Relationships: The Effect of Unhealthy Patterns [Short]

hello everyone it's michael mirdad here and it's time for our friday night spiritual insights with michael my dad appreciate you joining us today i want to talk about in a sense patterns so we can call them relationship patterns but um it's not just to say on a linear level the the obvious relationship patterns like i've had uh two partners that were emotionally unavailable you know you've probably known people like that or you yourself have had that circumstance it's not just that level

i'm talking about really recognizing the deep layers and levels of that in our lives you might not realize it you may not want to realize it but whatever goes on in our life there are core beliefs that we have those core beliefs in our heart and soul stored in our long term deep levels of our consciousness that carry with us from life time to lifetime and then those core beliefs manifest as a couple of core issues could be like a couple literally uh could be abandonment could be betrayal could be low self-worth but those couple of core

issues then start to manifest as core patterns and patterns means it starts to broaden more so a couple of core beliefs become a few i should say a few core core uh issues so core um beliefs become core issues and then those core issues become core patterns and after those core patterns which are more than where we start it's like a pyramid starts as a couple little beliefs then some core issues that are maybe a little more numerous core patterns become several but still not hundreds several what becomes hundreds is are are

basically our experiences and i'm not accidentally naming these things these are actually moving down the chakras meaning in the higher self you're totally fine but when we descend down into our soul we start to have some core beliefs about ourselves inevitably it's related to something like as though we're flawed and then it manifests flawed becomes you know unlovable or things like that core beliefs i'm unlovable then that becomes a few more in number the core issues and those core issues are very few

people can even track their their personal experiences to core issues but that's the solar plexus core patterns in the naval center and then our primary experiences are the root chakra that's the day-to-day life the material shocker the material life so that which starts off with just a couple of erroneous beliefs about ourselves ends up multiplying and coming down to the root chakra manifesting in our day-to-day lives as hundreds of experiences you could say thousands of experiences but it's interesting because hidden

behind those many experiences things when you're two years old two and a half years old five years old on and on and on and i mean it could be several per day experiences but when you track them down you'll realize if i could name just using a round number it's it's really in the thousands but just using a round number 100 uncomfortable experiences i've had in my life and there's also of course nice ones but we're going to talk about challenges right now 100 challenging experiences in my life

believe it or not those 100 they're not a hundred they're manifesting as a hundred but they're not really a hundred those one hundred are probably ten or so patterns that keep refracting into several looking events or experiences so um i might have a pattern of being rejected and that could happen every day of my life but it's really only one pattern rejection but behind rejection there's a core issue behind the core issue a core belief that i'm unlovable so one core belief unlovable can become

a couple more core issues several more core patterns and hundreds more common experiences isn't that amazing so we're sitting around thinking of all these things that go wrong in my life they're actually few in number compared to what you think they are they're few if you work on the few you'll clear the many if you try to work on the many you'll never catch up it just can't happen there's it's they're too numerous and the eagle wants you chasing nothing it doesn't want you to work on

anything but if you're gonna work on yourself your ego wants you to to address only the surface level of the way too many experiences to to deal with uh you say i'm going to start working on some hurts that i've had the ego's going to make you go god i've got look let me sit there and look at this i've got too many to look at and it'll overwhelm you it'll burn you out make you depressed and then you won't work on yourself anymore you'll tend towards addictions and drinking and numbing yourself and so on

but if you can learn to go into the core issues core patterns core you know beliefs you're narrowing things down tremendously so how do you get there because well you can't because core beliefs are held deep in the soul most people don't know how to have dialogue with their soul my tracking exercise that i developed a zillion years ago helps you do that there are some other healing techniques that can help you do to some degree or another tracking i call it going back and looking for the the core root patterns

um so find any of those mine you can use the tracking exercise it's free it's in my um healing the heart and soul book but it's also a free download as a sort of a script you can use to follow it's on my website under downloads and then under downloads i'm sorry uh it's under teachings a tab and then under teachings downloads and open it up and you can download that one it's free but it's invaluable the tracking exercise i have done that with people i mean how many sessions have i done in my life

