Sacred Space: The Real Story

so today one thing i want to add we we've we've been talking lately i noticed kind of one theme has to do with integration and i've got i've gotten a lot of great feedback uh social media emails and whatever about this this idea integration you know becoming and i don't remember the titles of the last few weeks but it's just the i mean i remember a few weeks ago we talked about how we have to awaken the christ within ourselves and again it's like instead of worshiping jesus you have to become the christ

which is the best way you can worship him it's the best way you can demonstrate your love and appreciation it's not the old school bowing to someone it's like you know show them you know i even remember um you know the very few wise things my father ever said my dad ever said but i remember hearing him say to my brother a couple of times when my dad would say hey what would you like for christmas or what do you want for father's day and he would say you to be you know nice or whatever it was he

wanted he was he was talking about character rather than things well in a sense god all the more is saying i i don't need stuff you know races and religions sacrificed animals for god well think about that what did god get out of that you know god's just like you know you got to be kidding me oh look lord we've killed an animal for you what how would that benefit god in any way so all these external things because humans are so external oriented their rituals are usually external oriented but rituals are

absolutely empty if with them there's no consciousness so instead of i'm giving up this animal i'm giving up my own animal self you know that's what it was always supposed to be about even tithing isn't about some sort of like investment theory well let's see if i give 10 percent god's supposed to give back to well that's a pretty good investment that's not how it's supposed to be you know what are my returns let me calculate this you know it's it's it's i'm

sacrificing myself the old me which isn't a sacrifice at all because i'm happy to do that and i tithe because i am happy to do that because i can afford to i give back to a spiritual source in a way of saying thank you for the manifestation of god in my life you know remember people can act godless people can think and feel and act and experience a godless life that's the generic term in the old days for pagans it didn't mean people of a pagan belief system it meant believers and non-believers so it's a

really inappropriate term that people got to using you know in biblical history and so on believers and non-believers and then it became believers of what we believe and everybody else is not a believer they're non-believers if they don't do it our way then no way so this idea of integration is just absolutely huge and one of the most consistent topics i hear in counseling systems in tribal systems in the new age movement so this word sacred space and because we're external oriented what do people do

light a smudge stick and assume that space is made sacred it's just the weirdest thing if you're a jerk it's not a sacred space it's a toxic space think about this so you don't light a candle you don't you know and say now i'm prosperous you know light a smudge stick and say this space is cleansed it's everything's about consciousness not things it's about consciousness so if you think about it the consciousness if i want to make a space sacred i need to change consciousness

there's no better way to do that than the acts of love forgiveness and the act of grace but for humans it's the act of forgiveness technically grace is an act of divinity humans have to forgive but god just holds space sacred space called grace now when we hear about like the battle in heaven between lucifer and michael technically you could say that was a battle for sacred space we're saying metaphorically that this evil grew in heaven and michael had to cast it out what does that mean that you need to protect your sacred

space that you create now in reality there was no fight per se technically something that isn't sacred can't resonate with a vibration that's sacred and it goes but in a world that we live in that seems like there's time and space then measurability then we need to protect our sacred space but if you're the source of it being unsacred and you blame everybody else for ruining the sacred space you got to consider that you know we struggled with that when i came here in sedona one of the biggest challenges

in sedona is people love to be enabled you know they just love to be enabled of all their twisted different ways of doing things you know like taking a six-pack up to the to bell rock and and calling it a sacred experience it it doesn't make sense but they can do what they want they're just not doing it here so when we drew the line and say no you won't be doing that here they actually got irritated at us well that's because demons don't like sacred space either let me explain if you have narcissists

and psychopaths in your life they're not going to like you creating sacred space because they're going to say how dare you you know step in and say i know to me i love my disturbed thought systems and behaviors sacred space means love space any type of being that does that isn't comfortable with love will not like you creating sacred space and if you're the mom of a household and you say you know enough is enough that we cannot have this sort of thing around our animals or around our children or whatever you say no the partner might

not dig that they might say hey this is my ass i can do what i want it's very challenging what are you going to do if you're trying to create or maintain create or maintain sacred space you've got to get it right within yourself you have to become the sacred space if you keep pushing it externally you're going to have to fight to protect it and people go to war calling it holy wars because they're thinking you have to fight to maintain your beliefs of your religion or your sacred space but in reality there shouldn't be a

fight in reality if we're all in our divinity we'll know what feels right for us and we simply say no we don't have to fight it's a such a clear no that all that is unlike this new energy all that is unlike it will sort of part ways the way moses part to see with god's power so just keep in mind that a sacred space is a holistic experience and it's an organic experience holistic means i'm in it my body and soul i'm here but holistic means i'm part of it holistic health is is to imply that

