Women: Losing Themselves

Hi there! It's time for our Friday night spiritual insights with Michael Mirdad. Thank you for joining us, either for the first time or once again for those of you who are pretty consistent about watching, and thanks for that. Today we're going to talk about women and how they lose themselves.

This is partly because of a session that I just finished earlier and you know this is a subject that comes up a lot so hang in there because it's a deep topic but a very important topic and of course during this talk we'll clear up some things that are you know a little extreme one direction or another because we like to always bring things back to Center but I want to talk about this the concept of women and losing themselves so to begin with during a session I was doing there was a client who was you know just kind of open to feedback about her life and

so on and and she was sharing about some of the things she had gone through in her life a little bit of embarrassment or a little bit of challenge and so on but without getting into the details one thing that I shared with her that just you know came to me in that moment and it may sound really strange to some people but please bear with me the closest analogy that I could share with you with and in mind you there's different kinds of human beings there's different kind of women and you know you can't just Aereo type anybody really but

in general there are women that have had very wonderful lives empowered lives supportive lives you know and they've had great families and so on of course that exists I'm not talking about that group in particular but even if they've had great lives childhood and so on they might still have challenges later on in life but what I'm leading to is that women the closest analogy you could really share about the life of a woman and and anybody that thinks well Michael is a male how does he know just be quiet and go with this I mean how you know we

don't need to get into judgments about who knows what about women and just go with it just trust because I don't know of anybody you'd be hard-pressed to find some who knows human beings like I do I'm not claiming to be the only one I'm just gonna let you know that I don't know of any counselor that's ever worked with tens of thousands of human beings the average counselor has a roster of a couple dozen people a month they see or so many dozens mine are typically in the hundreds and it's been for you know 30

40 years now so you know just just lay off the immediate reactions those of you who'd be tempted to think you know how who is he to say I'm not even interested in that kind of feedback from anybody just go on to somebody that you know is easier to listen to because I just tend to you know fire away because I tend to really feel confident in what I'm sharing and I'm gonna say this you know women the closest you could say to a woman and the average life of a woman who's been through a lot of stuff is a Vietnam vet for males if you want to

know the life of a lot of women you would have to understand what it was like for a man to be in Vietnam and for a man to understand it would be you know for him to understand what a woman's gone through it would be the same thing so there's a great analogy between a parallel between the two so please understand that and please do your best to relax the the defenses of the mind and the ego and just tune in to this because I know and the reason I'm being kind of firm about this when I say you know back off and on the judgments and

assumptions is because I know it's not easy for me to say these things nor maybe easy for you to hear because it's hard stuff that people have gone through in this life a Vietnam vet and I can't speak as though I'm one but I still understand it and then a Vietnam vet is someone who was a kid a lot of times a kid who was one minute in high school in the next minute he was in a jungle of a country never heard of and asked to kill people and asked to run for his life and watching friends being murdered and that's in any war of course but it was

maybe in some ways easier when you understood they understood who the enemy was you know even that's a strange concept but at least it was clearer a war that they didn't understand it was a lie-in in many regards you know and all that you know it was very hard for their minds and then when they came home whether it was on leave vacation or whether it was from the war you know they were abused spit upon not listened to so the analogy is very very right on they didn't know how to cope with these

things in the war and they coped by doing drugs they coped by dissociating disconnecting becoming bitter becoming confused and so it's very very intense almost surreal in its you know a very description or definition well for women life is often that way and again I'm just gonna you know I just fire away men because that's how it comes to me but I've worked with far more women than most one well women counselors or teachers could ever even imagine for themselves so when someone says you have to be a

woman to understand that no you don't you know you don't have to be anything to understand anything just you could just your consciousness can be open to understanding anything even things that are not of a first-hand nature although that can you know give a certain experience and certain voice or understanding the more we open our consciousness we can understand anything and my work with women throughout my life oh my god man I've seen and heard it all heard it all and you know and so when women have said to me you know

they've become promiscuous or they've become I mean I've met people that have literally said they that they literally never have been sober when having intimacy being intimate or having sex that they've never been with anybody with an ideal or concept of love when they're exchanging so there's a lot of things I've shared and taught and sacred sexuality healing sexual abuse and so on and it's been really sometimes quite a challenge you know of course yeah partly being a male on this topic and and

people being so distrustful so it's it's you know and understandably so because of traumas and abuses so it's been quite surreal and someday I might you know write a story of my life to be explaining a little bit more about these things but the life of a woman man you're talking about a goddess you're talking about a princess and some people don't like those analogies and those are usually bitter people usually women that are very bitter don't like concepts of women being princesses they think of it

