What Is Your Weakest Link?

what is your weakest link this is a really great topic because you know no matter how evolved we get to how much we've read and studied and meditated and all that it's it's inevitable it's amazing to me how people keep coming to me and saying you know why do I still have an issue and so on what I've been meditating why do I have an issue I do of course miracles why do I have an issue it's very important guys to change what you can and accept what you cannot it doesn't mean cannot you cannot it

means right now you cannot maybe you know at one time you could have before you had certain belief systems that were off limited maybe you will in the future but right now it doesn't seem like it's happening it might even right now could be this day this week this month this year this lifetime but it's like not to get too bound up about it so what is your weakest link do you do you know you might feel like you have more than one for that matter but your weakest link will be the thing that most recurs in

your life when you think back to your whole life through your whole life what is it that kind of wants you is it is it I'm still looking for approval from my father or mother or whatever I'm I'm still dealing with betrayal or rejection it what is the thing that just keeps coming back to you if yours could be helped it could be finances and it's a funny thing because somebody can say I have I have corrected so many areas of my life but this one thing just keeps coming back and it it will you got to be

careful not to keep trying to impose perfection on an imperfect world it is an imperfect world now there's going to be someone out there going that's a negative affirmation man it's not very empowering yeah well you know go watch somebody else that's more shallow because I'm telling you in the depths of your being it's okay it's okay like Yogananda said it's okay to recognize this is not your home don't try to project perfection on an imperfect world this world is one of imperfections one

you see like the Yogi's have said for thousands of years any of the world that you can experience through your senses is an illusion it's when you move beyond the census that's why they devote so much of their time and energy into beyond the census getting beyond the census getting into the the super natural self that can experience the supernatural world the downside is it's very extreme the way many teachers Yogi's do it and then there's other groups of people who try the abstinence from everything you know

abstaining from food starring as abstaining from sex abstaining from whatever not just pleasures but even things of the world and again it's a bit extreme what Christ consciousness has tried to teach us being that it is the highest level of consciousness available to mankind and it is trying to teach us all the other forms of teachings are fine and it's the Buddhists this and the Hindu that and whether it's all fine for those who resonate with that path but you could really save yourself a lot of

time and a lot of aggravation by just learning the power of acceptance and I have other videos I've done just unacceptance some for pay and some for free check out whichever you'd like okay just on the topic of acceptance the power of acceptance but again we change what we can and we learn to say you know yeah but I've been so spiritual I've been so why would this happen to me now even asking the question is okay it's normal it's it's quite all right you can be God you can be on your way

home from a meditation class and have you know twist an ankle and go how could this be happening you know edgar cayce i mean how many people did he help the work of Edgar Cayce is probably has probably reached more people in the in the new thought new age and even the holistic health realm than any other individual I mean that's some pretty powerful testimonials now I'm not saying he's more been more effective or far-reaching than a religious figure like a Buddha or Ghandi or something I'm talking about in the New Age world the

metaphysical world new thought world and so forth yeah you know be hard-pressed to find somebody who hasn't heard of or been affected by Casey in some way even if you say well I never got into Casey I can tell you this your teachers did get into Casey and if they didn't their teachers did that's how far-reaching the work of Edgar Casey is it's basically like saying there's no holistic health field and no metaphysical new-age field that hasn't been touched by Casey in some way he was talking nastya pathy before it

became popular he was talking you know homeopathy before it became popular he really expressed so many different ways of the Spirit of God moving through us in this world improving the world and our belief systems but this isn't a sales pitch for Casey that's just planting a seed and and landing some roots there where they're well-deserved my point is to say this Casey all of his work and yet more than once he went broke bankrupt because he had this thing Jesus refers to this in A Course in Miracles diary notes with Helen who

wrote the course Jesus makes reference to this about Casey that because of his deeply religious beliefs inside he would not allow himself to be prosperous so as much as Casey could do ABC and all the way to ABC and all the way to Z why did he struggle financially you know and it was he didn't struggle as much with his kids he didn't struggle as much with his wife he had daily stuff the challenges yeah normal challenges but they weren't the bane of his existence finances more than once man he went broke and here's a

guy who's helping everybody that he can help you know thousands of people at that time when information network isn't there to be able to help as many people as needed I mean he did readings for US presidents and gave them guidance on on war and how to bring Wars to a close I mean he helped so many people in so many areas the medical profession and so on and so on he helped many people become multimillionaires in the stock market but he wouldn't allow it for himself because his inner religious not spiritual religious