you're involved in your health it's not like i have an organ that's separate from me that needs fixed my mind body soul my emotions everything's contributing to my health holistically well sacred space is like that creating and maintaining a sacred space begins with me and on the inside not the outside the outside is fine it's okay just burn smudge and so on and so on it's okay to do all that but if you think it's the powerful and you're not how bizarre is that look a weed and it's oh

all powerful i'm nothing that makes no sense you forgot you created the weed the plant the flowers the smudges you you created we created this entire universe and then we pretend my life just is terrible you know what i need to light something up in more ways than one and then your life is going to be better you created it so people forget we're so external oriented i need something external to create a sacred space and what i'm saying correctively is no start here start anchoring more of god within

ourselves then start anchoring that god self into every environment you walk into you can make a sacred space into any location someone can be dying doesn't feel very sacred oh my god people are sad and it's the attitudes so you decide to show up and say how can i be here for you i'm going to hold space for you i'm going to reassure you even though you're scared or you're in pain i'm going to be here for you that's already shifting the vibration of the environment you're creating sacred space even though people

are upset and crying you're not choosing to go that direction you're choosing to say how can i make a difference today and i take your hand and i look at you reassure you eye eye to eye contact and comforting words you're creating a sacred space so human beings can go anywhere and create sacred space because it starts inside usually if you were to go to a workshop and we charged twenty dollars for a couple hours or something and it's called you know creating sacred space you're going to be hearing about

techniques about burning things and statuary but again you know welcome to our sacred space little waterfall in the background with only organic fiji water you know buddhas in every corner smudge sticks burning right namaste on my shirt you know om symbol or something but if i'm a jerk it's not a sacred space if if as i light the smudge stick i think the lighter's dead you know of course it's dead because that jerk of a partner of mine never went and got me one like i asked them to and you know you're where's the sacredness

it's got to be inside remember we all have some incongruences in our life we all have moments where you know lighting this much sick and you're having a bad day not a problem choosing to say wow i just realized i'm trying to light a smudge stick while i'm very upset hurt sad angry just see it and say i'm going to give this to you god that's called an altar an altar isn't to put stuff on to put self on so i put my stuff on the altar and then i say and i'd like to experience you instead

grace instead you're shifting your own frequency in seconds there's no amount of smudge you could have burned that would have done the same other than you you get so tired of burning it you eventually look inside again it's got to happen inside i'm not dissing the the rituals i love them personally you know aromatherapy and incense and smudge and wearing the crystals i think it's all just absolutely beautiful but i'm just aware that it has to happen on the inside first all the nice stuff without the inside being different

is is technically worthless this is one reason why many renegades from the catholic church uh martin luther and other many others why why they rebelled they said you have gold everywhere everything's velvety and robes and opulence because it's the roman catholic church rome was a disgusting civilization yes technology and wonderful things about it but the behaviors were not very sacred i mean murderous to say the least and then they turned it into a church that's kind of bizarre but i won't say anything more about that

other than the opulence kiss my ring you know have the the the wardrobe and the hat and the staff and the everything [Music] you know and you know frank and mer but there's harming altar boys and there's oppression of nuns and so it doesn't make sense so of course it's seen for what it is of course the book of revelation describes the great harlot which is the ego psychologically but in terms of history it became the roman catholic church now am i talking dissing catholicism or people no not the sincere people in it i'm talking

about the system but it's the same for paganism or anything else if all you do is the external rituals and not change the inside something's wrong it always has to come back to and how are you well i'm not doing well i think i'll light a sandalwood well that's not going to fix you consciousness is the only thing that can fix us everything is about consciousness and so we come to realize there's there's a way to create sacred space but it has to be done internally externally is nice and it

helps but it doesn't really do the major change i have to become the change i want to see in the world i have to become the sacred space then anywhere i go i bring a difference now for me one reason i came to this is because of my bizarre life and lifestyle constantly you know on planes and traveling and touring for all these decades and and i never thought for a minute god i wish i could create a sacred space because you can't light smudge on a plane you know it's just it doesn't work out okay so i realized

somehow in my early years i realized i'm being called on to do my work healing counseling whatever it is anywhere and everywhere i mean i'm at times i was literally at an amusement museum amusement park couple times i was in jungles in forests i was near ponds and also in you know the black the uh um what do they call blacktop jungle you follow i was everywhere so if i would have ever thought god i wish i could make a difference if only i had a nice healing room i had to do it everywhere and so it it taught me by default to be the

