sitting and look in a and there's somebody that I could tell has never gotten to sit in first class so I say to them do you want to switch with me and take First go it's so beautiful that's bridging that's being there that's listening they
haven't even said a word you're listening when somebody walks in there's a certain posture a certain frequency a certain Vibe when you care about people love connects things fear separates things and when you love you know everything you Intuit everything intuition is of the heart love is of the heart humanitarianism is of the heart okay so intuition means I know exactly what's going on at any given moment but I'm not confusing that with hypersensitivity because oh my God you know if you're like hypersensitive
your own boundaries are shot your aura is it barely there and you're picking up everything from everybody you know it's just like you know wow I think I have an anxiety disorder or a lack of boundaries causing the anxiety disorder you don't have anxiety it's hyper stimulus right so these kinds of things where you just there's a knowing it's not like I need to know the feelings of everybody on the plane but somehow I zeroed in on that person what's going on they look like they would enjoy the first class seat
now there's The Voice well Michael don't you deserve a first class seat you know you deserve God God wants you to be on and is that God yeah God's whining yeah that's the voice of God Ben Michael don't you deserve a fight you know so I'm like okay give up the seat Let Them Sit they're appreciated and then you know the the flight attendants often see that that was amazing that you did that and then they say we're going to give you a comp drink I don't drink then I gotta go hey do you drink yeah
now I'm farming out drinks I'm giving out the free drinks that are coming my way you know just keep working it it's beautiful this one gal was so upset she starts telling me how you know my partner just dumped me and I'm flying home to my parents whole life gone nothing left flying home to go through the dark night and recuperate in my parents home feels humiliated lack of love all that you know and she's drinking and drinking telling me her life and we flew I think it was probably four hours
by the time we had gotten there her head's here and I'm stroking her head and she went to sleep you know she just went to sleep but comforting and being there for people even contact is beautiful um and yet the woman while she was asleep urinated on our seeds and I thought really but she felt humiliation she shame and I told the flight attendants you're going to need to call and get the seats changed out and then I walked the gal to find a bathroom you know and I went to the opening of the bathroom go in told
her what to do she was still buzzed so I had to listen carefully you've got to go in you've got to get your your carry-on find something to put on you know and I I didn't there's no shaming there must not be shaming one time one time I screwed up badly um and that was where this one gal was having a problem she was making a scene on the plane and everybody was totally turned off and making fun of her and I I got in on it too the problem was I was trying to bridge with the guys that were most bothered by her and I was trying to like
yeah I get it you know it's all I wasn't saying anything but I was bridging with them not knowing that she was the one sitting near them saw me agreeing with them even though I didn't do anything horrendous it broke my heart that I participated and she saw me and when she got off the plane I could see the humiliation that I participated in creating for her I felt terrible you know wherever she is love to you because but the love also made me not forget that I did that the love still makes me want to you know here it is sending you
love this woman could be an ascended Master now and the rest of us are still here having bills to pay in whatever right send her the love send her the love and so many kinds of experiences though 99 out of 100 that went well but so bizarre the conversations people sitting 10 rows away for some reason looking back at me and I'm like you know what is it you know what is it and uh do I have a tweezing issues again you know tweezing traumas um and then signaling me can I this one person a flight to Australia it's a long
flight she comes and sits next to me and our conversation went on you know about she's wanting to divorce you know her break up she's got a young marriage and you know just talked with her told her exactly what to do what to say to try one last time to bridge with the partner to see if they can meet each other and go somewhere I'm talking energetically meet inside helping people wherever and however the the strangest circumstances um you just don't know and you have to ask yourself what are you if you can change
people's lives do you understand it's forever one day you'll pass over and you'll wonder I wonder what it's like you know do I have my life flashed before me what's going to happen you know what what's on the other side you're going to be surprised to find that you have shot 20 Dimensions higher not one or two 20 Dimensions higher because of the people that gave thanks when they went to bed at night for your help not because you were wearing white and you were preaching in the hayan mudrov I