conscience made him think it was wrong or bad that's his weak link I'm not saying he doesn't have other human tendencies or frailties here and there but definitely that was one weak link for him especially because he at one point created a holistic hospital there weren't very many in the early 1900's right a holistic clinic and hospital that was his dream it's like well what what could be better a might might the channeled healing information being put to practice to save lives and save you know ailments

and aches and whatever and yet they put it together and when the when the stock market crashed and when the Depression began I guess you know it closed the money the support wasn't there anymore and it's a bummer because so many people were helped by him and they weren't looking to help him when the chips were down for Cayce and that's a lot of what happens in this world you know but there it is you know Cayce a weak link so guys what is it for you what what what happens for you is it that you you just can't seem to manifest

healthy partnership and I'm not picking on anyone I'm actually doing the opposite I'm saying you know what if you die tomorrow and you're a really really really really good person without a partner do you think that not having a partner is going to affect you on the other side do you think they're not letting you into the gates of heaven because you didn't have a partner while you were on earth guys it's all right be a good person that's all that really matters in fact the weak link is your

ultimate test in this lifetime so I'm not saying God says I'm gonna make you lack something to have a test I'm saying it is self-created true but it can be put to good use which is this will expose that which is a test for lack of a better word and it'll expose my weak link why would I expose a weak link so I can strengthen the weak link so yours could be oh my god I'm prosperous I'm a good person great family but I'm ill it could be illness and all I say is change what you can hit things from all sides if its

finances do what you can to work on the finances hit it from different angles look at budgeting look at belief systems look at hypnotherapy whatever and I believe in my experience for my life and people I've taught over the years it's almost never happened that people's lives in all categories improved and many of you I think could and would testify to that you know but all areas improve because I lay out things in such a way like in our every January having our co-creating a new life course its

laid out in a way that we take responsibility for all the categories we don't hide the one that's a missing link and expect it to improve itself you know the one that's a weak link and expect it just to get better on its own so what we do is you know take a bit of a survey an inventory on your life and see you know are there weak links and then let's look at why a belief systems family patterning whatever it happens to be I don't say go and blame one thing and then commiserate I say whatever you find

to be at the roots of it fine uproot them and let them dissipate move on it's like Jesus is parable of the fig tree a lot of people get all weird about that they don't understand that at all you know they get into this you know the moral of the story is this fig tree made Jesus angry because the master wanted a piece of fruit and it didn't have any so he's Michael Oh gonna have some of that here huh you're gonna give me some of this no fruit on the tree well I'm just gonna wipe you out okay you know that's

not what happened deny me a big man you're up Creek that's not what happened so it's you know it's it's a matter of metaphor something not bearing fruit goodbye to the fig tree now it can get recycled into the earth and allow more energy towards other planets not only biologically like like it literally biodegrades and so forth but he's talking about energetically - so he's saying in your life it's okay if some area it really really isn't gonna produce then say goodbye to it and it'll recycle

I call those leaks areas of our life that are we're leaking energy that we could recycle and put forward in some other form that we're not thinking about because we're obsessed on that one that we insist on it coming through it may not be not meant to be so think about what might be your weakest link I would say try to assess what might be your weakest link your most common recurring pattern it might be the most dramatic pattern meaning how much it grips you causes you pain and stress or it might

be just simply how often it comes up or third it might be both so it could be how dramatic how repetitive or how dramatically repetitive in some cases that's that's what happens I do believe that if you change your mind you change your life but even then guys the the the ego that we have is not going to just say well now that you read a good book or watched an amazing video presentation I'm just going to retire the ego self the part of us that believes in limitation we'll call it that the part

of us that is a tends to be afraid we'll look for some weak link because we're strength strengthening ourselves or strengthening and strengthening it's gonna look for the weak link a place where it can say you know twist the knife in a little bit and say fine you're improving this and this but I'm gonna make sure this doesn't go well and it helps if you are more tenacious so let's not only look for the weak links let's also practice you know having some conviction because there's no sense in

you working on your weak link if you're gonna be a coward and run as soon as the you know the the it all kind of comes down to a battle of sorts it's a metaphoric battle but it's can you can you look at this can you own your part you know what are you willing to do here in regards to this process you know stuffs coming up you know oh I wanted to work on stuff but I didn't know this was going come up then don't even start working on it it really takes courageous only the courageous to get through these kinds of