everywhere to bring it if you just love people enough that love is going with you when you walk out the door and to wherever you go so that became my way of going wow and now it's tempting it was tempting for me to go what a shame because this outside world everybody's believing in in you know you smudge and then you create sacred space or you spritz mother mary water and you created sacred space and i'm thinking they don't get it it's not really that way it's happening it has to happen in

here but i also grew to respect the other instead of seeing it as some sort of you know a low way of doing this it's fine to do the outside but the inside's the priority so that taught me bring whatever i need to bring sacred space and i've told stories about that stuff but i mean just i mean examples of just sitting next to somebody on a plane and suddenly it happens to where i'm being called on to ask them how they're doing you know take the headphones off and because something's happening and

inevitably tears start coming you know and it's it's an amazing thing try doing rage release on an airplane you know it's but i had to right now michael have them release some rage really okay this could go really badly but in the moment spirit will guide us if we stay open spirit will guide us and say you need to create a sacred space right now for this person okay how have them do this and this words prayer anchoring a rage release and i just have him take my fist and they don't have to scream just think

it go oh you know and get some of that out of your system it decompresses it makes room and now we can fill the room we've made with a little more god's presence and now we have a sacred space on an airplane the the one really odd story was the one time i did that with one of the uh security guards you know the police airport police without getting into all the details i went and got on a plane because it was time to board but because this was just after 9 11 flights were cancelled this is so i was traveling during 9 11

and and i was in the northeast and flights were canceled so i went and got on the plane and apparently it's illegal to get on an airplane when there's no pilot and crew so i was just doing you know on my ticket okay i walked on the plane sat there it was all you know innocent to me but then the security showed up sir what are you doing hands up yeah and what are you doing on the plane um flying um you know you're not allowed on the flight plane there's no crew and who lets you on well i gave the ticket

to the lady and so they had to you know go check well they left one security guard with me a female and the other one or two went to check out all these stories and find out if i was a criminal so um the long story short i'm standing there and she's just you know trying to make sure i'm intimidated staring at me and all that and then i said how long have you been having migraines she's like you know what how long have you been having migraines oh god all my life really you know so i started talking to her you know so

it started when i was 12 my father died and i took on the burden of the family and it was up to me to bring home the money and it was a lot of pressure a lot of ten migraines started well you know come here for a second you know she comes and i'm starting to work you know hands on and do certain accu points to kind of really she's like oh my god it's going in the meantime the other security could come guards come on and i'm like you know touching this person you know so you know it's kind of strange

but um no matter who it is and no matter where you are it's in consciousness you could say it's your intention but i don't want to use the word intention as though i'm conveying just like casual um you know i'll just set an intention heartfelt intention absolute commitment to what you're doing not just i will now set an intention but i'm talking about mind body and soul believing in how much you care about people and how you'd like to make a difference that all starts to weave something really

beautiful so there are five primary components to creating sacred space and they happen on the inside first that's the priority outside is great i've already said it burn this and statue that it's beautiful we have those things in here we have them in our property it's beautiful as an accent it doesn't do the being it doesn't make up for the consciousness we have to be the consciousness a way to create sacred space the way really to do that first and foremost loving and respect loving respect for whomever you're

working with loving respect for this building or this property or this site i've gone on sacred sites tours guys a lot and people go you know i'm going to go there and it's going to change me if you don't want to change nothing's going to change you the great pyramid could levitate and then drop on you and it will not change you'll just reincarnate as the same person you work it's not going to make you different it can't make you none of these they're rocks they're buildings they're trees they're

things you're the creator of all of it they bow before you when you know who you are so i go to these sacred sites and people oh wow and this is gonna and i'm like what i like even more than the sights and the visions and i'm not dissing the places i love them but what i like my priority is the sacredness and the people joining me on the sacred site you know the tour i love that and if the people can't act sacred i'm not interested in going any sites with you and if it's not too personal i'm like

that in relationships as well over my life i've had a couple of intimate friendships in my life and if you interviewed any of them they would say here's how michael is if people are not being nice you're not going to get anything from him so i could be in an intimate relationship but if that person's being rude to one of my other friends or whatever it'll be like work it out get back to me goodbye i'm not interested i don't care how how long i've known them how close i am to how attractive they are how sexy

i don't care about anything of the external if this doesn't feel right you lose me got that gotta feel there's loving respect and in human conditions you know there's competitions and rivalry and stuff like you know even within groups and all that tight groups friendship groups and i was always telling them no when you guys are getting a long call on me oh we're all going to go get dinner now i'm on tour or sacred sites or i'm on tour just teaching tour and there's friends that are at those sites

