The Bridge to Healing

have these ideas about soul growth I mean there's all kinds of people doing you know coming out and finding themselves doing yoga or entering the health field deciding to get a go to a counselor for the first time people that are deciding to bring their relationship to a new place and so on in other words people are consistently trying to change their life and it's happening more now in individuals and groups than any time in history on our planet and it's happening more instead of when once upon

a time in various cultures where we had a leader kind of telling folks lots of individuals are experiencing it individually if they're experiencing it in their own heart and soul and there's no better place than individually so to speak there's something about groups experiencing such a thing but our individual changes are really the most important and that's why we're entering an age the Aquarian age where individuals are all supposed to be waking up it's kind of a paradox because the Aquarian age is about

humanitarianism or humanity as a whole but it's also about the individuals and it is about awakening the heart center so the heart and soul so I want to say this some of us can be talking about venturing out and doing counseling some of us could be and I'm keeping it in the context of personal growth okay so we have different ways of experiencing personal growth and some of us choose more than one way it's you know kind of a few things going on at once but it could be spiritual studies it could be a

study group it could be going to seminars conferences workshops intensives online courses and so on whatever these things are there's something that has to happen before a person ascends wreathes reaches higher consciousness reaches out for a counselor has great epiphanies in their in their joan journal work and so on will relatively stay the same if something is missing and the thing you know we can dispute it and philosophize it but it's the simplest thing and people forget it it's the word safety if

people do not feel safe they are not coming out it's as simple as that some of you have heard me share this and talked about this before but you know you can you can say I wish my children would do this I wish my partner would do that I wish I had done this sooner but the bottom line is unless people feel safe they will not come out now I call that the bridge to safety like for a person to get from one side of a bridge to the other there's a couple of stages they have to go through and you know over here let's pretend for

a moment this is wounded this is stuck this is anything inhibited is shy and anything you want to call it living in the past anything of the old is over here on this side of the bridge we want to get to this side of the bridge whether that to you is complete attainment of oneness with God or it's just getting to your first 12-step group whatever it is we need to get from here to here how we going to get there and in any one little choice or big choice there are in a sense a couple of stages but there's one theme safety the stages

are this a person has to feel before they can get to the pivotal point right in the middle of that bridge they have to get to a point of first they have to feel control like they are in control that's why counselors will say you know it's up to you if you're not ready to talk about that we won't talk about that yet the downside is there's something called negative control where the counselors will never get you to talk about that see that's a problem because then we're leaving you stuck it's so tricky because

you have to feel like you're in control or you won't move on the bridge at all so at some point there's a shift we have to have where we say yes thank you for allowing me to feel like I am in control to some degree even God needs you to feel safe before it can intervene in your life believe it or not the way of course in miracles' puts it is that the Spirit of God will not really come to you work with you answer prayers do anything for you if it will induce fear which is the opposite of safety so

if we're healers if we're parents if we're partners any role teachers counselors any role we play it's up to us to help our clients partners friends whatever they are children to feel safe but how do we help them feel safe and in control but not in able to control to where it becomes negative control you have to watch for that and I don't believe this is discussed enough shared enough understood enough in the healing field because people don't know you know most teachers counselors therapists

healers doctors and so on what they will do is typically almost legally they have to let you feel in control but to a fault so there's a point where the counselors need to say yes it's up to you yes it's up to you so that you feel like you're in control on this side of the bridge but there is a point where they need to say we will not get to your healing completely if you don't eventually let go of control and the next side of the bridge is called trust they're somewhat mutually exclusive in a

way you being in control will always be there if you're a counselor you always let your client have some say you know the say the bottom line we even with a partner disclosing stuff to each other ultimately you always want to let them have that the bottom line is you're in control sweetheart here you know you're talking to them you know if there's a point where something gets too uncomfortable we can stop or take a break or whatever that way they feel okay you know there's a certain amount

of control but we also need to be a little risque and get to that other side of the bridge so even though they're having control we want to also induce a little bit of feeling of I'm gonna let go of control and trust again you know it's one of those concepts that that sounds parent it is kind of a paradox but it sounds contradictory and it isn't it just that both have to be there but one you know more or less gives way to the other always in control because you have free will that cannot change

nothing on earth will change that but at some point can you let go of the fear control and shift it into trust and still have a certain control inside you know and even when people are doing drugs there's a saying you know you remain the witness you know if a person's doing an acid trip they sometimes have bad trips and that sort of thing well people that have done that and tried to make that a journey of some kind which isn't really a healthy thing to do but they've tried to explain one of the dangers when you're doing that is

