Power of Affection–Short

hello everyone welcome back it's time for another episode of our spiritual insights with friday night spiritual insights with michael mirdad let's talk about um the effects of intimacy as or affection i should say um affection which is a form of intimacy but the form of affection for healing believe it or not affection is probably the most underrated technique as it were um in all healing arts and i'm not talking about like like something physical per se yes physical affection but not sexual per se nothing like that it's

it's more like a feeling that i care doctors nurses counselors social workers that's called affection acts of affection now not just kindness like i wish you well the act of taking a hand the act of putting a hand on someone's shoulder the act of just eye contact that can all be you know properly seen perceived experienced as a healing technique you know but it doesn't have to be actual adjustments of the spine surgeries of the body and so on when i say touch i'm talking about the intention the kindness behind it all

you know um i mean it's kind of a funny thing because the the word affection we think we share affection with our partners or maybe our children or whatever it might be um you know people try to share love with others but as long as you see them as others there's no real union there's no real true connection it's always me trying to help you or get something from you to give or to get i know that may sound strange but true healthy affection would have no agendas and no thoughts of anybody lacking needy

it's more of a i understand that you seem sad lonely hurt whatever i'm not gonna let myself program you in my consciousness as that label for you i'm gonna see that as a temporary experience how can i help that's kindness that's love that's you know love in action and um affection is another way to do that you know love can really god love can really only be experienced in a sense of oneness if i'm separate from you i'm not able to pull off i mean there there's no intimacy when people are separate the whole idea

of into me c means i don't want to perceive us a separate let me share myself at a deeper level so affection along those lines of you know i trust you but only if i can truly trust you but when i can trust you it's like wow something opens up there's a kindness there's affection can come through see if i can't trust you and you take my hand and say they're there everything's gonna be okay you're holding my hand but i'm still gone i'm still not one with you so to really ever achieve healing

and or through you know that is to say possibly through the art act of affection still has to be safety first still has to be a an intention of love so you know even even in the most sublime sensual sexual experiences you know if there isn't love god safety in the experience it's just an external act there's nothing sublime about it it's just um act it's just an act on the outside so we start to feel in relationships when we develop a sense of greater oneness more intimacy happens more true affection

happens and yeah then the physical aspect of sensualities and sexuality is those can launch to a whole new level because i can let go because i feel safe but you know you know keeping this context really to um to the idea of more of affection again if if a doctor says everything's gonna be okay wow everything changes instead of you know stethoscope you know clipboard pencil pen whatever um yeah and your name and yeah well everything should be fine that's nice take the hand i'm really confident everything's gonna

be good totally different feeling this this something because this something especially when you're dealing with counselors social workers doctors there's so much fear around contact that if they ever do take that extra step you know something magical has to be happening starting with the fact that they must be able to trust you and or you them um i've done some talks around this topic of the power of affection before um the healing power of affection but similarly there's a couple of stories i'll share

but just one really simple example is a lady you know came over to unity of sedona where i teach on sundays you know and she had said i met you a few years ago guess what a few months back i was diagnosed and hospitalized with cancer advanced stages of cancer you know and the doctors told her you know we're gonna you know have to call in a counselor maybe to talk you through you know your final days because you're kind of done you know so she's laying there and she's like well okay you know i'm gonna

maybe listen to some cds or something of michael mir dad so she did and she remembered she had had a session with me when i met her a few months before and um she says you know she's listening to her cd and she remembered she goes god i remember my session with him it's like it was purposefully downloading again like here's part two of your session you know and a time released portion of it and um she said oh my god i remember i went to michael and one of the things he had me do is he had me talk about

abusers from my childhood who took advantage of me and hurt me and so on and so on and she said and michael took my fist and had me pound on his chest and say no to the abusers no no no she's like so i can re-experience that healing statement that he taught me that he gave me so um like basically almost overnight everything changed in her body everything changed in her body all of a sudden what was a zero blood count you know like what was looking horribly you know horrible to the doctors and everything it all

started turning away turning around and um the next morning she said you know my blood count started completely shifting quickly dramatically for that matter and here i was you know i didn't have to go anywhere per se to have this happen i just internally needed to go where i needed to go which was back to a place of no and safety because the cancer for her was bringing up memories of other things and patterns in her life so she went back and used a healing technique which is an act of affection it doesn't sound very affectionate

you're pounding out it does it is an act of affection because it's still saying how can i help it still involves taking someone's hands and say it's okay put them there it's all right a lot of people don't understand i don't think the the concept of affection is really an act more like a daddy or mommy to people clients friends whatever it really is um you know and i've been a daddy to three girls that are now you know pushing 40 probably but you know i've been a daddy and i knew