michael we're going to all go get some dinner but i hear you no i'll be in my room see you that's how i was probably a drag of a person to be around or to have in your life to think of as it's our teacher or it's our friend or it's it's a partner you know it's an intimate friend whatever level they just knew and it was probably a drag for them because they they knew you know if we start acting too funky or getting in too much in their ego he doesn't want to hang around us you

know so sacred sites involve loving respect i have to have it for you you have to have it for me we have to have it for each other to the best of our ability but loving respect isn't the end it's got to go loving respect and then there has to be an element of safety safety means the loving respect has manifested because obviously without loving respect you can't really ever anchor safety you could talk it people can talk sacred space but is it really there if this is sacred then you're safe but so is the space so

if if there's a person who's acting rude and disruptive in a service or or during the week for that matter if someone's doing that this is a sacred space they're allowed to say anything they want no only if it's congruent with the sacred space we through intention and consciousness we say this is the vibration of this place called unity of sedona for example and someone steps into it any day and they act incongruent say no and we've had people god we you know we've had people camping out on the grounds at like at the other

location and and using the lawn area to sleep which is i would too it's attractive it was calm serene except they used the that little area as a toilet as well so we had to say no and you know we got oh you guys aren't spiritual man you guys are hypocrites thank you for sharing i'll let you know if ever we care about your ego's opinions of us and the odds are i will never be interested what you're doing is not okay say sorry and don't do it and you stay there again see apologies and immense go a long way but

when people want to you to blame you for being bad when you're holding space don't buy into it again psychopaths demons narcissists they don't want that they don't want you to hold sacred space they want everything in the world to be unsacred they want it to be scary unsafe and so on and they will do everything they can to ruin your space if you've ever lived with one of these types of people oh man you know wow look out i mean i had a dad that was like that where i had to be careful not to look

too happy because he would make sure and go after it if you've ever lived with partnered with or whatever it's that same negative kind of behavioral and psychological type of being doesn't mean they're bad they're just wounded but when your woundedness causes you to start wounding others it's inappropriate and it needs called for healing so loving respect is first safety is second i'm talking about in anything here at unity of sedona you know safety someone's acting up acting up you know what you have a no trespass

order if we have to it's only happened a couple times in our 12 years that i've been here but it's it's okay to do if you've got somebody doing this to you in your life get a restraining order the restraining order doesn't create the sacred space your choice to love yourself enough to get one was what created the sacred space you get what i'm saying there it's in here it's in your being i care i matter oh my god bing light bulb i matter already as sacredness is entering the space

because if i matter i must be worthy if i'm worthy that must be coming from some divinity or knowingness of my divinity and that's what brings sacred space my true self loving respect for yourself and others safety absolutely and the categories business corporate business your household intimate partnerships intimacy sexuality all of them have the same five steps rules loving respect if you're going to be intimate make sure you feel loving respect with somebody or for somebody not in love just a loving respect

there also needs to be a safety involved are we are we feeling safe can we really say that this this has a great vibration to it yes safety should be involved but there also needs to be a level of responsibility third so if we suddenly start to feel unsafe i need to take responsibility to turn this around and to do that the fourth thing is called communication because if i'm going to practice responsibility but not communicate my needs i'm not being very responsible you see what i'm saying any one of these missing

it will corrupt the others and then it's not what i'm hoping it would be and i mean people um they seek partnerships people see having children people buy 15 cats they do all kinds of things which are external ways of really trying to fill love lots of doing burn smudge do all these things to create a sacred space but you're not getting it on the inside so you have yet another child to help bring you and your partner closer together and it doesn't work because it's got to happen inside so the sacred space the loving respect

safety community responsibility and communication if you've got those four the fifth one comes naturally and it's called trust and surrender oh my god trust and surrender it's it's like uh in a way it would be like um you were a nervous wreck about singing because of low self-worth and all that and yet you had some friends that were performing a song and you oh it's your life's dream to be able to go up on stage and sing with somebody once you see but you're too nervous but if you step up there

and they create enough music and enough fun and no judgment you might be able to step up there more easily than if you had doubts about any of it so when we create a safe enough space i swear people can more easily step into it what we think is it's like i need everybody else to create the sacred space and until they do i'm not stepping into anything well that's a wounded person if you want to see the change in the world you have to be the change you have to step in at least try a little it's not like you have to have

it perfected just come out a little now if if i have a shy three-year-old or if i have a wounded 53 year old partner i still have to i can ask myself how can i create more of a sacred space here what does sacred mean safe as well remember they're all synonymous how can i create a safe space i've shared this story before but real briefly one time on tour and i was in north carolina at a unity or whatever church on a sunday and i remember the um the band members it was a couple and they had a little daughter and and i just i just remember