when you lose sight of yourself so there's a certain amount of again control if you feel like you're losing control that's when you most likely will experience bad trips of on any particular drug hallucinogenic or whatever it could happen more likely but it's the same in life in life we have to feel like we have a certain amount of controller we will not come out so it's like saying I've done exercises with people and I've shared this in openly in workshops and such but I've done

exercises where I will say to people think about your absolute biggest secret in the world shame or whatever it is now are you willing to just turn and tell somebody that a stranger or a friend and almost never will them they're like well obviously know where I would have okay then don't how about we do this can you write it down hmm okay now watch what's happening can you write it down they go from no to as long as I'm in control and I'm writing it's my paper and I can throw it away

sure so now they're in control but they're coming out because they're writing writing writing it down now they get to here now we're not going to ask them per se to just now hand that to someone else to let the person read it but here's an exercise I've done I'd like you to hand the piece of paper to another person no way and they want to run way back here no no wait we're gonna hand it to the other person but flip it over and let them just look at the back of the piece of paper it sounds kind of

harmless to an average person it's like well big deal it's a piece of paper they're not really reading it you'd be surprised at what happens inside you when you're putting your life on the line like that you shaking and starting to worry and and get you know all reactive I've seen people get very reactive to shouting when it comes to the idea of handing that piece of paper but what happens is they're not going to read it trust the other side of the bridge trust that they will not read it

at the same time when we trust there's always a slight chance someone could or accidentally does read it and you have to ask yourself is something so horrible about me that that it that I will be destroyed by this and I have heard and seen every imaginable thing you can oh my god you you know it just would would Blom some minds away and it isn't it is never so bad so horrible mankind has done some major atrocities yes but even if a person who's done major atrocities came to me for a session and I've had some of those the

very idea that they're coming for help automatically helps prevent me from even going into being tempted to judge them for it so just consider that you know the things you've done or others have done are sometimes horrible but they're never ever beyond our ability to handle it they are not they can feel like it a feeling is a feeling it's just a feeling doesn't mean it's factual or definite it doesn't mean it's permanent it's how you feel at the time but we can get past it

so understand that no matter what you do healing self-help ascension I'm going to ascend I'm going to move into higher dimensions I can't wait to become an ascended master I want to move into fifth dimensional consciousness I'm waiting for a planet Earth to move into a new paradigm all these fancy things and remember none of them none of them can happen when a person or group is not feeling safe enough to do so you will not even come out of this stuck spot without feeling like you're in control

so to some degree allow yourself and others to feel like they're in a bit of control and then at some point we tip the scale over to trust which is beautiful if ever you or someone you're working with starts to exhibit signs of negative control you can tell and there's ways to tell and it's generally simple it's that it looks like they're coming out and then they don't they come out they don't they come out they don't there's a lack of progress they might feign a certain amount they might

portray that there's an amount of coming out but then they don't an example would be and there's really vast varieties of examples but let's say you have a partner that says okay I'm willing to heal you're right I'm an addict of some kind and and you're calling me on it and and I'm going to change my ways and then they don't and another warning and they don't and another warning and they don't you see they're pretending that they're going to go up to the top and go over

that final that peak that hump down into trusting and get into a 12-step group but they never do or if they do they never stay this in this example let's say they don't do it then you have to say oh my goodness I got hooked into negative control and whenever we get hooked into negative control we don't have to hate them it means a there that afraid be there that stuck right but also we have to look at something within ourselves how did I get hooked why did I not see it so easily or why did I let it keep happening usually

it's because we have such an agenda to see them heal you know like I need them to help because it's it's my husband is my child I don't want this to fail so I'm I'm hanging in there with him but really we're doing it for our image or for our desire to have it fixed or whatever so it's a very tricky thing but that's why often with partners and children and all that hand them to counselors and let them go through that idea with them that that model sadly a lot of healers and models don't even

know I'm sorry a lot of healers and doctors and therapists and counselors don't even know that model so bring it to them teach it to them say look here's where I here's where I want to go I want to go from here to here this point to this point and I believe there's a bridge the bridge is the bridge of safety the first half of it is controlled the person has to feel a bit of an in control so I'm giving you my child I don't mind if they need to hedge a little and play games a little bit but at some point please help

them to surrender and let go and start talking about what happened to them when they were young or whatever it was to talk about their their real feelings towards their dad or their mom or their partners or whom whatever the context might be so and we have to watch ourselves when we're doing that yeah I'm definitely going to make some changes I'm definitely going to make some changes but we never do but I'm the one who gets to decide when yeah that you you are but you're never doing it so at