somehow has some gross stereotype oh you know stop doing that Disneyland version of a woman but they're saying that because they're better women can be and should be seen and men as princes but women as princesses meaning that you are of a divine origin your father and mother are king queen of the universe the ultimate creators so we are princes and princesses in that sense but also there's just something so sweet about the concept of a young girl who's you know needing to should have been

brought up to be loved and honored I don't mean the kind that's like the the only child syndrome where you're sort of you know overly spoiled or overly you know a little bit a little bit conceited or a little bit I want to be everything to everybody you know you kind of that's a little bit much not that all single you know children are like that soul children are like that but it happens a lot that syndrome so I'm talking about nobody the in the sense of having a feeling of entitlement I'm just talking about a deeper level

and on a deeper level you know girls have such a sweetness and I don't mean they have to be sweet and look a certain way and always be thin and pretty um you know that's we're not talking about that it's it's in the heart I don't care what size the girl is she deserves the same I don't care what color she is they all deserve all children deserve love but they don't all get that and nurturance and they don't all get that in a perfect world and this is not that perfect world but we can do our best to

make it like a perfect world heaven on earth so to speak in a perfect world you know children shouldn't hear and know too much about fear they shouldn't be you know used in divorce settlements they shouldn't be hearing stuff about jealousies and hatreds between parents you know we should really don't have kids first of all don't have kids unless you are healthy enough to treat them healthily right just in case you if you can't bring them up in a healthy environment don't have them and I did my best to

adhere to that rule but even I screwed up a little bit but there's no you know because I wanted it to be perfect and yo man it broke my heart that I couldn't make it even more perfect but I did a pretty good job of it I mean oh my god you know and I'm not just saying today's topic based on what I did for my kids but I really did try that I when I found a way to buy them little um you know cardboard houses you could make or when I could afford more like the the the play school kind of things you can put together little little houses or

make it you know castle like I mean I did those things because I wanted them to feel like they had something backyard that was just a new house cut it was new but look you know cheaper kind of house but it was new in the sense of no yard or anything yet I just I made a yard that was in a sense of fantasy world for them and I think I'm not trying to to say that we need to make a false world overly protective of kids but I think it's great to give them a certain amount of that the love and the fund the playfulness the the

allowance you know but not spoiling but the allowance to just experience whatever they're about art and fun and fantasy and play and so on and a lot of people have not experienced that obviously and so my talk today is not about what children should be treated like but it clothes that because women have a lost princess inside and you know and I've seen the various forms that women have taken meaning the directions they have taken it's really quite sad because it is not it's hard to explain this it

really is but it is not in the woman's nature to be promiscuous it's not in her nature that is a masculine thing the hit and run you know and so when women are told no we're allowed to do that - because we're believing in equality no it's not equality it's just stupid you just don't know your nature you forgot your nature and so you're making excuses and saying well this is called equality we're going to be as stupid as men are and call it equal and forgive my language man but you know it's just so heartbreaking and frustrating to to see

this all the time and I'm fed up with this world and how ridiculous people are they're dumb enough to let people talk him into this you know it's you're a goddess you you deserve the quality you need to have the right to sleep around just like men whoever saying that is simply someone that is totally screwed up their life they're heartbroken over it they've mastered over with some as though they know what they're talking about kind of a demeanor and they know nothing they know nothing until they can talk to your

innocence your sweetness men and women boys and girls but still to that sweetness you know the women have to go back and be able to say you know what whatever you were like when you were five and ten this is barring any abuses at that time whatever you really know in your heart to be an archetype of a woman a girl a goddess a princess something sweet something that knows creativity and goddess and laughter and twirling on your way to you know to the car you know that's just the real stuff you know and the abuses were dumb they were

ridiculous they were hurtful they were selfish they were not okay it was never God's will for any human being to be abused it's really strange as I say these things because I can feel those of you who are watching this already I can already feel the the chills some of you feel in your skin and in your body and the tears I mean I can feel it too but I can feel it in you a couple of you might be irritated at what I'm saying but I I can tell that some of you are like viscerally feeling what I'm saying and it's okay so let's cry

together and let's let's hang in there all right just for a little longer so women are being brainwashed and what's really weird is the irony the sad ridiculous irony that women are being told by other women that the way to be empowered is to do such and such but what they're really saying is the way you need to be empowered and and not be under the thumb of a man is to be like a man that's what they're saying and nobody's calling them on it because if you call them on it they say you're wrong and they say that you know you're

