Letting Go: The Real Story

hello everyone this is michael murdad and we do have this program we've had this program for years several years now it's called friday night spiritual insights with michael murdad and today's topic today's topic we're going to talk about letting go and we have to understand that letting go is always a form of death and death is always a form of letting go so really it's it's a matter of adapting to not feeling in control of our lives it's so hard for people to let go because so often

if something's going it's either going with regret it's going when we couldn't control it it's going when often there's there's some negative kind of feelings about it you know and if you loved it it was wonderful it's hard to let it go so letting go is such a challenging thing and i you know people always just flippantly say well just let it go if you had childhood trauma well why don't you just let it go it's not at all um a decent way of responding to people that have had

you know hurt in their lives and i often see life so multi-dimensionally so to me you have groceries you use the groceries you throw the trash wait you let it go you don't usually chase the trashman down the street after they've picked up the container right um so in that sense it seems kind of easy the digestive system you digest food just like life you digest experiences and then you assimilate the nutrients from it that's what you're supposed to do anyway if you're reasonably healthy and then

you let go the elimination system is about letting go what you don't need and you know the the body nor the soul for that matter but the body and soul do not long for what was flushed away but humans are so non-organic they don't seem to to go with the zen the tao of life they come up with all kinds of reasons to not be at peace and it's a great process and a great enlightening moment to come to the idea of i think it's time to let this go now and many of us have let things go and then they kind of haunt us

because when the body goes there's the ghost body so when you let something physical go in your life there's the ghost of it left all things some more haunting than others but all things you know if they're like ghosts are like often they're like memories and the reason some of them seem to have power haunting people is because those people have unhealed wounds that those ghosts can sort of latch onto and feed off of so with life's experience experiences it's a matter of if we clear ourselves

like if we're healthy enough we would digest properly you know then integrate or assimilate properly and we would eliminate properly it would just be a natural simple easy and steady process but humans it's like an experience comes in wait i don't like that experience and then we fight it now if you're fighting it your tense you can't assimilate properly now you can't see clearly enough to integrate what value what you can learn from that experience that may not have been nice but you can't learn because you're all

off center you're you're you know you're off you know as they say you you can't digest properly if you're stressed so the digestion isn't going well you didn't it's a metaphor right you didn't break down the foods properly or break down the experience properly kind of knowing what end is up and what's going on and then now i'm not assimilating properly now elimination can go one direction or the other you know with with you know uh you can get stuck constipated or the opposite

eliminating too much and nutrients and and fluids go so think use that simple concept when it comes to life relationships when you ate a certain thing in life you can kind of go that tastes bitter in life when we get relationships that are bitter we fight it we try to pretend it isn't bitter well but it feels better if i ingest something so maybe i spit it out or it's gone sour i spit it out my relationship it's gone sour it's gone better maybe talk about it which is the equivalent of you know spit this out what i mean by that is

spit out what are you trying to say and you did this and it's all yours and you put the food you took the food it's you know maybe somebody else didn't know that it was going sour you noticed it so do something with it what are you trying to say spit it out come on and try to go and work with people if it's workable to resolve things talk about how you're feeling this is where i'm at and now don't do that in the gratuitous way you know well here's how i'm feeling and then be offended if they don't agree

if you really are truly understanding what it means to say here's where i'm coming from then you wouldn't be upset if they don't get it just own it all the way anyway i didn't say you'd get it i said this is where i'm coming from it's what you can say so you take time and you you say this is where i'm coming from i'm i'm getting this out i don't want to ingest this experience if i do what's going to happen to my body it might have an adverse reaction it's the same with life if i go ahead

and just take on this relationship and swallow my experience swallow my pride swallow my whatever you know my my hurts and thoughts and feelings it's probably not going to go well now what's really sad about human beings is once they get into a pattern they really have a hard time breaking it eliminating it so you know we get going on this trend of well i'm just gonna you know hang in there maybe it'll change on its own you ingested poison and you figure i don't know you know maybe my liver will just handle it

kid deals kidneys will just handle it it's kind of a silly and self-abusive thing to try to do so try to catch these things as soon as possible maybe you didn't catch on until it reached your stomach maybe you didn't catch on until it reached the stages of uh integration or assimilation maybe you didn't catch until elimination maybe you didn't catch until a week after but at some point just if you have one goal in your life can you make it this to try to catch stuff sooner i mean you know just catch your way back

here at the start and not let it click on through it's not that challenging but why don't people do that automatically why is that not like an organic simple experience because people don't want to people have a tendency to want to live in denial and for all kinds of reasons but one reason i might hold stuff in is because i want to resent you another because i want to make you the blame you know i don't want to be the blame or a responsible one so it's convenience which we've done to talk on recently