some point try just get over to the side of surrender trust now if you can't or you see there's an inhibition or someone else is having an inhibition then it's time to ask why why am I not getting to that ultimate like free fall the trust you know and typically that's unhealed wounds and you know bring those to the bridge of surrender the bridge of safety and the bridge of healing you know the bridge to healing it's all involving safety people aren't safe enough they're not going anywhere

if people don't feel safe enough they're not walking into heaven if they don't I mean seriously you know if they don't feel safe enough they're not ascending everything needs us to feel safe and in a way you know knowing that secret has has been really pivotal for me as a person as a healer as a partner anything I've been or even as a dad you know when I've had young children especially if I see an inhibition on their part to have shared when they were little and this and that I remembered the model I always remember

the model that came to me in kind of a vision and I just remember instead of intellectualizing or thinking things through or trying to navigate conversations I just went wait safety how do I make them feel safe right now and you could say that love is how people most will feel safe but love can seem abstract for some people and sometimes they can't get the romantic notion out of their head so safety has its it is synonymous with love but safety has its own interpretation in our minds it's really good and healthy to

access that interpretation because I could say to you do you feel loved you can say yeah do you feel safe well maybe not you know and that's because it's got a different connotation so it's worth it's worth contemplating it's worth working on and it's worth thinking in our own minds you know our own selves Souls do you have issues that keep recurring try this out think about an issue that keeps recurring if you were talking to Jesus himself and you said god I've got this you know issue that

keeps recurring and I don't know why I'm telling you that one of the things he might ask you would probably ask you is why don't you feel safe letting it go you know why do you keep thinking about it well because of this and this and this and this he would put it in terms of saying if you felt safer you would let it go for example some people say I don't want to forgive somebody because it feels like I'm letting them off the hook what that means is you're afraid that if they're allowed off the hook

something will happen which means you don't feel safe I'm afraid of tomorrow you know I'm afraid of trusting financially which means you don't feel safe see there's all kinds of issues that we have or struggle with and ultimately it's about a lack of safety which means a lack of love which means a lack of forgiveness forgiveness restores the love and then will feel safe but safety in itself is a great concept to work on how can I feel safe right now you're asking me a question you're asking me to

divulge something but it's too risky I'm too scared how could I do it and still feel safe write it and burn it you did it and you realize wow that wasn't so bad next you'll realize I can probably tell a trusted confidant a counselor let's say and that wasn't so bad then I come out and I tell a friend a friend you know best friend or whatever and then maybe two friends three friends and pretty soon I've decompressed some of the charge some of the intense energy behind it which means I have learned to feel safe

around that topic which means I have moved across the bridge to healing that's how to know viscerally am i there all you have to do is gauge how safe you feel so you know think about it it's quite quite beautiful really really so on another note we can look at this and think you know I tell you you know all of us have had times where you say well I did I told a counselor and then I trusted and I told a friend but then my friend betrayed me and now I don't trust again that will happen it's gonna happen

once every so many people ratio-wise for some of us it could be four out of five that turn on us for others it'll be one edified depending on what depending on the lessons the more afraid I am to trust the more likely I'll manifest some little snags some little glitches and that's the egos way of saying see I told you you shouldn't have trusted you started going over that bridge and then it turns out the bridge got wobbly and you shouldn't have trusted you know it's gonna happen the exercises you see in

some seminars where people do the falling back exercise and people catch them there is a chance that they'll accidentally drop you there is a chance it's knowing that there's a chants and saying I don't care and doing it anyway that is the most profound piece of the whole trust exercise if there was no risk at all of that then there's not really a testing is there I mean there's not a testing it's like saying well why even do the exercise because I know they'll catch me but then

you didn't do it is that bad well no but guess what now it's not visceral you didn't actually get it in the cells of your being I'm gonna get up there even at the risk of them dropping me I'm gonna fall and trust and there's this an amazing metaphor of God being there for us and when we succeed it becomes the if you really do it well you know meaning with full consciousness you just start to process this whole Wow you know all my thoughts that they might trust me and there was only a slight chance of it and

they didn't drop me you know all the all the odds that they might drop me and they didn't so this is kind of cool I trusted them and it all worked out and this is something we have to learn viscerally and I've applied this in you know counseling that's one reason why I say in my counseling and other people what that I advise for counseling is when you're working with somebody and they tell you something really sometimes hard or yucky even they're trusting us to hold space for them and if we react

and we shame them we react we scare them we react in any way shape or form I mean and I've seen really long-term you counsellors of twenty years really blow it and say some things you know because they get their own buttons pushed and all that what's important is to own it I've seen some of them to counselors really wonderful Souls that when they get triggered they go wow that's that's really hitting some of my stuff I mean god that's so cool that is so brilliant when someone can be that real whether

it's a teacher minister or whatever they are I just think any human being that can do that in the right way in time so do consider this consider your safety levels where you know are you are you cost crossing the bridge if not just ask yourself am I feeling enough that I'm in control if you're not that's why you don't feel safe to come out so double-check its safety is the one thing but but the first half of the bridge is control so ask am I not feeling enough in control why am I not going to a