that they were like michael our our daughter's gonna um perform with us today but she's very shy and you know and she's you know whatever you know and she might not be able to do it so you know and she was gonna do the sacred reading of the day i'm like okay you know i haven't heard that one before but okay they want a little girl to come up and do the sacred reading and they're like but don't don't be surprised if she bails on it i'm like well we'll see what happens i don't know these people i

don't know the kid i don't know any of it i'm just a guest so i step up there it's time for the sacred reading and you know like we the same kind of format we have here and i'm looking at the little girl sitting right here and she starts more and more sinking in her chair and leaning towards her mom and the mom's catching on and she gives me the eye like sorry that's okay so i come up here and i go okay you know so um the the reading is going to come out of the daily word today little brochure they sometimes have and

i said oh i i don't know what what what page is it honey what page you know and she go it's page 12. she answers me okay thanks i don't i uh can you help me find it she comes up on the stage see i flew in under the radar you know i'm like you know she goes okay it's right there and she starts to leave i go oh wait wait i forgot my glasses i don't even wear glasses i was lying to the child and i'm fine with it i don't care so you know can you can you and she's like okay let's just

read the first few words and then she reads oh no no move the mic the the source of all love i'll go ahead and finish that sound she finishes the sentence can you do the next one just one more she does another one i go here just finish it you know sneaking it in there if i would have said hold on everyone we have a child here who's going to do a sacred reading lights ladies and gentlemen here she she couldn't have done it creating sacred space means creating safe space i had to fly in under the radar and it

was beautiful and i mean she went and sat down and she caught onto and people are applauding before she caught on they're applauding she's done and the mom just cuddles her and looks at her just said thank you she'd never been able to do that in her life always wanted to she would have been different after that moment because once you've done it you broke some of the ice you kind of cracked things open a bit creating sacred space is all consciousness and it involves bridging it involves inspirations and bridging to

know what to say what to do at any given moment you know the human race is sticks still so stuck in linear thinking that they don't think outside the box it's either come up here never mind apparently she's too shy let's humiliate her even though you're not trying to that's what you're doing oh i'm sorry oh and i've seen this happen where they'll go oh someone's a bit shy you know unfortunately that's that's sort of layering in some there's something wrong with you i don't

believe that i'm like heck no there's got to be a way to get you up here and i know it you want to be up here your your little self is saying you can't do it what can i do to get you to trust and come up here i'll light myself on fire if i have to and say quick extinguisher whatever it's going to take because i believe you can get up here i absolutely believe it so that loving respect safety responsibility because if she would have been brought up by me and i snuck in there asked her to read

and she still couldn't and broke down crying i would have had to take responsibility that i tried and it didn't work out i i tried and if if somebody's upset her mom's upset that she was crying i have to own that i risked that and it didn't work out responsibility if i'm doing this if i can tell you hi nice to meet you and we're dating and we'd like to get to know each other and have a relationship here's what you can count on most of the time whether it's 80 90 you can count on loving respect you can

count on safety you can tell me anything i have clients that can tell me anything and they do tell me anything if a client says no i don't want to talk about that we'll cease having you as my client i'm not interested and therefore they typically don't shut down and lock up because they know there's a sacred space here you know tell me about such and such they'll go how did you even know about that when you see people they're they're going to trust more believe it or not sometimes the fear the ones that fear

love or fear being seen they will contract but generally people open up when you create a space they can come out and i've seen that you know so often through my life i've seen you know um as being a little kid as a boy very shy but but there were times when there were adults that could catch on to that it might have been um one or two very rare like family members uh distant family it might have been um i think a couple times the parents of friends would be a little more like able to see me you can tell when people are seeing you

and opening up space for you you know give it a try come on out it's okay because they when they see the real you they know you can pull it off and when you feel their knowingness it does make it easier it's like they're canceling out your ego today so it's very profound and you know it's like wow okay so let me give that a shot i've had a couple school teachers that say you know this isn't michael who doesn't like being in school this isn't michael who never brings you know a pencil or a book

i didn't have books that's why i didn't bring them well why didn't you have books because i gave them back to the office i found them to be useless so i went through school and and never ever ever had a school book in my few years of high school i just made a vow i won't need those i won't be needing those so i never had one my locker was empty it was empty the only thing i had in my locker was uh um permission slips to skip class i i i grabbed a bunch out of the office and i borrowed their stamp and stamped

you know a bunch of them and then i would give them to friends that were in trouble it was kind of amazing out of my little office you missed class okay come here did you miss class or was it the whole day because i have two stacks one was pink one one was pink one was white they were all approved in the office so i was giving these things out you know anyway uh and and at the last day of high school i created a little ceremony where i passed these on to another so so anyway that's michael in high school so when people see us they see beyond the