not aware of the goddess energy no they're wrong innocence is right innocence is powerful the strength of this world is a lie it's false all their being is masculine and you know and and I'm able to like shoot it down because I see through it there's not one of you with that kind of lecture speech that would ever get across anything to me you would never convince me of your little game that you're playing you know you're miss directing people you're lying to people because you're broken and you had to become

masculine to survive in this world or with your family or father whatever you're telling other people they have to do it or they're wrong and I'm sitting here saying know your strength is in your innocence why because your true innocence and I don't mean your naivete or vulnerability I don't mean your susceptibility to trauma that that's the ideal you I'm talking about before any trauma ever took place in this or any life there's an innocence where we're connected to God and we are stronger there than any other time and

some people are going to say well no because of my innocence I was abused when I was innocent that didn't protect me god it's really hard to describe guys because the part of you that got abused was not the spiritual you it was the frail fragile human part and the truth is if you would step up and enter your body more and really show up not being half in your body when you showed up not being afraid and so I'm not carrying karma or what all these things that we've got going on those things make us you know basically a food

for you know this food chain the abusers that just makes us susceptible to them so I'm sorry about that but the more we can recognize our innocence and nurture that innocence the better off we're going to be it's next to impossible because because the world doesn't allow it but the more of us that really understand it and nurture that in each other and in ourselves then at least we will turn ourselves around we may not turn the world around starting this second but it'll happen over time but somebody's got to step up

I've done talks where I teach you know people should say no to certain things in this world well this is one of them but it becomes a talk all by itself say no to the hyper feminists and now when I say feminists there's the one version of that one definition of that would be someone that simply believes in the equal rights for women and men you know that's fine I'm not saying anything this problem with that I'm talking about angry women feminists that want to fight and complain about everything that's hyper

feminism just like hyper chauvinism is completely wrong men are better men you know forget all that the the fight the anger already gives them away don't become a student of an angry person a student meaning literally or metaphorically don't become the student the recipient of that stuff step up you know I've seen you know there's a say misery loves company and that's what they're doing they're looking for other people and they're trying to say I need you to be angry like me so that I don't feel so messed up so they're they're

trying to turn you so to speak just like a fundamental Christian wants to convert somebody who's more liberal about their spirituality you know they're gonna shame them and guilt them and it's the same for anything and this is just another version of that so women have gone into a state of shock and you know and then they go into the being abused and then it goes into me too and all these movements and some of its legitimate and some of its not because some of it becomes a bandwagon weird people just I want to just become like

everybody else look you're not going to heal just by joining joining a group or a movement of how to hate another group of people you're you're gonna find that strength when you go back to your innocence and saying wait a minute what I'm gonna do is first of all refuse to hate anybody male or female whatever it happens to be refuse to hate anybody and when I say hate I mean even buying into reasons to be angry and hurtful about things then you're gonna become masculine I don't mean healthy male I mean the hyper masculine that controls

so it's don't become part of the military the world don't become part of the political world I don't mean that just literally I mean don't become hyper masculine because then you're like the very things you didn't like in the first place you there's a saying you become what you hate please don't do that and I know what am I telling you what's the alternative am i telling you just to you know put on little girl dresses and jellies remember those the girls would wear the little clear like plastic shoes you know and the saddle what are they

the saddle leggings you know with a little strap that goes under your feet like little girls used to wear and still do maybe I think you know just to be sweet God you know just to get back to being sweet and playful and you know don't don't drug yourself don't drink yourself you know to death don't don't alter yourself all the time don't sleep around because friends tell you you know when friends say you know you what you need they're saying you know men would say it now women could say why because they're equals equally stupid you know

so they would say you know women with the girlfriends would say you know you need to get laid just respond and say and you need a therapist you know you need to get some help but but girls usually give into it some of them don't but the ones that don't give into it sit around thinking is there something wrong with me no there's nothing wrong with you when you saw through or see through the the advice that comes from hurt there's it's never something wrong with you you just see through it now the hard

part is dealing with peer pressure because they're going to be coaxing you you know come on you got to step up you know you're old don't buy into that old-fashioned crap about women aren't allowed to sleep or the reason women were not allowed to sleep around in the old saying was yeah masculine world was doing this and that and trying to paint a certain picture but it was also because they knew in their nature that it was not appropriate it was not the princess never just sells herself she doesn't bargain she doesn't give

herself away so it's not just trying to comply with male image of women although that's yeah that's there that's a projection of theirs but it's not about that they you're being lied to when you're told to be sweet and innocent for the sake of men I want to I want a virgin you know really finally you know so the men that are looking for that that's not going to happen so women are trying to be that all those years and if the weren't that they were just shamed I mean Scarlet Letter and all it was just