what i know and knew what it was like to to just love unconditionally and how can i help and you know you just take care um hugging clients that are crying and oh my god how many years i've been doing this and you know the number of times where people are like oh i'm so embarrassed i got makeup on your shirt and oh my nose was running and oh my god and they're trying to killing me i'm like stop love it battle scars love it you're you know bleeding on me your snot is all over great i don't care to me yes they're battle

scars you know i feel great i always felt great about it it's like you know i would never have you know what shamed a child you're changing their diapers and oh my god i got some on my hands you peed on me come on grow up love sees way beyond stuff like that if you're a nurse you know what i'm talking about you got you know you got something to do you know you care you want to help you got some work to do but more people more human beings if they're going to be humane beings they have to just um adapt

you know just just go this is what needs to be done right now uh you might be inconvenient or unsightly who cares do what's good and right instead of what you you know uh your fears constrict you into doing you know i can only do this because fear just surrounds me and you know quarantines me as it were no pun intended on that but the affection you know was was not just the pounding on the chest it was even the permission to say no and that's an affectionate thing to take someone's hand and say it's okay

to reassure people that they have value that you know that's a beautiful thing i've seen this in all my years of traveling i've seen um and i know some of you have heard of these some of these stories before but just several just as quickly as i can uh you know i remember a girl who was just really beside herself because she was flying home to see her parents be and going home to live with them because her husband had betrayed her and uh and she was just so upset so she was drinking and sitting there next to me and i just

talked to her and she cried and i held her you know and eventually she fell asleep um you know unfortunately or fortunately while she was asleep she also peed on our chair you know our seats um oh well you know oh well so now what what are you gonna do shame or no we plain lands you know people are i'm noticing people kind of going what's that smell you know um you know so i just signaled the flight attendant very tactfully and covertly you know that accident and when the girl was done you know when the flight was done she and i

i walked her off the plane walked her because she was still a little buzzed walked her to where the bathroom was i said i you know i can't go in there with you but you're gonna need to go in and kind of clean yourself up i mean the way you would um a child i guess you know it's just an act of care and there's nothing weird about it but people like to make everything that's outside of their box you know weird or as though there's uh some sort of you know agenda or strange something that you've got going on

inside but um acts of affection can take any form of healing modality to a completely different level it really can um it's just a matter of the intention yes and then how it's done the tactfulness and appropriateness and all that you know can take all kinds of uh forms a hug a smile again hand you know holding in somebody's hand you know it's gonna be okay i was once in a hospital uh that i went to help facilitate someone's birthing a child and when i was walking out of there i remember uh

hearing a girl talk in another room with nurses and she's gonna give birth and you know the nurses are like and you you don't have anyone you know my ears perk up i'm like that's that's what we're here to do now in that case i don't know whether i it was because it was right for me to not offer or whether i was being afraid or cowardly i didn't offer it you know i thought that's too strange it could be misunderstood a stranger hey no problem i'll walk in and hang out while you have a

baby um so you have to kind of choose your battles as it were as the saying goes but you know you have to kind of decide when is the right time and not and when i do anything like that i ask not once i ask every five minutes it seems i'm checking in and checking in to make sure the ego is in check and that i'm there for all the right reasons and that how i'm doing it what i'm doing what i'm saying how i'm saying it is all somehow appropriate because there's so much uh chance ego infiltrates or ego interprets

you know whether it would be the girl giving birth or the nurses no thanks sir you know who knows what they would have thought or done but you know love to me generally has to at least offer and i would say 90 of the time i would have offered in such a case but there's times when i don't try not to beat myself too much up too much for saying no not doing it but i never forgot that that girl was left alone you know maybe i wasn't supposed to maybe maybe but i never forgot it i never forgot her um that you know that i might have

you know made it a little more of a difference if i just stepped in i try not to get too caught up in that i'm just saying you know part of me remembers that wow some girl was alone in that and i don't think any human being needs to be left alone afraid lonely or whatever the case might be none of us you know it's not god's will that anyone suffer in any form but we do that to ourselves and each other all the time so you know um there's a part of me that you know yeah i would like to have done

something different and the bottom line is from here on how am i going to do it you know am i going to make the right choices am i going to offer to help where i can when i can and uh remember one of the downsides of affection is how it's interpreted even if you're coming from the clearest place you know you've got to be careful um heaven help men if they're offering affection especially to women can easily be misconstrued so men don't take it personally that it's not right sometimes for us to