12-step group first is there a possibility I don't feel enough control well yeah cause if I go I'm gonna be sitting in there once they shut the door I'm stuck well no you could ask before you go could I step out if I need to see that's what I mean crew induced create a sense of control controlled environment to where there's no believe it or not forgive the term but there's no excuses to not keep moving up and over the bridge and at some point oh I got it thank you folks for helping me feel like

I have enough control of the situation now I'm gonna surrender today I may not be sharing than disclosing who I am in my background I'll say I'll pass pass pass today my name is and here's where I come from and I'm trusting it's fantastic you know and not everybody gets this process or understands the the value of it not everybody understands that they're participating in this process but they are and and and you will know because we just talked about it so please carry this with you and

share it with people I don't draw these things and copyright these things they come to me I don't know maybe I'm supposed to do that sort of thing I don't know but you know I mean I don't know that's not my thing so just share it freely you know it's the the the bridge of healing and the theme is safety control trust but the theme is safety nobody gets from stuck broken hurt to healed without feeling that sense of safety and and I've practiced this like I said in sessions even if it's body

work you know that sort of thing and and times I even go to to a place I felt it's important at times to really go to an edge with people you know because there's there's such an intense value in bringing the the body right to that place of of trust you know where you believe your your here's all this fear all this trauma all this stuff is up and yet the same things don't happen meaning the same traumas from the past the way I've said this in the past some of you guys know is to heal something

you sort of have to return to the edge where you once were pushed off but this time you fly there's a huge difference it's very very similar you're still brought to the edge but this time treated differently once you're there so that's why sometimes when I've seen people who have been you know say raped God most counselors think oh my god you know that's it that person is dangerous they're they're damaged goods they've been raped that means they have hurt inside I have to be careful

don't don't touch them don't hug them when they arrive because everything can meet misconstrued that's true you know and and it's such a drag because those things happen and it scares the healers out of being healers and the Healy's out of healing so everybody stays kind of stuck my work when in the past now I've more or less somewhat retired from doing some some things in my life because of time and all kinds of reasons but my work in the past would be if somebody has been attacked like that physically I

would be the type of person to get with them physically and wrestle with them and have them get some of the rage out I wouldn't wrestle with them in a form of hurting them but wrestle with them and let them feel a body so they can you know get that energy out the way some recovery groups are some groups healing groups do they put a man in a padded outfit a padded suit and let women beat on the guy with plastic bats and so forth it's it doesn't hurt him at all in any way shape or form but then why did

they do it because it's visceral it lets that Oh god it's a male it's a big body and I get to say no and take the power back which means what control then trust the guy gets out of that suit comes to say goodbye you know to the the group of ladies who have in this kind of a group and they can hug and they can cry and now they're trusting it's just it's so beautiful I can't even you know put put words to it perfect words to it it's so beautiful however with it also comes all kinds of

scary stuff and creepy stuff because it brings energy up it brings the past up it brings up hurt so that's why I've tried to teach workshops on these things so people can learn how and not have me in the position to to always do that kind of work as it gets it gets dangerous gets confused there's this guy teaching about Christ consciousness and then puts on a padded suit and lets women beat on them you know that could kind of okay you know that's kind of different isn't it you don't see a lot of televangelists doing

that sort of thing or you know spiritual leaders and teachers so but I I just felt if I may share I just felt that wounds human wounds and and traumas are not unlike Hell itself that is what hell is and in in mythology hell is always thought to be this underworld of caverns and an endless number of levels and layers and so on and so on and so on like Dante described right but if that's the way the human psyche is then think about all that how all that darkness if you ever saw the movie what dreams may come Robin Williams

plays a character whose wife ends up in hell for whatever reason and he has to decide to go in and find her out of love to go help her and you know the warnings from the guides are saying nobody goes into hell and can make it back out because once you're in there you get stuck because of the very consciousness of the place the density that the pain and the heart but he's determined and he you know he goes in and does what he needs to do to try to access the mind of his wife who's in a particular part of Hell and I'm saying