sick the way it was done so you think that doing the opposite was then the answer and no that was the other lie they're both lies one year listen listening to men lie to you about how to be the other is you're listening to masculine women telling you how to be see and it's all a lie somewhere in between your natures there guys girls okay the nature is there in in Tantra in an old tradition a sacred tradition of Tantra sacred sexuality they say women are naturally tantric not men women are naturally tantric because in nature by nature there's not just their souls

their bodies actually know what sacred sexuality is and in that's why a woman's body takes a while to warm up of course you know then plenty of movies came out and plenty of stories and articles and Friends testimonials saying oh I just got into a hot sex thing last night we just humped you know and fast and furious it's nice good for you it's just that a woman's body will actually register that as trauma as a trauma like a rape even though she thinks she's having a great time she's heating up yeah she's getting all

hot and heavy and summer sometimes you know and the thing is it's just contrary to her nature it's a it's contrary to her nature that doesn't mean she's not allowed to get hot and heavy it's just that without love without the heart it's never organic for a woman you know you could say there might be an exception to the rule once in a blue moon but for the most part a woman's body already knows what it needs which is warmed up even porn stars you know and I've worked with

many and interviewed many and over the years way back in late 80s I think it was early 90s I did a lot of work with him and then for several years it was in the leaner with just here and their clients and strippers and you know escorts and over the years and just lots of that and then in the 2000s you know worked with a another group of them and particularly porn stars and the thing is even they say it's all an act ninety something percent of the time what they're pretending on what they're doing like oh oh yeah it's it's just an

act they do know that they say that but they also say one of the things they hate most about the male's that they work with in the industry the industry that's what they call it is men that do not help prepare them first because they're not supposed to prepare it's like ready action just do it and they're not being honored but they're being told you know just hey it's just an act anyway it's pretend you're just being filmed you're faking it you're acting so

get to it those women and every time a woman does something like that when she does a a one-night stand and when she becomes a little promiscuous her body is actually numbing a man's doesn't because his brain is wired in a sense to not care it's the hunt it's the go just like his genitals or external or go they point they go the woman's is welcoming something in well welcoming is not a word that synonymous with many women's experiences anymore instead it's you just do it when a woman says I'm gonna do this to

show my ex-boyfriend you know something or other you know I'm gonna do it to show my my family that I have my own rights or I'm it's to prove to show it has very little to do with love even people that have had decent experiences with first time or sometimes sexual experiences decent experiences sometimes it was still based on a false version of love like I just want to feel loved you know that sort of thing and they gave themselves away there needs to be a correction in mind body and soul and and I would love to

tell you we have to tell the male's to do this differently that's you know I do that I say that but honestly and I know guys are watching so please pay attention to this but it's really gonna be the woman's job and it's a good job it's not a job like I'm dumping it on you I'm saying you have the power to do this men have been far too long programmed from an insensitive place not every man is insensitive of course but there they're just it's such a program such a long-term program it's going to be easier for women just to say you know

don't even think about it in Tantra there's they call it the gates the upper gate the lower gate and the upper gate is here the lower gate the genitals and the upper gate needs to be knocked on before it opens knock tennis is just a metaphor it means like invite you know say hello first and kiss here before I open my mouth people are taught just to make out and sometimes just to go for genitals you know and it's like no meet me here don't even think about anything else meet me here but there's another gate and it's the heart

if you cannot open my heart I'm not opening my legs and women instead and because they get pissed off and the women are like how you know men and they keep expecting stop putting out stop saying okay well then I won't even have a guy oh that's a good philosophy that if I don't give in I won't have one the great affirmation you know how's that working for you like come on it's I know it's hard to hear this but it's it's better to go without bargaining settling go without a guy or sex or partner or whatever I'm go without if it means you

have to bargain you know I think that you're you're better off and this isn't just like a hetero conversation here this could be gay or straight as well you know gay or whatever you know but male female version whatever but you know the the idea is that I believe that if a person said I've gone without for a few years now because I started having a greater integrity it is tempting for us to believe we think this about God well I'm spiritual now so I don't have a lot of money see we have a program around that we actually think you can't have

God and whatever else in this world you can't have God and sex you can of God and that's not true God is supposed to be brought into everything we do so that we could be prosperous and sensual and sexy and you know whatever else creative and so on but in this world we challenge we're very challenged with some of these areas and one of the things I'm leading to is just the you know the idea that going without is a problem I personally believe that if you say well God I just you know haven't even had anything you know what I've gone because you're still

thinking absolutely there's a lot of problems with that talk mind you the whole bit about I'd go without you don't have to go without you really don't but it's better to go without than to give in a bargain like but again I I believe if that's the case you can say to a girlfriend a friend male or female gay or straight you know could we snug a little bit I just love some affection you know I remember being on tour once and there was this gal all she was so struggling with no partner and just so frustrated about it all and