am the Christ you know nothing profound just listening to them just being present where they would have otherwise who knows taken their life or prematurely made rash decisions you were there you listened yes if you're a hairdresser I know you're listening to a lot of stuff yes a bartender yes massage therapist you're in a position where you're hearing and I think that's fantastic but do you know that whatever level you're already listening do you know that you can take it quantum leaps higher not by
doing more by being more by not just yeah okay yeah yeah you know go ahead and you know yep oh yeah that's that's listening barely but you're in a position where they're talking so you have to listen that's different it's when they said that one thing and you put your hand on their shoulder you pause the trimming of their hair and you put a hand on their shoulder right I remember seeing a guy uh an amazing counselor friend and he said why don't you come in we'll talk about some
things and I went and saw him and might have been the second or so time when I talked to him is probably in my 20s talking to and and two things I remember about this person one when I saw tears in his eyes I knew my life was a little more messed up than I thought but him being present with the feelings that he was feeling that I shared about my life you see him being present and allowing not I'm a counselor I shouldn't be allowing his tear I never forgot it it was he this person cares then it's wow I've I'm being heard
you know I was telling him things that I hadn't shared before I was being heard his tear was my tears capisce and another time talking to him I remember he took my hand never forgot it I must have had 100 conversations with him that I don't remember as friends and as him being like a role model a father figure a hundred that I might not remember but I never have forgotten him when he took my hand you see it's an act of affection but not affection a hug you know like uh intimate types of affection it's it's
contact It's Love In Action affection making sense there being the presence of God in the world all of us are the presence of God in the world but we're not acting like it listen here validate but God also will invalidate and say no not today Jesus himself at times said no so being spiritual as Edgar Casey put it does not mean being a doormat being spiritual means I'm in touch with myself enough to know what feels right for me and doesn't feel right you cannot have a healthy relationship with others without having a healthy
relationship with yourself you see just wow you matter really I do yes you matter it's quite all right for you to say no today but they may not like me do you need to be liked by people who don't care whether you've gone too far then more than you can handle those shouldn't be your first loves anyway wow I'm going to start hanging with people that say Hey if this is too far let's let you take a break today capiche on that all right please take a few centering breaths let's take this to a deeper level internally
remember the value of validating people validate that people are children of God and that they have value validate that your value don't validate users people that insist on remaining broken say no but the brilliance comes navigating in between those two seeing if you can at all bring them to the side of light to where they're willing to see a little feel a little more if not you've done what you can and you can say beloved father mother God hear before me in my mind is a holy Child of God one of your holy children
and I feel like I've done what I could except for this internally I'm going to see them well externally I can't see how it's going to happen so what I'm going to do is go inside and see them well they are a perfect holy Child of God not yet in the mood to be who they really are so I ask you to let me fill your presence let me get there home to higher Consciousness to a state of healed bring me there now and then I'm standing on behalf of my brother and sister who seem to be broken stubborn whatever it doesn't
matter I'm gonna see them home so at least I've created a matrix of them being home a blueprint and it makes it easier for them to step into that please [Music] allow the holy spirit of God to bring into your mind an image of anyone that ever seemed hopeless stubborn controlling resistant whether it was through addiction and you don't validate people's addictions you offer something else but you can validate that they're hurting and that led them to addiction because they are hurting for now tune in to anyone any image of anyone
[Music] how did you interact why did they seem hopeless [Music] just observe it could be somebody that took their own life and you didn't know what more you could do still it's okay [Music] stand in your Center oh to you my beloved brother sister [Music] I am saying from my soul to yours I hear you I see you and I understand you're hurt your feelings your pain
look me in the eye you tell them and hear what I'm telling you I get it sit and accept that someone is getting it if you refuse to soak that in it means you want to stay hurt but you have the right to do but I don't recommend it brother sister I get it I'm sorry whatever brought you there [Laughter] [Music] I am going to stand in the light of the Christ that I am this part of me cannot give up on you but it also cannot be dragged down by you I'm standing in my Center saying to you I get the stuff but I also know the truth you are a holy