to us all you are when you're trying to help somebody on an issue you are in effect symbolically entering a certain amount of Hell with them and to some degree if we stay too sterile way over here saying you know whistle hey come out of hell and come over here it really doesn't work that well we have to remain in our Center yes but not sterile over here where we do not understand what's happened to the person and just tell them that well that's your problem let me let me medicate that for you let me

lecture you about that we have to I believe we have to relate to them the lost books of the Bible describes Jesus as you probably have heard he dies on the cross he's gone for three days and then he ascends you know resurrection in the tomb but where is he for those three days well the lost books of the Bible some lost books described him going he descends into hell which means he goes into the darkest parts of human consciousness and opens all the doors for people to come out which is he opens the door and says there's a bridge to

healing would you like to come over with me they don't have to but they have the right to and it's a amazing metaphor if you think about it well any of us that are healers are doing just that we're we're offering a hand and saying would you like to step over this bridge with me and some people will some people won't some people will look like they're going to but it's negative control and other people will look like they are but then they get scared and they don't know what to do and then they might accuse

you you know you might be a an acupuncturist and you know they might say you know that you weren't using the needles properly you know you weren't using the five-element the system and you know they might find little flaws in what you're doing or you know if you're doing body work they can say oh you know your hands stroked to my ribbed is it too close to the breast and that sort of thing all these kinds of things that can happen to these various professionals doctors of course and there are people that are not healthy

and they're not being nice and clean and professional of course but counsellors and so forth there they really are at high risk so they tend to stay sterile back here for their own sense of safety which safety is important but I'm I'm saying to you I really believe that the deepest healing goes from when we are capable of reaching into the darkest parts of hell of people and there's some of us that go into the darkest parts and get lost in there like that happens to a lot of social workers who heart whose

hearts get broken because they're trying so hard to go into hell with people literally homes that look like hell lifestyles and Relations and units that just feel like hell but they're not allowed to do anything they're not their hands are tied so much that they can't navigate and then they get caught themselves and the depressions and so on of that world it's just an example and the same goes for you know even a parent trying to struggle with their kids and raise their kids and their kids are

getting lost in the world of sibling rivalry drugs and whatever and you you don't know how to get them out of that you can get caught in the hell with them just by overly sympathizing and getting depressed about it so by the same token try it I hope this is making sense because I'm sharing something that I think is very personal but also very deep so I always had this feeling that if not us then who and if not now then when I mean if people are living in hell how do we just leave them stuck in that it's it's through us that God lives and

moves and has its way in this world so I thought you know we have to just do our part so I have always believed in navigating that and and you know essentially you're navigating the dimensions of Hell but it's not a 3-dimensional place so it isn't when you can just steer left here and stare right there and you're you're done it always changes and morphs someone presents certain issues to you you work with them and those issues can change and their beliefs can change even while you're working and then you get

kind of caught with them in some ways but I do believe that when we can do our best to stay in center with God because you try to do this on your own and you're just screwed basically you know of myself I am nothing so we have to stay centered in God yet how far can I go in and navigate that other world you know it can I stay tethered to God and go in and navigate let's say counseling some people with financial issues sure then navigate with some child abuse stuff that gets really a rollercoaster ride man that's really

wicked stuff sexual abuse and so on it just gets even weirder and weirder so for me I have sometimes felt so God so grateful that for whatever reason I would at times go to those places with people and say talk about it you know are you mad they can't wrestle with me and do things like that just just as a simple example so I've shared this one many times I remember one woman that had all this shame about her body but for some reason she thought this is about 15 years ago maybe close to 20 now for some

reason she thought gee no because she's coming for a healing session and she was used to healing having to do with maybe being disrobed so she comes in for a healing session and I left her in the room I said okay I'll be back in a second came back and she was on them like a massage table and covered but disrobed and it was like oh so I'm looking at this thinking that's you know that's what a lot of people do anyway that's what they need if they need bodywork massage that sort of thing I

just don't typically do that so but I can so I'm like okay so I'm saying how are you feeling she said well I heard that you do bodywork at times and so I'm here for that so I'm prepared for it I said well how are you feeling about it terrified okay why now notice what I'm doing by already starting a conversation about how you're feeling the feelings start coming out so she starts shaking more with that comes Shane with that comes memories of why she feels ashamed of being naked and