I mean I knew her fairly well just having taught at her it's a spiritual center for many times and I remember doing the same thing in fact for a minister of a church once frustrated no relationship but spiritual leader you oh and God you know what do i do I can't really just date somebody in the congregation so I'm going without and in in a couple of these different cases I remember just saying well here let's um I don't know what led to it being a TV or a movie they wanted to watch but I was there and they said you know I said

here to not turn on your movie turn on whatever and they just laid on the couch and I layed behind them and just held them and they watch their movie you know I was just holding space for them giving them like a safe male kind of an energy now I know sometimes it was gonna be people out there going that's inappropriate well I don't really care what you think about that sort of thing because you wouldn't understand it because you know two twisted minds all things are twisted into pure minds all things are pure that's in the Bible it's

not just me picking on you it's just you know get your mind out of a gutter all kind of gutter place just understand people can have integrity and share affection without any agendas but I did do that I've tried too many times in my life comply with what people were looking for and help them not not I don't think overboard and too often but just you know whether it was um a discount on a class or a smile or a little extra time in a talk or conversation I just feel it's really helpful to gift people what

we can in this world and so but I do remember a couple of times doing things like that and in those few cases I can remember a third one just popped into mind in three out of three cases one in you have three completely different ends of the country and corners of the country of the United States and in all situations of those that popped into my mind immediately they ended up in long term partnerships or shortly after I remember one of them went on with a partnership and a child and just it like it just gave them like a safe kind of a

space like okay well now I had that a bridge like a affection instead of where's the one and only everything you can have something right here have it with a friend you know I've known people that have taken my advice and share time with a girl girls with the chair time with gay friends of theirs because the guys were safe and willing to sail you know yeah I mean there's not a big interest of mine in you so I'd be happy to hold you in love and friendship I think it's just so cool a lot of people would think I'm really

nuts to think that but I think it's just so beautiful and the times they've told me I've never heard of anybody say it was horrible and traumatic I just think it was great when the minds were in the right place so I just as I'm gonna start wrapping up I just think it's important to recognize that you know sort of what I started off with there's an innocence in us and girls represent young girls represent our soul it's a symbol of our soul that's why the myth myth of Sophia

little Sophia who left her father's Kingdom which is our soul it's not males or females it's our soul she left her father's Kingdom who came to you know went on a journey along you know meaning through the universe and she found a place to live meaning earth and there she was traumatized and abused and when she was she forgot her divine origin she forgot that she's still a princess she thought she became the you know wounded what she identified with wounding she identified with shame and so she didn't want to go home to her father's Kingdom

because now she had been soiled and shamed and then that's the soul the human soul and in the story her brother came looking for her he said I'm gonna go looking for a meaning that's like Christ not just Jesus Christ as a consciousness but Jesus too said I'm gonna go looking for them and came and became the savior some people make that into a feminist thing again you know why is the guy who cares they're symbols a Christ has no gender God has no gender so just don't be ridiculous it's just a story that there's a kingdom and a child

leaves to forget the gender a child left the kingdom and it's it's um sibling missed it and went looking for it the sibling represents the part of it that didn't get wounded and there's a part that seems it did get wounded when it did it identified with that wounding and then stayed stuck and felt ashamed and I'm undeserving I can't bounce back I can't go home I've now been shamed and and I've known a lot of kids that have gone through that you know I've known I've known children and

I've known adults that when they were children they were abused and when that happened it changed their relationship even with loving parents they may have had it changed the relationship because they couldn't bring home there's a shame even if they didn't do anything it was done to them there's a shame you know I did something naughty and you're not gonna love me anymore when in fact and of course they also sometimes say I don't want you to - I don't want to upset my parents I don't want them to call the police up sometimes there's

they're developed and cognitive enough to know those kinds of things can happen but it's just also sad because it's the ego inside of a child saying now you're dirty now nobody likes you anymore just like um you know the story Pinocchio and you have the you know the the Fox kind of being all sly and I think it was a fox in the story that was you know sort of telling Pinocchio you know you're naughty you're bad you're this you're that trying to get him off center and he