things so if you want to work on your weakest link great if you don't you could just end the video and just run you know and just run and hide and be the proverbial ostrich and fine there you go I don't think it's a great you know a great view looking down in the hole in the ground but good luck but those of you who say you know what I really I want to get this weak link thing there's two things you're going to do with it guys you're either going to dissipate it or learn to accept it I

would say do both change what you can and accept what you cannot and and there's power in both oh my gosh you know that the times that you say well I'm working working on it I hit it from all sides it's still there as soon as you see that it's still there and you feel uh you know exasperated you know frustrated then you probably just recognize that there was an attachment rather than an acceptance it's alright yeah I did do what I could and it still seems to be there so I'm gonna just

accept that it's like I'm trying to make a car payment on this really nice car I got but then I got laid off and then this happened and that I can't make those payments now okay what I'll do is I'll give it till the next 30 days if I don't see enough money to come in to pay two payments this is the kind of thing I would do two payments I'm gonna let the car go and there you have it stir the ethers with a statement of proclamation it looks like a threat really in a good way I'm gonna put a

limit on how far this is going to go now the nice thing about that my soul then can rest and say wow that means I put it out there I'm gonna get a couple payments worth of money coming to me miraculously I'll make my payments knock some of the debt down and keep going feels good or it won't happen and I'll let the car go either way I'm less stressed I'm either less stressed because I paid it or I'm less stress because I don't have the car and can get a different car and have less payments I'm just determined to

feel more peace and happiness and if this car is in the way of that then I'll let it go what's in the way of that failure and all kinds of crappy belief systems and self-sabotage just don't buy into that as best you can do your best though look at where your weak link might be look for patterns the recurring like I said and so on and then ask yourself now that I know there's a weak link am i courageous enough to start doing something about it because chances are when you focus and go for it anything

that is in the way any any you could call it DNA or matrix of the problem will start to expose itself and are you willing to deal with that you know and if your answer is anything but yes you know you got to go hide and just own that just say I'm just too scared I'm not gonna do it maybe in a year or two I'll look at it I think that's great because that's acceptance - in a forum on the other hand you got the courage let's go for it hit it from all sides let's divide and conquer hit it from all

sides and move through it as best we can so let's change what we can let's stir the ethers let's say I'm gonna you know with the one thing I can't do is no matter what I'm wealthy and I'm happy with friends but I can't lose weight I'm 200 pounds overweight and no matter what I can eat like a bird and the weight isn't going anywhere just change what you can and then accept you you know you know if it's if it were me and I were 300 pounds for whatever I'd buy a a big

fuzzy red suit and dress like Santa Claus and play the game you know like I'm joking but it's like oh well you know I've known wonderful people that are 300 pounds and rude people that are 100 now it's like it your weight doesn't determine who you are who you are is on a soul level it's nothing you can see with the eyes or experience with the senses so every time you decide to go after fixing something in an obsessive unhealthy way where you're judging yourself it's affirming that you're seeing

yourself you're already determined judging that you're a flawed being and if only you didn't have this external thing you would feel different internally and that's not true at all your internal is where it all matters not the external I'm not saying to ignore the external in fact I'm saying if you have patterns that are in the inside manifesting on the outside let's do something about it but you can't only fix it on the inside that's why I said we have to work on the stuff that starts to arise when we do

become determined to work on whatever the issue is so you know it's just like step up be willing to be courageous step up let's let's get the life worked out believe in yourself but beyond fixing the external thing get a second job to make your car payment that's not really what I was saying if want to do that go for it I'm talking about how do you feel more at peace and the moral of this story in this talk is this that whatever you think is your weakest link here's how you pass that test here's how you

fix it it isn't going to be losing weight and making car payments that will help the only way that you actually succeed is when you feel peace around the topic you're saying if I feel peace then I'll have the good money for the car payment you might I didn't say peace contingent on money because that's fake peace peace contingent on having a womb that can bear children contingent on you know having a life that where you can experience partners no contingencies unconditional I'm just gonna fill peace

just to do the best I can I'll put it out there oh you know I'm not saying being negligent and expect everything to fall into place and then wonder why you don't feel peace if you're 200 pounds overweight and you you know don't do any physical exercise of any kind you know that might be kind of pushing the envelope that's like the story of Jesus jump off the cliff and the Angels will save you Jesus says no I'm not gonna bother he knows they could save him he's saying why do something stupid and and

put it put through goodness to the test goodness just is so he doesn't jump and expect goodness to save them he's saying I already feel good thanks good I'm good and it's the same for us feel peace and go to the gym feel peace and see if you could make that car payment if not get a different car but try to really feel what I'm saying not just hear it what if we're okay what if I'm already okay man all the struggles I'm still meditating every day and I still can't see purple or bright white light so what