all that sort of thing again she's covered and then I so I let her process that enough then I put my hands under the blanket like this and I said okay now I'm going to take the blanket off slowly but I'm gonna take it off and I want you to describe how you feel so I removed the blanket and she's describing because I say now I want you to be aware that I'm looking at you I can see you and so she's describing you're looking at my body and you can see me and this part in that part and so on and so on

everything from from the sexy parts to the fat or whatever the heck she's embarrassed about whatever it is all the insecurities everything whatever it is she's describing all that she's crying and processing and then at some point I said okay now cuz her eyes were closed now open your eyes she opens her eyes and she realizes I actually only lifted the blanket a couple of inches off her body so the whole time she thought she was fully exposed and I couldn't see anything at all so what she was processing was all

in her head she's thinking you're looking at this I know you're probably looking at that and see nothing's really happening it's all in her mind and that's a type of thing that I have done many times far more engaging Lee and and far more you know far less engaging but things like that I developed all kinds of things like that to to get people right to that edge if a person is used to doing a certain thing being ashamed or having not wanting a certain part of their body touched then I would do a

process with them getting used to that part part being touched or look at or whatever it happens to be doing things that were not invasive per se Orin certainly not intended to be invasive but things that get to that edge to where they can say now can you reprogram how you were doing this before you know I've I mean I've had just so many different hundreds and even thousands and thousands and thousands of sessions with different variations of issues but a portion of them are related to abuse and it's not my style just to

only talk about the abuse I might talk about it but we might then I might ask more questions to bring it up viscerally what's going on how did that make you feel so on and so that's the very minimum but some people when it was really stuck especially in past years in my work when it was really really stuck it's like look you know what enough of this let's move it let's move the energy some take your fist and pound on my chest let's go let's let's move the energy and do something that's very

unconventional for the typical counselors out there so think about as bizarre and to the edge this stuff was it still has to stay in the model of their ultimately in control like the gal who thought if I remove the blanket well even that one I still told her at any moment you can say no to something and then it's no and even when I taught sacred sexuality it's the same principle which is if you're going to say yes to someone or like a lover or partner or whatever if you're gonna say yes you need to know why you're saying yes but

you first need to know how to say no how to say no meaning control first how to say no then learn how and why you would say yes which is when you trust you know and I just thought always that that it's it's a dance that it's hard to put into words whether it's somebody sharing just a verbal wound about something in their history or whether it's something visceral like sexual abuses all of these have always been the same to me it's the same bridge that we have to get across it's the same it almost like a sense of

all that I felt in seeing people being courageous enough to make those changes in their life or times what I've decided to do that and you know and I've said you know okay I'm seeing an inhibition here so I'm gonna trust and just share this and you know I share and often it worked and often it didn't you know somebody would maybe betray the trust I gave them and all that and I have to still just work on forgiving that - don't let people's betrayal of the trust cause you to jump back because that'll be an excuse try to

stay at least here midpoint and say okay I trusted they burned me I'll just come back to here for a moment where I can feel a little my own sense of control and rethink what I'm doing don't don't fall all the way back and as I close now I would like us all to to think about this think about saying to people in the world that we've known children clients healers friends whatever to all the people in our lives and the context is safety today which is you know related to trust as well to all the people if

anyone out there has ever made me feel safe and helped me to trust more god bless you thank you so much from my heart if I forgot to say thank you it-it-it words can't even describe it try to feel my gratitude to the end of time and beyond I am so grateful for anybody that's ever made me feel safe it trusting because that helped me open up and heal and I have no I choose no reservations about it no excuses no qualms nothing thank you just pure gratitude and breathe that in for a moment and by the same token if I have ever let

anyone down say to anybody that comes to mind and or to all people you know that we say by name or or or group family members partners if anybody has ever felt a lack of safety or if I have betrayed the safety I am sorry and I love you please forgive me and thank you really really accept that say it to all people if I've ever done anything like that that is not who I really am and I would never do that to you the real you and let that be we're saying to all people not only if I've ever done but even remember sometimes people feel like

you've done it even if you have it and don't defend that let's not defend that let's just say if there's anyone who ever even felt thought that they were betrayed or couldn't totally feel safe with us whether it's they thought we betrayed them in some way or just didn't feel safe enough to come out if you've had a wife a husband a partner a child that didn't speak everything they could have if I in any way made you feel unsafe to not speak I'm not going to take on the

burden to blame per se but if I didn't create a sense of safety I'm sorry please forgive me I love you that's the truth of Who I am I love you and thank you and allow that to happen moms dads children partners whomever clients if ever I could have done something different to make you feel safer to come out and to trust more and to experience more healing Wow I would not want to believe that I let you down in any way please forgive me and let's drop that let's let that go so that now you can whoever