kept listening to that voice and that voice is that of the ego so you and I need to do things differently and I am urging I will not make it my life's purpose I will not I will try not to stay awake nights hoping that you'll listen to this because I don't want to get too attached to the idea but I do know what's right and in this situation and what's right is don't give in to angry women or men controlling them just don't don't give in and become the thing they tried to make you become I'm definitely sorry that I they we males

world humans have done anything to each other and to you it's sad and it's inappropriate and all that but we have to become born again and Jesus says you must become as children it has a lot of meanings but along these this context it's what I'm talking about and you have to be born again means somewhat the same that which is born of the flesh is flesh that which is born of the Spirit is spirit and we need to become born of the Spirit become innocent again if you succumb to to promiscuity and drugging yourself and

well I'm allowed to man I'm empowered and now I can just sleep around and one-night stands like men and you know because we're equal I mean if you don't see how ridiculous that is already try to just imagine if you died a day after a good out of acting like that how has it taken you closer to heaven consciousness on the other hand if you say ah no more a person has to earn the right to touch me and I have to earn the right to touch them but they have to earn the right to touch me and they have to knock at this

gate before they reach the other gate they have to open my heart before I open my body and you die after coming to that conclusion I think you're a better person I think you're more evolved and I don't even think you you may not even have to incarnate again because if you really get what I just said it's not just getting a small you know gift of some kind it's huge it means I understand my value spiritually as well as humanly so it's not just your you're finding your life again is not coming just from fighting for something me too

and fighting be careful not to become part of the fight because the fight is a masculine trait that doesn't mean women aren't allowed to fight but it's a different form when a woman fights if she's truly in her female power she understands there's a knowingness in her it's not an action she has to always take there's a knowingness it's it's just this spiritual maturity that a woman is capable of having a male too if he accesses that feminine side of himself but our greatest strength is in our innocence and in our child like

consciousness it's not in our honey and in our human brilliance and physical strength and prowess it's not it's what the world tells us it's in so women that want to become lawyers it's hard for them to just remain in their sweet princess and be a lawyer or an accountant or anything that has to answer to things and and fight for things so so ever so you know every so often I mean ever so often you rather if you know God you know all too often they're there you know it's kind of weird to witness because they become

confused and hardened in some ways it's like well they won't take me seriously if I don't act like them and then they become after a while they become what they acted like because we become we form habits and then habits form us and the next thing we know where did I go I I lost myself so we've got to find ourselves again we've got to bounce back and we've got to find her innocence but please no say no don't say me to say no don't let it be you to don't just fight about what happened choose differently starting now don't just fight don't just

scream don't just complain and it's interesting because I've seen and heard of some women who said yeah I don't agree with that whole thing about this and that you know feminism or fight me too and all those things a lot of those things even in politics of women and equal rights and well I'm not putting down equality I'm talking about the ones that make it a real major hatred fight and women that I've known who have had the the strength which is the real strength to say online friends you know or in facebook groups and things you

know gosh I don't know about this and it feels a little too over-the-top and too angry they just get slammed by women who are claiming to be empowered and you know and here they're like oh did I do something wrong no you were right but you don't know how to speak up against bitches bitchy people aggressive people a bitch is not a strong woman a bitch is a masculine woman a strong woman doesn't hate you and doesn't make you wrong and shame you for having your own thoughts and opinions about something so we don't

need bitchiness from men or women we don't need control and we don't need to be used by them sexually but also stop giving in to them don't just blame them stop giving in yeah you know giving in you know I if I were a woman and in the position of such things I I'm not speaking about some truly dangerous situations I I mean that's a horrible thing for a woman to have to endure or child I'm talking about when you know some women have said a man we were on a date and they took a little too much advantage I understand that and that's

not okay for them to do that but I'm not telling you to acquiesce be your little princess and and just let it happen oh no no no you can be a princess because it's a consciousness it's I'm a holy child of God and when they pursue you say hold it do you realize this is not gonna happen you know you don't have to succumb and like check out and be abused or or taking advantage of an a date you know kind of thing or or just shamed with your girlfriends I've I've known girls who have said you know I my first time

or my tenth time or whatever it was I didn't want to do it but my friends were like oh yeah you know you take that corner of the room we'll take this corner we'll all have a party that's not at all sacred that's not that's not love and it's not um nature to a woman's heart it's contrary do anything contrary to your nature and you are numbing yourself you're abusing yourself with or without drugs and alcohol your body becomes numb the yoni the vagina the yoni the sacred space it's it's in sanskrit is called yoni and it means

sacred space the sacred space the womb of a woman becomes actually numbed when she's having anyone making contact with it in any form without the gates being opened first and the being one of them without that natural blossoming like unfolding that's what I meant by Tantra saying the woman is more naturally Tantra --q because she takes time to warm up what a drag why well I wasn't quite prepared I didn't get turned on fast so I never had an orgasm and that sort of thing there right it shouldn't take so such a quick