the michael's notebooks and and they go you know like like i i remember a couple of family members one very psychic aunt who they thought was nuts of course but she you know she's like michael would you like me to do a tarot reading i think i was in sixth grade sure and you know my dad people are like oh brother you know and and oh my goodness what now i'm expecting her to say things they always say she's like you're you're going to make a big difference in the world my dad's like yeah

you know he's like i don't think so you know they're making all their cynical comments but feeling that someone could see me and know what was happening inside of here was huge she was creating a sacred space even in a room with family members that were rude and hurtful she created right now there's only you and i two or more gathered with one intention and something was changing in the room and and i can remember it to this day okay all of us any of us are capable how can i put out in the world right now loving respect to a

person to a group or whatever it is loving respect how can i also bring a sense of safety you can tell me anything was one of my ways of doing that a sense of safety responsibility because at the end of the day you know you if you're a client of mine and i ask you 10 questions and you answer them all and then you regret answering one of them you need to take responsibility you didn't have to answer that question is that making sense and it's the same with whatever else we do be responsible and communicate your

needs communica even if i know your needs communicate them because i want you to come out and meet me somewhere here so that i'm not meeting a ghost of you that you can later say well it wasn't there so if you get these first four if i am loving and respectful if i am a safe person for you if i am a responsible person and i communicate technically you can trust and surrender if i as a parent put these first four my child can trust and surrender you know what humans do light a smudge stick and leap they trust and surrender when the

components are not there and then they blame everybody else if you're going to go to a chiropractor trust and surrender it would be a drag to say okay adjust me go ahead and tense up and if i were them i wouldn't do it no why don't we talk about this let's tell you and work it to where i need to see all five components trust and surrender it's like oh my god when when people create trust and surrender like you guys do for me to talk about whatever i want to talk about when when a space of trust and surrender

the whole five points is there then i have a sacred space here's what happens when we feel a sacred space our muscles relax our endocrine glands light up and we sort of feel like we can dance i mean literally you just kind of walked like wow i just you feel alive that fifth component is very organic it just kind of emerges because someone or ones have stepped up and created a safe space don't be waiting for the world to constantly do that i recommend you learn the techniques you'll learn you know contemplate these within

yourself how can i create sacred space today go ahead light smudge do whatever whatever but don't forget these five i notice that i'm being loving i notice that the space is safe i feel like i'm being responsible but i'm not communicating then you're blowing them out don't expect the fifth communicate come out but i can't why well i just don't feel safe oh let's go back there what are you not feeling safe about well i'm afraid i'll be judged okay good point because if you're

the counselor or you're their healer or you're their friend partner parent i'm feeling like if you tell me if i tell you something you're going to judge me okay then thank you for letting me know that because what i'm going to do then is shift my consciousness into total acceptance if i notice that i'm failing at it i'll pause you and back out for a moment you see what i'm saying i can make little micro adjustments along the way but you thank you for telling me that you were afraid that i

might not be safe or if you thought i wasn't communicating things that i was feeling to you i can promise you uh um i there's nothing i won't tell you or whatever show up and do the corrective things necessary if you complain about people not trusting you please consider if you've left out any of these pieces if you complain your child won't confide in you look back at these i'm not saying that they're right for not trusting they're correct or that their distrust is accurate but what can i do here

uh one time a daughter of mine came in my office and um i could tell she was just kind of you know so what's going on nothing yeah you know but i didn't say wait a minute what is it spotlight um i sat for a moment thought i'm asking and i'm asking but she's not giving up any information here's what i did i went what if it was a client that was acting like this and so i said oh i got up from my chair at the desk i went and sat on the cushy chair that i had there you know kind of a softer chair for guests

or whatever clients i sat down and said come here and i had her sit with me and i just held her and she started crying and crying and crying and then told me whatever was going on part of what she needed was to know that i was there at my desk i wasn't because i'm working but i made the external shift didn't i but did you hear me i said i also shifted in here i didn't just change chairs oh this chair's sacred i shifted into listening and like a client totally objective and totally how can i be helpful not a

dad but as a soul and it made the difference so think about this in your own lives there are certainly times and i'm not asking you to go and dredge them all up there are times when you haven't felt one of these pieces therefore you couldn't trust and surrender literally sometimes i i was going to play you know a song you know i was going to become a musician but it wasn't safe i got humiliated i backed out completely your life could have reached a crossroads that totally went south because it didn't have these components

that's kind of sad right go back and get them give yourself these the permission i can say it saying it is easy it takes a little bit of learning and it takes a little bit of vulnerability and it takes a little this and that to kind of step into that but create friends and counselors don't just go to a counselor who you know um you know just kind of sits and takes notes ask them to be progressive ask them to to take you into homework to give you homework to go somewhere um i remember a friend of mine said you