it's got to be in the hundreds per month times 12 per year times what 40 years of sessions uh it's it's an unbelievable number of people i've worked with in my life and to think that the tracking exercise which is relatively simple to do and you just get the in the used to you know in the flow of it and it's it's beautiful you can do a short version of it short form i call it a medium form or a longer form as a therapist or as a healer as a parent for that matter you know you just can help people just bam bam

bam technique just to look things you know look back at where the pattern is see you're naming many things but it's a pattern and when you say hi michael i i need a session i uh somebody broke my heart they left me i hear you and they did okay so you're sad and i hear it we're gonna i'm gonna offer comfort and support but i'm also gonna say a tracking exercise would lead you to other times you felt this way i don't mean other times a person with the same hair color a person with the same name that same

person did this to you i'm not talking about over obvious patterns i'm saying you look at the feeling because feelings take you in to where the patterns are because the patterns are rooted in the feelings so you use the two of those the patterning and the feeling and they bring you to each other they converge and they show you what's really going on and you realize oh my goodness that's the ticket i've got a lot going on under the surface that i didn't realize this this isn't the first time i felt

rejected this isn't the first time i felt betrayed this is a pattern in my life wait what did he just say it's a pattern in my life who's life mine so it isn't just michael i'm mad this person left me betrayed me i'm actually mad because i've been betrayed and this isn't the first time and therefore i'm the common denominator so this isn't just about what others did this is also i carry a pattern with me all right that said i want to segue now into patterns and relationships because if

you had the misfortune in your life let's say for example let's say in your current life right now current relation um i don't have anybody um i'm feeling alone and you look deeper into that and you go well why am i alone well i had a partner and they they betrayed me or they rejected me and they laughed and so they caused me to be alone today today today on the calendar today i'm alone because if i track it back they left me 10 days ago 10 years ago whatever that's too linear and logical but you're

on the right course of action at least you're realizing today's loneliness is not today it's someone did something here in the past then you realize well wait i look back further and i realize oh my god even when i was in my family's house we had 13 kids and i still felt alone whoa see alone is not new and it didn't start when your person in your life rejected you 10 years ago 10 days or whatever it was you realize my family did so a psychiatrist a psychologist a counselor a therapist they're often going to take

you back to what your family did or didn't do which is good it's it's very effective very helpful but that still didn't help us get to the fact that i'm still the common denominator and that means if i die today and if there's such a thing as reincarnation and i come back tomorrow i still have the same pattern in me because it's mine it's not what my parents did only they contributed yes they exacerbated the condition true but when i really think about it wow i i'm playing a part here

and if you really want to look honestly and vulnerably you start to realize the chances are if i look back in other lifetimes it's still there too it's you don't look for the cause look for the pattern if you try to look for the cause which the ego loves us to do it ends up at the very best first of all most people will never find the cause the real cause second of all even if you found it you'll if you've found the cause you're gonna use it to blame someone that's not spiritual healing

that's still head trips so good for you you're the sherlock holmes of the universe you track down who it is that first offended you keep looking because there's other lifetimes i mean how far back do you go the very first lifetime that somebody rejected me they're the ones to blame and so now your parents that rejected you didn't do it okay they're all to blame i hate them all justifiably i hate them all i'm judging them all i don't like them all is that bringing you peace i said spiritual healing

it's not spiritual healing to associate blame i'm also not saying don't blame and don't don't uh don't be honest with yourself that people did this and that if they hurt you i understand you can say that yeah but what they did is they contributed don't say they caused they contributed and they did what do i want to do with it now you know i learned to not trust men i'd learn to not be honest vulnerable i learned i can't i can't share love and expect love to come back and so on and all those kinds of