kind of an experience that whole quick release thing is a hyper masculine concept so slow down well my partner's not really into that change partners you know like I mean what do I have to say you know to really get it across well I don't want to go without then don't and have what you have and go numb and come back and do it again in another life or your 50th relationship or your hundred and fiftieth sexual partner we do what you want to do I'm only sharing how this actually works and a woman's body is naturally tantric which means it

naturally needs to warm up when warmed up properly as the Taoist say the water gets boiling she is like water and it needs to get boiling a man is too much like fire and he burns himself out he needs to gently slowly put the wood in the fire you know and get the water boiling so that the two are heating up properly together at the same time but that's not how it's done and we could say men need to change men need to change I could do a lecture like that and then I'm going to sound like one of the angry people again and it I

don't have to because I already know the truth of this and that is if they're not listening then it's up to you girls you got to just say no I'm I'm a princess I'm God's holy child and if you want to engage here you have to become a prince you know and it sounds like oh my god that's such fantasy and that's old-fashioned no it's not old-fashioned it's right and it's real you've just you know lost belief in it and had to excuse yourself in some way to pretend it's no

longer valid it is valid and I'm not saying we can't play a be playful and sexy and sometimes you know have quickies and all that's fine as long as you're with a prince meaning not a perfect partner but someone who has love and respect someone who can work at your pace and meet you at your own level you know and and that you work symbiotically when someone you know the whole all the sayings I nailed a girl I'm gonna do you what is that let me just think about these connotations you're not gonna do anybody that's what I would say you want to do

somebody go do yourself you know I hate to be blunt so blunt about it but I mean it's it's right and if I were a gal and you know a guy we're doing I would just say what you're doing is not gonna happen you do understand that oh yeah you know you want to know I'm telling you no it's not gonna happen now if I have to say no again you're gonna regret it and and they would they would they would lose sight because my thumbs would be in their eye sockets I would do what I need to do to make myself clear or I would go so far as to you know I'm not

you know trying to endorse violence I'm making a point if you can get that you know I've known some of you have shared you know husbands force you and husbands do this and that they just need to hear you convey a concept I'm not saying literally do but a concept of okay you heard me say no you're forcing you do understand you're forcing this right now you're actually raping the earth you're forcing this so if this even happens which I'm saying no to if this even happens I will not be here tomorrow you know or and if I worry

you'd be missing a penis you know because tonight what your sleep and you know Bob at you that's the old saying right that means you know snip and so I don't mean violence and I don't mean literal but it's a concept that it's not gonna happen it's not okay and it will not happen and if it does everything's gonna change for you this will be over you're conveying with an N not going to happen it's not an option and you make that clear to your partners and or dates or whatever and that's what they need to hear clarity you're

teaching them you're not being bad or bitchy you're teaching you're saying I'm letting you know that this is the real world the real one we're children of God honor each other and we can be sexy oh my god if you and I are connecting baby you know right on we're gonna have it baby we're gonna have a great time we're gonna have sexiness and I know how to love and love make and it wow you know you can embody all that just with the right people not unhealthy people so I think it's great you know and in the years I taught Tantra and take her

sexuality oh my god I just I love seeing the transformation and gals they're the the laughter and the playfulness part of that that workshop I once did five day intensives part of it was about embracing we called it playfulness there was a healing part an educational part a sensual part there were different parts of the tantric yeah workshops or a sacred sexuality workshops but one part was a playfulness childlike playfulness body painting and laughter and giddiness and you know it was beautiful so it was kept back to the innocence and it was

great to see people be able to like ah you know embrace that and in a sense in that portion of the workshop doing nothing different than a bunch of six months old would do one year olds would do they wouldn't care about the body and body parts there they were acting as children and just having fun and playing games and you know just keeping things really light and simple and innocent and and I think there's a beauty to that and I think that that's also healthy if you do that in your own homes and and/or with your own partners or with friends

but in a healthy way don't don't succumb to the stuff that the world tells you you're supposed to be doing the porn world is a lie the cinema world cinematic world that started you know various times in history but it definitely started cooking in the 80s 90s where they started just showing women really acting out sexually and you know there were a lot of people like you know chewing their nails going oh my god we're allowed to be like and then they went overboard with it and it met promiscuity and it meant becoming like men and I knew that and said it all