offer it's much easier for women to offer women i think it's for obvious reasons and then women can you imagine women offering men affection oh you know what can i give you an objective hug and love oh my god you know they're seen as trampish or whatever so that's this world so the bottom line is if you want to use affection as part of your healing tools on your tool belt you better be prepared to say why even bother bringing that tool under the tool balance i'm going to practice affection if you're not willing to know in advance

the fallout that can come from it you've got to decide if you're brave enough before you even try stuff like this you know out in this world and i'm not saying if you don't do it it's totally fine that's the human way um but if you do decide to be a little more you know um caring affectionate you know offering a hug or whatever it happens to be um just know you know be prepared you know somebody might mistake it uh i i've done things like this where i'm sitting with a person and i say you know

why do you feel so low and unattractive you're beautiful or i might say can i take your hand but when i do sometimes i do either of those i have had it happen where i've said uh now i'm not hitting on you or anything but can i take your hand and that actually gets them to laugh a little bit sometimes it actually just makes a point that i'm not hitting on you but um sometimes i say that because even the levity of it helps them realize yeah that that's yeah that's right it's probably true

he's not and then they can interpret it differently you know because you openly said it but you say in a light way so i've i've actually had to put that out there now and then um you know but the bottom line is if you really want a solution to any of the fallout check in check in check in just heal yourself of stuff that might be you know a little messy um not totally clear and clean but um you know they're communicate as well just say here's where i'm coming from is it okay to take your hand

thank you you know and and communicate it if you don't communicate if you don't work on yourself um and you don't check in how how are you going to be rest assured that there isn't a reason for them to be worried so you know you do yourself you do your work you know you do your work on yourself and that way you're bringing them a cleaner uh more responsible person so to me people can talk love i love people i love everyone peace love forgiveness it's all words that are beautiful and helpful but man

oh man how i've seen in my life an act of kindness which can take the form of affection um and it can take the form of paying somebody's bill forward or but yes affection too just seems to take it all to another level it's it's really amazing it's kind of like you know being there for a person god you know there's a story i've shared now and then a woman i did a session with who was a nun and um she asked if i would do a session with her and i did and i tuned in and i said you know you've you've been a nun and

she said yes i i was a nun i said i know i said that she goes no i was i go i know i said that she goes no this lifetime up until this year i've been a nun all my life and um and interestingly enough long story short you know some emotional stuff came up i took her sat her in my lap and tell her and she just wailed wailed wailed tears and what it was about it wasn't abuses and stuff this case her deep tears never having been held by a male and never knew what safe contact like that would be like so what am i doing what am i thinking

while i'm holding this woman i'm just it's it's an honor i mean my god i mean it it's possible to be in the right place and still be in contact with human bodies you know it's i don't know man not not everybody can get that i get i understand but when you're in it it's so beautiful people beat it up but wow you know to have been in such a place of honor to to that somebody could open up like that with you or me whomever i think it's you know just amazing um the trick is

just keep it unconditional stay you know unattached just be the presence of love technically when i said it's like being a daddy or mommy technically it's also like being the presence of the holy spirit because the holy spirit which i call the divine mother her whole point the whole role of the divine mother coming from the word matter the whole point divine matter means love in the material matter material world so when you and i do an act of unconditional true caring mommy daddy kinds of things that's the divine mother you know coming

through us being the nurturing mommy or the strong protective daddy i mean it's just i just think this stuff is stellar um i you know i can't go around the world explaining this the counselors the doctors they'd be like oh no no no we're not a lot you know so i don't make this a big deal i um i stopped doing in fact um a couple years back several years back stopped doing really body work and any contact related work anyway for for various reasons um i also stopped touring so much so that that's

another reason so for various reasons i still believe in it um i don't have the time the space et cetera um and also um i've also you know too many hits from people too many um rude remarks and and things from people that misconstrue it it's like i don't need that you know it's like i know where i'm coming from so i just keep it you know and do it do it another way now just do sessions same love on the phone same care on the phone if it was only body related and couldn't be heard on the phone

then it must not have been real anyway so i knew that i can still do the same healing same affection even with no bodies same affection by giving that person an extra couple minutes or giving that person an extra you know sense of comfort to them with words tone of voice even can be an act of affection so you know i've seen this so many times and oh you know could i couldn't put into words very easily the the love honestly i've had it happen where on a flight as well i said i'd share a few but you know so

here's another one i had it happen more than once but i remember one flight long flight i think it was overseas and there was a little bit of room on the plane here and there chairs you know and my row was empty um other than me and i saw some gals sitting a few maybe four or five rows ahead on the other side of the aisle and she looked back at me a few times and i thought you know okay she eventually i i don't know if i waved her over or if she asked but she ended up coming over and sitting in my row now she's expressing certain kinds of