it's a it's all right though all that is a special effects that's not the goal of meditation now the fact that you're ticked off that you don't see white light you blue meditation anyway meditations about feeling peace why don't you just feel peace because I didn't see the white light well the white light isn't the piece it's a symbol of the peace that's all as soon as I become okay with not seeing white light I'm actually achieving what I tried to achieve in meditation it's just

really kind of cool if you think about it you're already alright that's truth in God that's not just my opinion or even my just hopeful observation it's you really are okay we are okay every time we are trying to do as though there's something to do to fix me we're off again we have to Center into being and recognize my weakest link story here this commentary was not about just finding your recurring external fly yes look for that but then learn to come to peace with it that's the second half of the story not

find it fix it that's a little bit more you know a type approach a personality type right I'm talking about find your weakest link and since it hasn't gotten fixed yet go ahead and put some effort into fixing it that's fine but also come to peace with it so ask yourself not how do I fix it yes I'll do that I will do that but also and most importantly and how do I come to peace with it I'm going to lose a hundred pounds if it happens I want to be a piece of it doesn't happen I want to be at peace

that's what I need to look for how to do that how do I come to peace with it and if I need to lose a hundred or whatever number of pounds and I have clothing that's my skinny clothes you know from 95 years ago and I'm just always beating myself up that I can't fit in them you know what burn the damn things at some point because they're a symbol of guilt to you I'm not saying everybody I'm saying if it causes you stress to be able to see those and go if only if only just burn them just relax it's okay as

long as it means you can find more peace maybe Jesus wore a robe because he was a little overweight and bulky you know and he didn't want their people to see that I'm joking but you know come on it's okay yeah but I'm getting older you Jesus got older he looked older when he was thirty than he was when he was twenty it's okay really Jesus got older yeah and he never thought even twice about once probably even about it but he didn't think twice about it it's not like Jesus went off god I was

hoping to be the Christ and save all humanity throughout all time and throughout all the universe all beings of consciousness but this little you know bulge I've got in the midsection this bear tire you know is in the way it just does that's not what happens guys you know how do I find peace how do I find peace if I had a child but I guilt that child into fixing you know really you know honey you should be much thinner you know the bait Charles like mom one you know I mean I'm still I'm still taking in high fat content for a

reason you know and this is this is building my strength and body and so on it's like okay just be quiet mom come on you know right it's like it's okay if your child gets a job and they come home at whatever age 16 18 whatever it is and they get their first job and then you can oh I can't believe you you're working for that much you should have got a job from that's really kind of sick if you think about it and all I ever have said using analogies of younger people in our lives is to say you probably wouldn't be

that abusive to someone else if you have just forgive yourself and you know and own it but you wouldn't typically be left that way to other people to young ones and and all I'm saying is just treat yourself with the same kindness what is your weakest link maybe if you looked at all the weak link possible that people could have and you pared it down to your two or three let's say do you understand that really at the core even behind them your weakest link is that you even have weak links the fact that you obsess on

them and think you're flawed and you need to fix something that's the weak link behind all weak links and so divide and conquer hit it from all sides it's a lot less effort if I just learn acceptance I'm just going to to come to peace with such-and-such I'm gonna go ahead I got a hundred pounds to lose I just make the number up guys but got a hundred pounds to lose you know yeah you know what I'm gonna do is instead of them when I lose a hundred pounds by next month it's not gonna happen and

then you're gonna you know get down on yourself I would just say I'm gonna just kind of make some changes and lose 3/4 pounds a month like a pound a week no but that's not at all very much you know what it's relaxing to not have to do it stressfully and in a program you won't be able to keep I'm just making up a number mind you I don't mean literally only try to lose 4 pounds a month I'm saying at least you're losing something find something you can manage you can wrap your mind around and most of all

that you can love yourself for I wanted to always take an art class but I always bail out or the classes or whatever it is that would improve me artistically creatively personally psychologically whatever but but but but but what then let's do it and that will expose the stuff inside that made me a afraid in the first place and when I'm willing to look at that stuff I can heal it and change what was my external weakest link by working on my internal weak link it's kind of cool if you think about it

so sometimes I talk about things that are you know maybe funny or exciting you know what I'm doing these talks but sometimes it's just a heartfelt more like sitting it's just a feeling I had only had the idea to talk about this two minutes before we started swear you know I swear to God on that but it's what happens and I when I sit and do that it's like I feel like I'm reaching out saying guys it's okay you know clients and sessions that I do every day on the phone and sometimes in person to see how

hard people are in themselves I don't mind I'm not shaming them for it I'm just saying the compassion that I feel for people in such situations or circumstances is you know is great I just felt a great amount of compassion but I'm also aware that hey the simple answer go easy on yourself man it's okay and if you don't go easy on yourself is that God not going easy on you or is that your ego that you're still allowing to run rampant and it's very clear to me which one it is I'm not saying ego like I'm blaming you