Child of God no matter what has been said or done to you you are a holy Child of God my job is to hear the pain and be with you and I am [Music] and the second part of my job to say and now [Music] and now even if you refuse to go with me you're going to end up there anyway you only get to choose when so join me if you would and even if you don't I'm going and I'll hold a place for you partly what Jesus meant in my house father's house or many dimensions I am going to prepare a place for you it
means to all your brothers and sisters I am a spiritual contractor and I'm going to go and build places that represent your remembrance your Christ's self I'm already holding that place for you the vacancy is there for you to fill it foreign peace peace peace peace [Music] peace [Music] and now just listen to your breath quieting a feeling of gratitude settling in and we're quietly going to do just for a
minute or two a chant the one we often do love love love love the gospel in one word is love love thy neighbor as thyself love Holy Love if you've not done it before it doesn't matter you'll catch on quickly but what I'm asking for some of us we might think of it as the males or lower voices all we're asking is that it's repeating holy holy holy holy holy holy over and over because I love the symbolism that we have part of our group here and online are choosing to say I promise I'm going
to hold space for you and that's the symbolism of holy holy holy holy holy go keep going holy oh a fourth set Holy Holy Love okay that's it and you're doing this but you're you're knowing you're a high school kid holding space for the gals you're a child holding space for your parents you're a spiritual person holding space for people in the world you're validating the people that are ready to come home and to have an Awakening we're not thinking about it we're not judging
it we're not figuring out who is how much we're just holy holy holy holding space creating pillars Columns of light for people to build their remembrance upon gents please holy holy holy holy holy holy holy good keep going feel it holy holy love back to Holy Holy oh good louder [Music] love keep going ladies love love love love love thy neighbor as thyself love holy luck keep going [Music]
keep going stand please [Music] say it to the world [Music] one more time to the universe [Music] to all people throughout all time the message of God is love the message of the Holy Spirit is I love you please come home our answer today is yes and so it is thank you all very much we'll share a couple
of announcements take a minute to integrate but a couple of announcements and collection if anybody feels compelled to do so remember because we did this talk called the daughters of Heaven if you feel like that strongly affected you feel free to email the office with a testimonial whether it's two sentences or a paragraph not two pages but two sentences or a paragraph of what happened for you because people all over the world are talking about how this did something to them an activation is the most common word probably that I've been
hearing but if you feel compelled to do so send it in because I'm going to likely include some of these in the back of the book okay all right please gather your collections your your donations in the blue bags those are the donations that just from your heart for the work we do any extra donations you would like to offer they go in the baskets um and that's what you know change in the bottom of your purse or just whether you want to help with some of our special projects this week we're paying off a new shed building that we put out
here so we would appreciate your support in that it would be great but we or sometimes we're helping people of lesser means so whatever you feel called to do donate in the blue bag for foremost but the wicker baskets are also available so please take your love offering and hold it to your heart just a breath or two of Consciousness what did you learn gain today how are you going to be different appreciation who you said goodbye to who you gave love to ah just wow yes yes yes together please Divine love flowing
through me blesses and multiplies all that I am all that I have all that I give and all that I receive and so it is thank you it'll take just a minute or two and we'll do our closing prayer while they're passing those around remember if somebody's interested in having a private session with me you can contact the office and we can arrange that if any time during the week are struggling you can call here and ask for the chaplains and they'll work with you during the week but we also have a
chaplain prayer circle after Services if you're interested we want to thank everybody on social media who does sharing and whatever other terms there is to pass the word remember sure use your intuition and share what I do what we're sharing here share it with people you feel are kind of ready for that don't just blast it out to all your relatives into it the right people to share this kind of thing with because this is unique what we do you know we're really really focused on awakening the Divine