know michael because he'd been a counselor for 30 years already and he said you know michael you're raising kids if ever you want to chat i know we're friends but if ever you want to talk you know let me know i went and sat with him my very first appointment which 20 years later he said by the way i'll never i still never forgot that because he said the first words when you sat down i only want to work with you if you can forget that i'm michael mirdad i gave him permission to say anything if

you don't agree with me tell me if you need to make an adjustment to my direction of parenting tell me see what i'm saying i gave a safe space for him to go wherever he needs to go and that was important because there might have always been a subtle well you know he's a teacher he might not want to hear this or no peel it off if you can't peel it off then i don't want you to to talk to me as a counselor so i've got to be responsible and i've got to communicate and then i found with him

as i've learned with friends too i can trust and surrender that's the ticket intimate relationships i don't want to meet somebody and trust and surrender which we call hot can we have these other components well that's kind of you know it's kind of a buzz kill you want to do internal stuff like really you want to talk about safety and why can't we just go for it um no right dismissed be the change you'd like to be in the world create these steps and don't be too bewildered when you don't have this one it's simple

one of these is missing i don't have to be in love with you but do i have loving respect for you is this a safe space am i willing to be responsible and ask you to be and are we communicating if we've got those thank you thank you beloved brother sister i don't care what you are you're a board member you're an intimate friend you're a child you're a parent of mine what if we have these i can let go and you know what we want in this world to be able to let go people's the musculature the minds everything is

constricted and tense what do we really want to let go permission to let go to cry to to feel to be in love to laugh some people aren't even given permission to laugh in their lives brought up so restricted that old school that old age is dying and it's dying fast and i'm glad that it's dying the new age that we're upon now is one where people are going to dance they're going to just channel the spirit of god uninhibitedly but to do so you can't just say i want to do that and hurtful

to others got to have these components i'm going to let go but am i safe in my letting go am i being respectful see it still has to have all those components please take a few centering breaths let the muscles relax ah use the breath as a statement of letting go contemplate what we've shared today

and gracefully just let it all float through our mind and just accept what works for us there's a way i can come out [Music] there's a way i can dance there's a way i can sing [Music] there's a place there's a space it's the sacred space i would love for others to create that space for me but i also can choose to do it for myself right now what if what if there was no area in my life and no people that

caused the opposite components the opposite of love respect the opposite of safety the opposite of responsibility the opposite of communication and constricting me what if right now in this present moment none of that exists and i just am [Music] i am release all that is unlike safety releasing doubts and fears in our mind and those projected by others [Music]

treating ourselves like we would a child that deserved to feel loved and supported safe [Music] calm [Music] see yourselves dancing and twirling the carelessness of a child be as a child that's what jesus says you need to do to enter the kingdom of heaven let go let god [Music] is there anything you ever wanted to do in your life but the space was not made ready for you look at it and cast it behind you

goodbye and make a different choice so what if i created a sacred space more and more in my life and what if i did so for others look at the vibration of every room look at the feelings changing [Music] feel grateful feel expanded in your heart and soul feel excited but grateful i did it there's safety there's movement there's freedom i can be free at last free of opinions and oppressions

of my own and others all free and soak that in for a moment [Music] [Music] ah [Music] serene and hear these words from spirit from the highest that we know to be imagine

these words from a glorious loving universe yesterday my beloved you were talking sacred space today you were practicing sacred space but now tomorrow you will be sacred space because you lived it and applied it and so it is very nice thank you folks thank you bear there had to have been a day

that that bear didn't ha you know he hadn't already played a flute and he had to get somewhere through these to the place of playing flute the place of you know let me let go let me just and it's a great metaphor right the the flow the the playing of the wind the spirit the presence it's for anybody and for all people so just think about that guys just you know not not just the educational aspect of what we covered but the beautiful healing aspect you know to be able to say you can do this you know go ahead try again

creating sacred space believing in people and we all have our moments i'm not in the mood to believe in anybody i'm not even believing in myself we have those moments it's okay still do your best to surrender that to god and ask to feel grace instead that way god can start working on you directly and or calling in other people that know how to create sacred space for you and come to you to help you out on a given you know bad day so i pray that this has really um been seen and absorbed what we're

talking about um i think it's profound i really do i'm very grateful that these things came to me the understanding came to me i would really have regretted doing all these years of healing with a belief if only i had had a sacred room space to do my healings i bet they would have even been better that would mean i'm selling myself short and all my clients isn't that a bummer didn't you have a great healing well yeah it was about 80 of what it could have been could have been more if i would have had a room