along but people just didn't want to hear it they thought wow he's old-fashioned and only in a healthy way am I and so the cinema taught and people listened people watched people accepted that that preaching teaching that this is how women are supposed to be and they started becoming it and then it meant a lot of women shifted from not only being abused by like a parent let's say like you know the child abuse it's one thing to be abused by others so women shifted from being abused once in a while you

know in their lives here and there some women to actually abusing themselves because when you started acting out like men you were responsible you're the one who messed up you can't say they did this to me you you know you bought into that you bit the Apple so to speak and and took the illusion on and abused yourself whether it was once or a hundred times it doesn't matter when you were with someone that wasn't right for you I could just say big deal men do that no no women are wired differently they're sensitive that way their body

and mind and heart and soul says we do not want to give in the male is saying on the hunt I'm going and that's that I'm not justifying it at all because healthiness is always going to be love based but the men are wired to do one particular thing women are wired another and they're trying to be like men which means contrary to their nature and it's not a love based you know the thing that they're doing so the women symbolize our soul yes especially little girls but they symbol women symbolize our soul and when women became like men we lost

everything to a whole new level you hear people saying women are gonna be a part of our awakening little great find them find the ones that haven't abused themselves and then maybe we'll be able to listen to them teachers those female teachers goddesses are gonna change the planet hell no they've all become men and that hasn't helped so if you want to make a difference and you want to see the feminine make a difference then become feminine the divine feminine you know become one instead of being masculine and calling it divine feminine

you know take care man and if you don't our souls symbolically our souls have sunk to a new level of self-abuse which means we collectively have decided not to love ourselves take good care I'm not trying to shame you for having made those decisions I'm saying see through it decide whether it was friends coaxing you family members coaxing you to go in that direction or yourself just see through it and say got it no more and ain't happening I totally get it God loves me and has asked me to love

myself and I'm tempted to go now into being a born-again virgin I'm tempted to go into being you know totally abstinent and no no that's being a nun you know I you know and all that and some of you have already done that in lifetimes you're not asked to go to that extreme but start off with a little bit of fasting fast from the sex and the hyper sex slow it down you know slow it down I've had a couple of very passionate in you know friends or intimate friends and I would say slow now relax and it was very hard for them

to do that because that was their nature they got kind of that intensity inside of them and they thought that's what I'm supposed to do right and guys have liked that and guys want not here slow it down you know if you want to spend some time slow it down and the speeding and passion can happen but you never lose the witness the center you don't get caught in and hooked by the passion the intensity the heat you know that's why we say if somebody's in heat you know I don't wanna be in heat I don't want to be cold I want to be warm you

know nice and comfortable warm right so think about that and if I'm saying anything that has been confusing or that you thought was in any way hurtful or picking on you please email me and let me know so I can explain and so forth because that's not at all what I've been saying at all here and you know I encourage you to love and take care of yourselves and it doesn't matter if you've like I said been with one partner a thousand partners I'm just talking about where you go from here just say that's it die of the old self every one

of us has made miss mistakes I could have just three partners in my life and all three could be a major mistake I could have 30 and all 30 could have been loving well thought out pasted relationships believe it or not so it's just a matter of be true to your soul be true to your real self be true to your Divine self be born again and then let's try to meet each other in a new place we could all have such splendid friendships intimate friendships with each other with ourselves with friends with whomever lovers and so on if people

could grow up and be more responsible but there's such terrible communication a lack of clarity and honesty agendas that people are having and you know and so on and so on it just makes it also unsafe for us to say well I'm gonna go to that new version Michaels talking about but why would you want to go there if there's no great representation of it so somebody's got to start the change somebody's got to be part of the change before we can step into a changed world so you know maybe you can be one of one or one of a thousand or one of a million

of us that start in insisting on this new way so thank you for listening and in and even though I you know shut down the those of it would say a male can I don't care about that story I don't agree with that at all even though I said that I do understand why you would think that I do understand why you think well a woman needs to say this or it doesn't make sense or it can't be true no can be a man just don't be an angry woman and you could understand that and don't be an angry man just get to your soul and

you'll hear that what I'm saying is right it's the truth so there's no gender in spirit guys and I'm if I'm being in spirit then there's no gender from me or to you and none needs to be from you to me you know let all that go when you're learning and experiencing something new in consciousness yeah you can still be a gender of course but let that go when you're exchanging in consciousness learning and so forth don't don't believe in your in your life in races and genders and superior and inferior and don't fight to fix any of

it be the change you want to see in the world you know don't fight for feminism and don't fight for chauvinism don't fight for any I don't fight against him be the change don't tell me what I need to do just show me be that change so thank you for listening peace be with all of you bye bye