and bringing that into the Earth plane remember continue arriving on time a little early in fact 10 minutes before the hour is best even though the people online it starts on the hour here we have our local announcements and we also have our group song so whatever song selected or if we have a musician they play us on so try to arrive early if you can um and um it's time for this today is the first day of the month so this is the day I set aside and I do every hour for 12 hours prayer vigil with people anybody can join I'll do the we've done
the first two hours here already our opening prayer Our closing prayer and then I'll do another at uh noon but then the rest of the hours of the day till into the evening every hour I'll sign on Zoom you can join us and participate it'll be some prayer and a few minutes of teaching or dialogue and then we move on to the next hour it's a great thing to set one day a month aside for God for Union for connection helping to disperse the heavy stuff this planet carries and also to enhance our connection with spirit so that's the
first Sunday of every month next Sunday April 9th is we're having back John Demas Nina Star song Alexander presenting mystical sound codes activation this special event will be a Sonic Soul baptism to be the in the Heavenly frequencies so join it join us if you can there's flyers in the foyer about it and it's posted on our website and our e-blast that goes out we'll also tell you and we changed our e-blast a bit please be kind and when you see your monthly e-blast um we wanted to lessen the quantity of
stuff in there so it's basically announcements only you click on it to read the more text about those events and lastly the weekend of April 14th through 16th Bill Foss will be back sharing a transformational three-day Workshop Journey To The Acacia records so that Workshop he's he's quite renowned for his work with accessing and working with the acacia records okay so we encourage you to to do that thanks for your patience as well my voice I try to keep it at a certain tone so that I can still speak but as you can
see if I go to accentuate it's so great I become like Donny Osmond or something anyway March from The Simpsons thank you let me I'm gonna go do some tracking on that that's that's a first Michael your teachings are like Yogananda Michael you sound like Marge from The Simpsons thank you it did have that tone didn't it didn't it please stand for our closing song oh can anyone share what you heard felt experienced in the meditation or in the talk what can make a difference in your life what did you hear that was
valuable might make a difference in your life or the life of the people around you yes instead of a doormat a matador get rid of the bull the reminder that we can always pray for people even if we can't get through to them or try if something's going on like you know a friend of mine I'm talking about and it's just like you know just send the prayers just send the love send the prayers and Trust right trust the prayers work I mean when we give up on people all the work you've done to try to help somebody
support somebody whatever it is all the work you've done and you can sort of give up don't forget you forgot the most helpful thing of all God you know bring the affirmation that people are fine even when they don't want to be you're fine I'm holding a an Immaculate pure image of you at the other end of this remember when Jesus said you're going to betray me you're going to deny me his Apostles are like no way remember his response it's okay you're going to do these things but I'm already holding a vision of you
at the other end you're going to betray me you're going to feel guilty and ashamed you're going to even want to kill yourself over it as one Apostle did you're gonna you're gonna go through all that and yet he says but I'm already holding an image of you at the other end you're going through a divorce you're going through a death your grieving process remember Christ God and some of us are saying to you we're already holding an image of you at the other end of that so that's a true stance a statement an
example of patience patience of the Saints it's called and what that means isn't that I'm so patient with messed up people it means I'm so patient that I'm looking forward to the day you reach the real you and I'm holding that that's where you're going yes um one of my favorite words is intimacy intimacy and it's my way of bridging with other people and to me right right intimacy and the word intimacy coming from intimate an end-time mate friend not partner lover it mate so when I'm being intimate I'm choosing
to hold you as an end time a mate a friend in time we're on an airplane we're at a bus stop we're in the store I hear you I understand how can I help that pulled you into an end time mate relationship or a holy relationship yes right very good recognizing the difference between rescuing versus true empathy yeah right on thank you so you don't end up rescuer and burned out exactly yes validate that people are hurting but don't validate the ego that wants them to stay hurting right yes thank you I asked Michael to talk about
Palm Sunday when he said and you did what you said was reach out your palms oh that's right isn't that a beautiful way it's not about the trees thank you thank you yes expressing gratitude for being here thank you thank you I appreciate it isn't it I mean isn't it something right this Vibe the people and right and I think that's important to remember um I'm doing talks and I'm standing here and I'm wonderful but but someone comes in they do not come in and stand there and go he's amazing and