god you know to be able to confidently bring that and i pray that you can really hear this because i i absolutely have seen this and lived this when it came to children it made a difference in all kinds of areas uh you know interactions with people and healings and the the spontaneous miracles that are you know arose from my believing in these principles i didn't think him i didn't sit there and go okay let me measure the communication right now i didn't have to think it it just became very natural because sacred space is organic

it's waiting to be activated but it takes a consciousness to do so fear naturally constricts there's no sacredness and love automatically expands as long as people feel safe they can come out a bit more i don't care what they've done and i love that i love when people say well there's something i can't tell anybody absolutely tell me whatever i love that i set an intention that they naturally go and i can't tell you how often i hear how often i hear this i don't know why i'm telling you this

you know why because this is created when people see that they step into it you know it's like water bird just a matter of time you know it's just a matter of time you create the space a toy a child with the you know this little toddler or whatever sees a toy and then you know a book let me go study what you're a toddler like the toy it's natural place the space there and people will come to it if you build it they will come so thank you we're going to take up our collection to do our closing prayer

how beautiful imagine this being a regular thing in your life god i mean you're standing in a grocery line and i don't know why i'm telling you this i mean i'm just here buying wheaties and i'm telling you about childhood abuse your space right there it's like oh it happens all the time see make him feel normal instead of well i don't know why you're telling me either right no no isn't this beautiful that you can tell me like anything my god i've been at celebrity events where

where i'm sitting with somebody in the you know they start just here it comes you know and i'm like here we go i mean it's so funny it's just so normal once you realize i'm not here to add to the opposite i'm here to add to this and this is my only desire this is what i love doing and being this sacred space it's the coolest thing i think that every counselor minister parent etc and human being knows this on some level but i don't think they all know the details of what they need to implement

to bring the space to sacredness and if you can't do it for you don't think you're going to be able to do it for others you got to know how to come out yourself you know and be a little vulnerable and be a little transparent you know i've got some hurts here's what they are you know in the right time the right sacred space to be able to share as well yourself i i do this every sunday a little something you know of my life and whatever i probably wouldn't have been doing that 30 years ago

i wouldn't have uh well for all the various external reasons internal reasons i don't know that i would have felt safe enough and all those other components in it with audiences does that make sense because it's not supposed to happen it's not appropriate etc but i'm an integrated being then i'm going to have integrated stories hey there's a god this and that and the other and you know what yesterday i was really struggling about something and that's just the way it is i don't

want to do hours of that piece because some people you know it can be a little narcissistic in a way to go too far into that it's just the appropriate amount to say and here's where i'm at a nice integrated experience so thank you folks for being a great reflection of that our board members our chaplains our volunteers i myself all of us really appreciate what we've created this is the real deal okay this this is you know not coke is the real thing this is the real thing this is the real thing when you can say

i can share anything and and i can share it and some of you might not like it but you'll still probably do your best to have loving respect for me and that still helps me well even though you didn't like hearing that story thank you for at least allowing it you see it's beautiful and and we've had rare occasions where somebody you know doesn't like something when i've shared things like having worked with people from you know seedier kind of environments if i talk about uh working with porn stars which i've

counseled and people like that i i mean i've had people say that's it we're never coming back to send a you know some sort of letter uh we will never come back because you know you you dabble in that world and we responded and said and that reaction you gave us is why we need to work with people of that nature to change this kind of topic in this world see if you didn't judge these things some of these people probably wouldn't even go in that direction we have judged categories and so they're

going to keep coming back as issues in our lives you know so we just tell them sorry that you feel that way but if if i said i'm not going to talk about and shame it it becomes ashamed category on planet earth i can't i've got to open it up and shine light on it and sometimes it doesn't work for some people do your best to be true to yourself thank you we're going to do our closing prayer if you please stand and again for those you know who are aware of the day it's it's father's day by coincidence

today and um happy father's day to you now who am i talking to the fathers no i'm talking to the father aspect of god in us all um so if you've ever sparked life somewhere if you've ever inspired somebody onto a new direction in their life any time you've played the father aspect of god whether it's the protector whatever you perceive to be the father aspect of god i and we and god itself gives thanks to you for doing that thanks for being a safe father even the moms and even little ones

thank you for being the safe father any time you weren't the same father look at it own it give it to god and replace it with the safe father we all can make mistakes but anytime you have been a safe father thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you for making such a great decision for yourself and that will just the good karma from that will keep expanding through the world a few centering breaths the light of god surrounds us the love of god unfolds us the power of god protects us we are the power of god

and the presence of god watches over us we are the presence of god wherever we go god is i am we are and so it is thank you god bless you