I'm saying it isn't God's advice that you do the being hard on yourself Casey lost a hospital at your Casey and and went broke a couple of times trying to help people he was spending his life so many of his waking hours trying to help people and they just wouldn't even give donations for the work he was doing now that was kind of crummy of those people cheap of those people selfish of those people but those people aren't the ones that Jesus focused on when he was telling hell in the real situation Ellen

who wrote A Course in Miracles she he said it was Casey's own rejection of prosperity from his own religious upbringing of guilt related upbringing so we have to look at our own patterns and you know and so forth I'm not saying what the people did was right again it was selfish but if Casey would have worked more on that issue in himself that would have eased and he would have retracted different people because there's people that that are into you know so-called healing and you know there's some very big authors on

the topic of healing that have made millions of dollars off of people because of their work in the healing field and they've probably had an effect on 1% of the number of people Cayce has had an effect Casey's work is still having an effect on people and it just grows every year exponentially it doesn't mean that they helped him at the time when he was struggling it's kind of a sad thing but I look at that as that's another human pattern that we can't change if we want to so look at what's a

weak link for you it is not if only I didn't have this I'd be alright you're gonna have something guys at the end of your life you might still have something if it's not health it'll be finances but not to finances I never had children if it's not that something haunting you and all it is is the ultimate finale the test of tests for you in terms of your self acceptance not acceptance for a lower self your acceptance of you know even when something looks like it's a pattern for me it's not really Who I am

it's just wardrobe and when I leave I'll drop the wardrobe next time around I hope I can wake up while I'm still wearing the Wardrobe so that I get it and I know the truth and just respect the illusion that it's just an illusion and I don't let it get to me anymore well if that's my ultimate goal why don't you just get that now don't let the things shame you don't let them get to you like you may have once done that's the idea and what's funny is Mike my weakest link might see nothing to you

your weakest link might be nothing to the person to your right you know the person you met the last person you saw today or the next person you see today it may mean nothing but that's kind of ironic because one person's just getting ulcers over their weak link in another person's like what that's like nothing and never compare your weak link is worse than mine mine was worse than you you just don't understand because my for worse guys each person's weak link each person's ego each person's deepest

fears each person's biggest abuses each person's biggest regrets they're all the same they are equally strong to each of us mine is mine yours is yours but mine is fully mine and yours is fully yours mine fully seems to scare me yours fully seems to scare you for the most part that's the way the human race is generally speaking there are exceptions there are those of us who tend to wake up more and see through things more we might still have weak links but we wake up and we work through these things and

then they have less effect on us that's miracle mindedness miracle consciousness people that really really live close and walk in the light of God but even then guys oh my god Yogananda the world has rarely seen especially in our time a person has as as together call it enlightened perhaps as Yogananda I mean he was just an amazing teacher soul etc and he talks about a leg injury that he had once and it caused him extreme pain every day of his life through the many many many many years last years of his

life extreme pain nothing seemed to help you know it's just like and yet he would say I'd get up kind of hobble and wobble and limp to go and speak I would sit down when I was sitting and speaking I'm in the zone didn't notice that at all it was gone and that's true that happens for me it happens for a lot of us when you're doing what you love all else seems to disappear but my point though was even Yogananda kc it was the money Yogananda it was his leg you know it's okay um you could is Socrates caught