interest and so on but but i knew that wasn't what this was about so i said you know you're in a relationship aren't you yes and here's what's going on yes and i i just read the whole thing she i just you know she started crying yes my partner and i and it seems like it's coming to an end i advised her on how to deal with it but um but i also you know took her hand there was something about taking her hand where where she wanted her and her partner so distanced she wanted affection he wasn't giving it

to her so i'll do that but wait do i give her affection that's going to supplement and you know become the the other guy you could do that people done that throughout the history of the world but that's not what i want it to be i take her hand and in my mind i'm giving something else which is just spirit comfort you are loved dear one you are loved go and try a b and c and see if you can work that out if that doesn't help it's probably done then move forward so it's almost like a you know just a

form of appease that that thing in her enough so that there's not as much churning inside like neediness that could make her go and make some mistakes with other guys that might not be as cautious you know i guess you could say and another example uh one that i have told a couple of times in my years um never forget this really large gay man that came for a session and he was having health issues so we did some tracking exercises with him long story short uh it came back to him remembering his father shaming him when he came out

kicked out of the house so on and so on this man is crying same guidance i would male female gay straight you know when it when this type of an act was called for sat on the floor it was in a minister's office at a church sat on the floor in that office put this giant guy on my lap held him oh my god the tears the oh god it was grief grief but relief too you know because now what was it guys if this was a girl you would you would draw certain conclusions or you'd be tempted to but it's a guy and so it's easier to say

so then maybe there was something else more healing going on than just couple people holding each other um um he cried but he was feeling um like a re-do with his dad because there's this guy who's playing a role of a dad in terms of being a counselor and a teacher etc so that the bigger guy dad roll holding him you know and just son i'm so sorry you know oh my god it's beautiful sorry i get kind of you know excited even remembering these things because it's so beautiful and people still twisted if somebody

would have walked in this church walked into the minister's office and found these two men embraced on the floor wow i have no doubt that i would not have been welcomed there again all for something that was beautiful and healing but misconstrued why because to all pure minds everything is pure to all messed up minds everything looks messed up to the pure in heart everything seems pure to the wicked everything seems wicked that's in the bible as well as the tantras of of buddhism and hinduism it's true it's one of the

greatest sayings ever just puts it out it states it just like it is so people you know they put shame and so forth um you know associated with this stuff you know and i'm not condoning the behavior because i'm well aware that there's also people that are uh abusive and uh inappropriate you know i mean i i've gotten at least one massage in my life where um suddenly something inappropriate was seemingly happening you know i i i felt some shame and i felt awkward like what am i supposed to do you know um

do i yell do i shut down do it you know because it's such a weird surreal awkward position i mean i understand and i understand somebody feeling that sort of thing i've been there and it's awkward um fortunately never got out of hand you know never got too too far out but um i i get it you know and i get that people do that and that it's hurtful and selfish but that doesn't mean you and i doing safe loving well-intented acts of of love or support or encouragement or affection always has to seem bad to people you

know it's just offering love in yet another form today it's good to see you another day it's arms around you know just you you learn to go for um like whatever is the the greatest good you have to take into consideration the guidance you're getting what to do and also the person before you as well as yourself god self others what am i feeling god telling me how am i feeling within myself of course if there's interests and arousals and confusions then you end right there but when you have inspiration this

person that is you feels clear the third person now you have to consider how are they how are they going to take this are they okay with it if you're not sure but the other pieces are in place and they click ask is it okay to take your hand there you go and and yes there's a chance somebody's gonna do transference or projection on you if you don't want either of those don't ever do anything don't breathe because you might exchange you know energy or chi or breath you know um that could be misconstrued

so you decide you know where you draw your line about these kinds of things but i totally get the reason why doctors and so on have to be so cautious because the world's so twisted and there's so much irresponsible projection on people and because some of us you know we make mistakes and we acted inappropriate you know healers doctors you know counselors whatever we are out in this world um even friends you know that we do things and we slip and we make mistakes and it makes everybody throw all of it out and

when you can see the good that can come from um kindness and appropriate acts of affection uh wow to me to me well it's just like ah there's nothing like it and just as i'm going to start to close let me explain that it's not always like on the plane obviously it's appropriate what are you going to do on a plane very easily in your aisles and everybody's sitting right there clearly that's well intended um but again somebody could still misconstrue that something as simple as that but um kindness you know and it's a

daddy it's a mommy kind of a role um an act of affection to a degree uh although not any physical touch contact um you know somebody that i i didn't really even know met once or twice a young girl um was going to go to college and her family had no money and she had no money so all that i felt was because i heard about it maybe it was in the session it was brought up i don't know but i just i just felt called to co-sign for the loan um and the loan she paid on it for years there was a point where she stopped