statements and things um what are you gonna do about it oh okay i'm going to do the opposite i'm just going to leap off a cliff and say catch me to my next potential partner and and trust them to take responsibility for me i didn't say that either to extremes um you don't blame and don't overtly overly trust untrustworthy people you start getting in touch with this person who is carrying patterns of unlovable we all carry in the core of our heart a belief that we're flawed everything else comes from that are we

flawed no it's an erroneous assumption or belief it's not true but we do believe it on some level the deep knowing of our divine i am presence knows dang well that that's not possible we are absolutely loved and lovable but dang in the heart the ego planted this seed but what if you're flawed take a look at it if you're not flooded then why did they reject you why did they betray you why do you get older why do you age why do you get sick it has all this evidence when we're in three dimensional world

or bodies and so we buy it once we buy it we take it hook line and sinker and we carry it with us as a pattern in here and in our being and we take it through one life to another carrying these core beliefs that manifest as patterns that manifest as events in our life because the events in our life are going to mirror outside what we're feeling and believing inside absolutely true our job how do i get past that tracking true true soul level healing so consider for yourselves however wherever you can do that

where can i bring healing into my life where can i do some soul level healing tracking surrendering and replacing it with something new if i have core beliefs that i'm flawed i have the right to surrender that core belief which is what prayer is all about but i have a right to surrender that core belief and replace it with something new like what how about love and self-worth instead of flawed and unlovable call in the opposite you have the right to it is eventually going to be found by everybody to be our

true inheritance right now most people just don't even believe they can do it and i'm saying not only can you it's inevitable everyone will find that deservability in themselves at some point in their lives okay we just get to decide when so i send out prayers to you that you'll choose today to be a day where you say what if and just play with this if not for 10 minutes can you really can you go for an hour can you go for the rest of the day after watching this can you can you shoot for the whole

weekend where you're just going to say what if what if it's not true that i'm flawed what if it's true instead that i am the embodiment of love then how would i treat myself differently i know how i would treat myself if i'm flawed and unlovable but what if that's not true and i'm instead whole made in the image of god what if i'm holy what if i'm a divine being how might i treat myself differently that doesn't mean that if you slip you should judge yourself just just play with it and see see if you can

raise the volume on the number of times raise the the ratio on the number of times you could maybe be gentler or nicer to yourself versus the condemnation just try it out and at the end of every day if you can practice it for a few days or the rest of your life hopefully at the end of each day just stop and say to yourself god you know i did it like there were a few times i was really ragging on myself and i surrendered it and turned it around and said but what if i'm lovable and i just felt peace try it out

and remember to give thanks for every one of those moments that you succeeded because if i if i had a child before me and i could help that child experience love and self-worth versus you know self-condemnation or that they're flawed you know if i had a child in front of me who came from a world of everybody i'm flawed and i'm unlovable or an animal that's been abused like that god wouldn't it do my heart good to help them believe differently it would and i say to you please try that for yourself and then

soak in how nice it is to have felt something different than when you started all right all right guys thank you so much for this brief sharing and taking time to to let me share this it's nice to do these snippets of reality you know bring that into our lives somehow anchor that in all right so god bless you all thank you for your time be patient with yourself and there's going to be those who want to play out the old patterns there's going to be people that want to play out they want to still be your persecutors

your nags your fault finders you know which are patterns of ours they're they're just hired because of the pattern you know it's a pattern they've got and uh you can say you know not you're fired i hate you but you can say we're letting you go for lack of work there's no there's no place there's nobody interested here in that particular drama anymore okay just let people be retired for lack of work let them go i don't mean literally although sometimes we literally do i mean in here

you're retired from playing the roles in my drama patterns all right so god bless you all thank you for your time join us anytime 5 30 on fridays 10 o'clock on sundays and then there's sometimes classes and workshops i do in between if you want to know any more about it you're welcome to go on my website and get on my mailing list you can go to unity of sedona and get on the mailing list that you know carries a lot of the things that i'm doing in my life teachings workshops and so on so join us

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