those people are they can energetically move to that next level just by are mentally energetically releasing all that because the real part of us the real us would never want to inhibit anybody's ability to heal which also means to feel in control and to trust the real us would never want to do that I don't care you know we've might have slipped we might have had selfish moments we might have had ignorant moments and we might have just slipped here and there even with good intentions none of that matters all that matters is

if it ever happened we own it we surrender it we replace it with something new what we will choose and choose will will meaning will power what we will and choose is that we all feel safe I would not choose to be unsafe again I would not choose to have anyone else feel unsafe with me it's not the real world so that's not my choice so I surrender all else and instead I choose to do my best to become the presence of God on earth which means a safe place to hear you you know to see you to feel who you are and let you be that person the

real you if at any moment I start to let you down we're saying to all people I pray that you find a way to feel safe enough to at least convey it to me and also I say to myself if at any time I have not chosen to feel safe enough to come out that's because I was afraid I understand why I was afraid inhibitions wounds and so on but that's not who I am today it's not who I'm choosing to be today so I'm going to be determined to come out a little bit more and more and I'll do my best to choose healthy people like

counselors and the healthiest of friends to come out to but it is possible that some of them will not handle it well and be end up being a safe place if that's the case I can say to them here's what I was doing I was feeling like I was coming out and it doesn't feel like that was ended that ended up very safe so I am going to sometimes say goodbye to that friend and sometimes just ask can we do that differently next time convey it but speak it don't carry it don't harbor it because you might be bringing

them a major healing as well but if I have ever held back myself say to your own soul god I'm so sorry I love you man I love you I love you as a soul I love myself as a soul I'm so sorry that I would have ever inhibited you that would have meant that that I chose to let you carry this hurt all these extra years just because I didn't know how to navigate us into a safe place arena person well I tried and somebody burned us oh there we go back to the head again but we could have found someone safe just keep trying

gently but keep trying there are people and for those that weren't there and didn't feel safe that made me inhibit back to love and forgiving them it's not the real part of them that could have done that it's the ego part so say adios to the ego part of them adios just no need for that anymore and no more reason for me not to come out any of us individually and then give thanks this I'm gonna be born again it's another one of my expressions of being born again I'm gonna come out if all I can do is

come out in my own journal that's where I'll do it someone you know might come over and read my Journal then tear the pages out after you've written them and burn them create no way that the ego can destroy your desire to feel control and Trust meaning safe meaning healing meaning finally love let you know that nothing be left no stone unturned to to allow that that you go to have a foot in the door to screw this up so do something trust someone somewhere and there are counselors and they're licensed and so on to to keep

confidences but but when you talk to one ask hey you know are you progressive I mean or do you just chit chatter or can you help me go into deeper parts of myself you know be responsible and find somebody that can work deeper stuff with you and I just realized who is it I'm talking to I'm talking to people out there that I think know me and go yeah Michael you know you've you've really been there for us and so on and some people are strangers going why is this guy talking to us about all these

personal and vulnerable topics about in ourselves you know who the heck does he think he is I I don't even think of that because I'm Here I am just putting it out there and trusting again and most of you are trustworthy and handle that when I share things like this but there's one in every so many that you get you know angry or whatever you get the bottom line is we just do our best guys we just do our best and we keep bouncing back heeling owning where we go oops you know slipped here and there and when you do

navigate the really really treacherous stuff let's say if a sister confides something in you that's relatively simple that might be no problem if a sister confides something to you that's very very yucky vulnerable stuff it increases the odds by the very fact that there's a tension in her it increases the odds that to some degree you might end up blamed for disclosing it even if you didn't you might end up playing for not hearing it properly not smiling enough not hugging her enough or whatever it's going to be because when

somebody brings to you their stuff they're bringing you hell and hell has you know hath no fury as they say a woman has no fury that old say hell hath no fury when a person is feeling scared they will pour out Pandora's box they will out pour that that all of hell that's that's trapped inside of them on to the person before them so that's why a lot of us don't even like to navigate those places with other human beings because it's just we get so fed up with them so be careful when somebody does

bring you stuff that you can handle it that you can manage it there are certain individuals that might confide something in me and when they do I will say to them if it's certain people in certain circumstances if you share this with me that you know like for example I've had this with a couple of friends and personal friends where if I see there's a little competitive thing going there's a point where I'm not going to do triangulations anymore I'm gonna say wait we'll talk openly and I've done this