Socrates brilliant mind but he was considered to be a highly unattractive almost mutant looking person his head had these strange his forehead and his head at this this strange kind of knob enos to it so it looked it just looked malformed almost what you not anywhere as extreme but almost what we might liken to elephantitis you know the the effects and growth or whatever on the head is skull not anywhere as extreme as that but I'm just saying it's an example he had that no matter what it was going to

be their Achilles heel you know Achilles this great warrior and all that but he had one area that was weak and there's a beautiful Greek mythology around that you know he was dipped in helped by one ankle you know or whatever dipped in these holy waters when he was a child to be blessed with everything except the part of his ankle where his mother's hand held him well he she dipped him in the holy water didn't get washed you know it's bathes it's like damn you know like God you know why didn't you

just get the rest of my heel or whatever you just think that clothes but that's the irony it means it's also a metaphor of no matter how blessed you are there's gonna be a weak link it's and it's okay no matter how bleak did all the great mythology is no matter how blessed there's still something whether you're Cupid or you know whomever you can be you just gorgeous blessed person narcissus was a gorgeous blessed soul just a beautiful brilliant soul a beautiful loving soul so much so that a

goddess got ticked off at him and cursed him well because you're so beautiful I'm gonna curse you and make sure that you have no way of actually actually fulfilling the ability to fall in love and experience you know reciprocated love and so forth so he's forever he's not vain the way people have made that that term to mean vanity he was actually simply cursed and it doesn't take away from the meaning of narcissism as a condition and all that I'm just saying that that came from a mistranslation of

a Greek mythology a Greek myth which is that you know he was cursed and so he was not permitted to really respond to with the love that people could naturally feel for him as beautiful and wonderful as he was as a person and everybody since this guy is amazing we love him just naturally love him everybody is loving him and falling in love with him but he wasn't able to reciprocate and that was simply his weak link not bad link just that was his thing and in the mythology in the myth it's it's a curse from the gods and goddesses but in

another respect you can get away from curses and just say that was one thing for him to just have to deal with and learn from and whatever yours might be whether you're the myth of Cupid or Persephone or psyche or you know the Norse deities male and female or whether you know Roman or Chinese any mythology there's always still a problem there's still something that haunts even Zeus the Great God of gods in Greek mythology still had the frustration of the people of the human race losing interest in

worshiping gods that had this is in the Greek mythology remember it's not God it's it's human-like gods that we're talking about in the stories that they have too much self interest and so the humans were losing interest in them so no matter how much how much power you had you still had an ego in the Greek mythology that gods still had an ego and therefore they too had their flaw or their weak link so if it's to the gods and goddesses you can assume you're gonna have them too and it's okay

doesn't make you bad it means you're here on earth you can be stellar and still have fears now and then you can be amazing and still not have children you can be creative and still not know how to sing you know it just it's okay you know how is it that I can write songs and I can sing it doesn't matter if your songs that you write are fantastic it's everything's okay I'm doing a past life course of course on how our past lives affect us and that kind of weaves into this but whether you look at past

lives or childhood you you can track down all these things and learn to transform them and heal them but at the end of the day with all my courses my healing might my sessions and all that you're gonna you're gonna drop the burdens and the anchors the weight off of your soul in so many ways you're gonna feel like you're just going to whole new levels of consciousness and whole new levels of living I think it's fantastic but you still might end up with something of a weak link somewhere and

I'm saying be ok with that knowing that you you know healed so many other areas now if you did a lot of work and nothing helped any area of your life I think you listening you the wrong teacher for today that's for you today doesn't mean the wrong for anybody else but it's not working for you find someone else if nothing is improving come on just adjust find something else micro adjustments major another adjustments whatever you need to do but I would make changes but again don't get disheartened that you

change all these things and there's something still haunting the truth is I personally believe that one of the things that we will not usually look at her own is that we're often the ones that keep a little bit of a subtle attachment to that weak link it's almost like really if you tuned into it guys okay what if I really didn't have that weak link here's what really is there I'm just telling you you may not want to admit it but it's there something most of us will say there's something where

if it was gone what would I talk about what would I use as an excuse to not achieving or not getting somewhere or whatever what would I use then to get attention and pity from people I swear there's these really subtle twisted agendas we have to keeping our weak link and it takes a really courageous soul to be able to look at that it really takes a lot of courage to say to a partner a job you know I'm gonna rethink this and look at another job even if I'm going to make less that's a scary realization to have to

say to a partner you know I'm afraid to call you on this but there's something that we're struggling with here and if it doesn't change I might move on at the risk of upsetting them and then blaming you and shaming and screaming I don't know yeah you're the one who has to face that job part the reactions but we often overlook the reactions we'll have when we look at our own stuff when we call ourself on things and it's you know it's pretty strange that we want to keep these things but

we're actually addicted to them I think there's a video you can watch it's free on YouTube of mine under the probably under the playlists of psychology but it's our addiction to negative emotions or negative experiences it's worth looking at because people have addictions to negative things alrighty so thank you very much for your time today I wish you well and I extend deepest love and respect and appreciation for you god bless you all peace be with you and thank you so much for joining us bye-bye