paying on it and it was coming back on me over that that was a bit of a drag and it was a bit inappropriate for them to put me in the position but um it was still nice the intention was still nice to that a girl got to go to college because someone and i didn't even know her offered to co-sign the loan maybe i would do it tomorrow maybe i wouldn't i can't say i have to have the inspiration i have to feel right within me and the person has to seem like the right person for it but um you know they're acts of kindness

and um they're not always people you know they're always not people you know you'd ever see again i've had people that i you know on planes and things like that where they said can i have your number can i have your card do you do you know can i contact you no no because i want it to stay right there clean to the moment perfect with no doubt in their mind being planted as though i only did this to see you later see i want none of that so you know just like a superhero or a lone ranger you know um right off into

the sunset sometimes that's not easy i think sometimes you could have a new client you could have a friend it would out of it but right off into the sunset keep it clean keep it as simple and clean as possible for me what it was about was do not give them any reason to doubt the intention of this beautiful miracle that's how i felt about it so acts of kindness an older woman 70 something when i was 30 something her husband had died 30 years prior she has never been around or near or touched by a man since

and i had this older woman you know sit and i just held her and once again you know crying and but she was crying in a way a sadness but also happy wow i get to be held by a man and it's safe you know it's like there's no there's no weirdness to it he doesn't want anything well no of course not you're playing a role of a healer and a daddy you know your mind doesn't need to be anywhere else so you know quite beautiful i think i think quite beautiful but it's to me it's the uh pay the bill

forward you know pay somebody's grocery bill it's um underneath it all let me say this it's about helping to convey to other people that they have value i'm telling you that is healing we came to this planet we started believing we have no value to learn that we have value therefore reverses that whole falling to the earth and getting caught up in karma and garbage of planet earth and instead someone's saying wait you have value well you can have value if you're a broken fallen karmic person but you ha the real value i'm

talking about so if i treat you like you have value i must be treating you like you're not a broken person which is almost like saying you're i'm giving you a gift of ascension today which is coming from god to you and we're just playing the role of the holy spirit which is called the bridge you know i'm just the bridge you know how can how can i help today i've chopped my hair off several times and you know given because you have to have i think it's at least a foot of hair um to uh you know children for wigs to

be made that's an act of affection kindness caring love miracle well yep true but it's also affection here's a part of me and i'm gonna reach it out and here make a wig of this you know and oh my god if you put consciousness to that hair and it's my loving intention in my mind holding this child as healed and it makes a wig suddenly this wig is like some magical shroud of turin you know that's bringing healing i'm not saying admire i'm seeing any of us with right intention so um animals that have been hurt

you stand back hmm boy terrible huh looks like you injured a leg poor dog cat you know got run over by a car poor thing damn get down there be with them i'm right here healing hands reiki you know right here affection and it is an act of affection because humans don't have a different word that would be seemingly cleaner and safer for them so we use that word that sometimes is is thought to be a um a romantic kind of a thing i'm just talking about you know clean how can i be helpful and i'm sorry

you know i'm sorry that you're hurting nice to see you you know great to see you again you know hug or whatever it is kindness you know i love it i think it's beautiful um i'm glad i can speak those words about it because maybe it would have been harder to say this 20 years ago but enough people are waking up and realizing geez i don't want to go without affection i don't want to go without kindness i don't i don't want to shame every person that looks at me and says you look beautiful today you know i

don't want to think oh oh you know some people are out there and they just go you know what i don't want that garbage tell me if i look beautiful thank you thank you hold my hand give me a hug you know thank you that's what this world you know would really appreciate these days and every day and so what an honor it is to be a part of that don't you think um and please think about this yourselves where have you done that now look at where you haven't were you scared we intimidated fine look at it learn

come out of it and be ready for the next day but also look at where you've done it and give yourself credit where were you affectionate you know did you hold somebody else's kid that got you know hurt and you comforted them till their parents showed up um you know in what ways were you ever kind and affectionate it's kind of cool remember that was doing the role of the holy spirit so let it be good and be very grateful that you got to play a part also be grateful that you can now ramp it up and share that

more often all right the more of us that accept this the more of us that would be willing to do it more and receive it more if you and i can make this a healed topic then more people can experience it why wouldn't we want that i hope we would thank you guys so much god bless you and um hope to see you in you know soon in other programs we do we have also you know once in a while we have workshops i'm going to do a workshop once a month a series of 12 for the year 2021 and there's occasionally you know i do other

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