once with a group of friends a small group three or four of us and some of them completely bailed never heard from them again because the idea of total disclosure was in itself evidence that things weren't going really well for this person in terms of what they were doing behind the scenes so it's important for us to know where we're at and what we're going to take on how much trauma we want them to share if you're traumatizing you haven't healed a lot you got to be careful and say I need to

share with you here's the line I have to draw so be be careful if you're a parent watch that your children aren't going to divide the two parents with different stories be careful try to align with the other parent if they're healthy then have a healthy alignment and say guys kids you bring us stuff we're aligned and healthy so when you bring us stuff that's where you're bringing it to a healthy you know receptacle you know help the healthy center that's what you'll expect is

healthy responses you know but aligned divided we fall so whatever work you do and whether as a personal friend you know not only come out and learn to trust but try to be the safest place for other people and remember though that you are a safe place but when they bring hell hell have you know wow there's like no no comparison to the fury of hell man when people bring their stuff you have to ask yourself if you're you know if you have what it will take to handle all that might come with that whole process their

hurt their pain and sometimes it's years of that stuff sometimes your gender alone will attract some of those things yet the way you look your haircut all these things will sometimes magnify how much they'll bring on to you so you you know each of us has to decide that just do what you can and understand that how is the world going to heal if not through us it is God that does the work it is God that ultimately is the healing but it's really through us so what what are you willing to do what place are you

willing to set what role are you willing to play and I personally always felt God you know such magnificence when I've been able to navigate really into deep dark places with people down to the physical level because my intentions were just that let's bring healing way down to those dark places and God the amazing miraculous shifts that happen for for most people in that kind of environment but for some you know it's it's you know it's too scary you know and then it gets kind of yucky so you

know we have to each figure out where our boundaries are what our limits are and how much we can do that particular kind of work or what kind of friend we can be to certain kinds of people and guys remember as I close you can say no more in some cases you can retire from some work like I've done in some areas of what might work but even from some friends friendships or family members be a safe place for them don't judge them with they can't be a safe place for you sometimes that's not what they're made

up with you know they're they're not made for that in this lifetime that doesn't mean you toss them not everybody's going to be a safe place but have some safe places they can all be safe places but at least have some of them and I you know I know that in a way that's that what the metaphor of Shambhala is and Camelot is these these symbolic metaphors heaven Eden of the ultimate sign space of safety and you know it is our destiny to experience that so I've always thought God let me do what I can to create that for people

with that comes their stuff but at the same time the beauty of when we can replicate that to the best of our ability and do know that even when you create it even in a person a counselor and so on doesn't mean you'll never find some little flaw some little thing you might not like about that person or that place like Camelot because every one of those stories and metaphors on earthly grounds the story has like a dismantling there's a dissolving that happens in those places which is kind of sad but it shows us

that in every one of our safety nets that we've created there's going to be potentially some thing that's going to make it tempt it to dissolve and I tell you that's one of life's major tests create something good and the stuff of this world is going to try to mess it up and drag it down so that leaves nothing good for me I've had moments where I have felt very much that I've recreated heaven on earth in some regards my place of living my friendships and so on and it's been fantastic but I've watched how

a thing a person a word can come in and try to dissolve the whole thing the temptation is throw it out and just don't trust and that's taking us all the way back to wound it again which is where some of these people go because they can't maintain the the the vision and so it tempts me to do the same thing and then I go well wait I I don't I know better so even if the people fall away or your place of business or whatever it happens to be that you thought was cool and people somehow ruin it or something

ruins it at the end ask yourself when the things go I'm supposed to still be able to maintain the feeling so can I still fill the safety the love the healing on the bridge even if the bridge itself has fallen apart good because it's just a metaphor the bridge could be my friendships it could be my partnership it could be whatever if it goes can I still maintain the love the appreciation and that to me in my opinion is not always an easy thing but it is my destiny your destiny it is our goal so keep that vision

somehow keep your vision your sight on the light at the end of the tunnel or on the other side of the bridge do your work do your work other side of the bridge bridge collapses keep your vision on the other side of the bridge and just keep going not everybody will cross the bridge with you in this day time place and in these bodies but hold it in your vision that they all do spiritually they all do march across with you we're all in this together okay so don't lose faith in others and yourself you might

say no and goodbye but don't lose faith in the souls of you know of those people hope this made sense thank you so much for listening and apply as much as you can of these things this isn't for my amusement that I share these things it's so that I'm hoping that people apply it and it makes a difference in their lives alright peace be with all of you and thanks for listening thanks for watching and hope to see you again peace bye bye