as though the crowd is like doll you acknowledge that you feel something here and it's it's the intention of all of us even someone who's just stepping in for the first time they're adding somehow to this I wonder what this is about the word Wonder I wonder the wondrousness of the intention of the this kind of group and more of these could be used all over the planet wherever you are a last couple people yes [Music] if you're not changing when you experience these things something's wrong and it's within you
listen I mean listen and and what did I hear today that could make a difference in my life how can I bring that to others not in a preachy way but just how can it make it if all you heard was well he said something about I I disagreed with everything he said except that thing about holding a vision of people at the other end of their tests that'll make a difference in everybody's life just if all you got was one thing but you have to own that you got it and that you're going to practice it which means you're different
some people will brush off that they're different for some reason it's a form of denial of positive change why let's go for it a last person or two yes yes my sister and I is that we should listen to the children yes yes the importance of listening and to to the children and I'm going to say it this way too listen to the child within everyone the person can be a hundred like the lady I use that example I shared that story that was a girl who had been hurt in so many different ways so many different ways and she
outed all of it to me and she never told anybody any of it ever you know and I knew her enough got to know enough to to know that that was true listen to the child the children but the child within us you know no matter who I don't care don't rule anybody out of being worthy to be heard other than the ego that it's never enough say no and then you're giving the soul of the person the opportunity to say you've shut down my ego I think I like that I like that you shut down and go with you somewhere new because you're not going
to be able to bargain with the ego all you can do is teach the person how to say no to their ego one last one did you have your hand up yes always wanting maybe subconsciously that bridge right yeah bridging guys bridging yes and practice it right during the week right and can you imagine to live to hurt all that pain yeah yeah to have lived so long and carried so much hurt people people deserve to be heard and and the question is do I have the courage to listen because when I brush you off it shows where I'm at it shows my level of
consciousness when I shut you down or you know and and I want to look at that and say at the end of the day I didn't shut down it shows at the end of the day I'm still open so I'm great it shows my status my state of mind is beautiful Grand I was able to listen to where people were coming from and and know you know when it's from the ego and not but what you shared were a few things and thank you very very beautiful what was the first part of what you said to take it with you thank you so how do you
yes to a toxic world yes and again validation watch some of you are just attending which means well that was nice and you and not no change no difference you just attended something and you're allowed I'm validating you're allowed to just attend but I'm holding an image of you at a point where you don't just attend but you decide I'm not just an attendee I'm a light worker and a light worker is always holding up a candle being lit by others or lighting others always working it always I I will not be asleep today what
can I learn what can I hear and I'm on airplanes in those days of touring always always integrating I mean everything everything I would look out and see something in the cosmos happening in the stars and it would download something to me I can shut down and go you know uh no there's nothing to learn ever from anyone and and then I have the consciousness of a brick I could also be one that goes wow the wondrousness of child mind wow look at the rainbow and then downloads colors people variations all working for the gold at the end of the
rainbow it becomes a story to tell now I get somewhere and I arrive hi let's talk about rainbows and pots of gold because I saw something when I was flying you see it's just so beautiful stay open and a Channel of what is here God rather than just hurt pain and staying stuck our closing prayer tuning in for a moment how do we take this with us we choose to it's all you just decide to and if you just ask yourself one question what did I gain today you're already halfway there you're already because you asked
your Consciousness what did I gain there's an answer now you're different don't sit with your mind shut open what did I gain and sometimes just say all that I gained without knowing details all that I gained and I know I have I joyously affirm gratitude for everyone and everything shared here today the light of God surrounds us the love of God unfolds us the power of God protects us and the presence of God watches over us wherever we go God is I am we are and so it is God bless you all peace be with
you we'll see you