about the positive and negative version of convenience but um also people don't want to look at it because it might take work and so on and so on there's you know people want to just block these things instead of going well what's really going on here do i really want to deal with a relationship i'd rather have one that's dysfunctional and i know it's here then one that i say goodbye to and it's gone i'd rather have something here and again that's all human weakness there are

these tendencies to sabotage ourselves try to deny it try to blame others but it just doesn't do us any good so take time to consider this is there anything in my life that i really should consider letting go of is there anything that's sour bitter uneasy tense then i'm not saying dump everybody and everything i'm saying address it something you know sour something bitter i've told people friends you know if they thought i said something um um that uh hurt their feelings or if i said something that they took a

certain way god it's it's shocking to me that you would hold that in you thought i said that i didn't say i meant this oh okay and it's just like so sad when they chose or choose to hold on to it and not say something because then they're not clearing it now i have to ask myself were they simply afraid because they're afraid to speak in life or were they wanting to actually hold on to that and believe there was a problem that wasn't there because if that's the case then they're

trying to take they're going to eventually try to take the whole relationship into hell you know finding problems and not talking about them anytime you have a situation a relationship of any kind and people don't want to talk about it and i've done talks just on that but danger danger man danger now again someone might have been heavily abused they might have been by abused by you or oppressed by you or by other people in their life they might have a rational reason to not want to talk to share but um if it's me i have to say

to myself even if i have a tangible rational reason to be afraid intimidated to speak due to abuses or suppressions oppressions or whatever you know do i want to stay that way really do i want to stay in this state of you know lump in my throat or choking or or or burn you know just the the issues where we have throat or jaw issues clenching issues because we're holding in all this tension do i want to stay that way what's the worst case scenario i'm gonna just responsibly and lovingly throw it out there hey listen this is kind of

where i'm at and does that work for you guys if if they don't want to work it eliminate it it being maybe them never let anybody go with hatred i don't usually take a bag of trash out to the garbage can going i hate you you know it's it's trash it's worthless essentially take it out to the trash can and it's gone you know and there we go um i don't need to go out with the garbage i'll just go ahead and stay in my home let it go and i get to move on but if i can do that with garbage why can't i do it with life's

garbage things might have been hurtful and for those moments for any of us i'm very sorry for that um you know from from the heart and soul of humanity you know i'm very sorry about that it's it's you know it's crazy the things we do to ourselves and to each other but it is not serving us to deal with you know like like deal with it in such a self-destructive way practice the good death practice elimination um whatever that means to you in terms of the you know die the good death let things go um take some time

to write a list i was just talking to our uh one of our groups this week about this but take some time to write a list of hurts traumas dramas hurts neglects rejections etc just whatever make a list of them even if you think yours are minor if they come up when you're tuning into any hurts any regrets any shames make a list of them when you're done take the items off the list put them on one each on each post-it might have to have a whole box of post-its for this maybe not but put each of them on a post

that you can burn at the end of the year or whenever you'd like to but let yourself take some time to really think about each of those and that letting go that goodbye exercise that you know that letting things be um disconnecting cutting cords from the power the relationship they had in our lives again i'm not saying just our compulsion should be that there should be a compulsion to just quickly dump everyone let everybody out of our lives i'm saying try to speak first because that's also a form of

eliminating i'm letting things out vocally and don't do it with attack don't do it with hurtful intention don't do it with revenge in mind do it with a thought of you know if every wound hurt betrayal regret shame pretend for a moment if every one of those is a ghost and every one you know every shame not just shame you have shame let's say as a ghost but what if every single shame is a ghost you know guys man we're living in the haunted mansion some really you know bad nightmare because they

are ghosts that's why you know when you dream at night you're so often dreaming stuff that you just this collage of you know incomprehensible material it's because it's all the ghosts coming in and dancing their dance and in there there's always god's hand trying to speak through at all at all we can't hear because there's this you know you know this bizarre circus of of nuttiness what if i empty my cup and what again the topic elimination what if i empty my cup what if i say goodbye to all the ghosts and you

should ask yourself how do i feel about letting them all go you might say wait a minute oh my god i would be so bored so lonely it's worth looking at might even want to let that one go but let's get to a place where saying goodbye to a place where elimination is very natural it's very organic before you eliminate though remember to ingest better things in life but you can't just expect to do that if you have a habit oh you know a pattern a an addiction of some kind you're not going to just go quickly to

switching to positives if you've ingested a bunch of garbage toxic poisonous material then you go whoa i just ingested a whole bunch of toxic material uh gee i think i'll have something like uh whatever you know a healthy green drink it's not gonna go well well why it's all nutritious that's not the point what you already are filled with is garbage so trying to just throw something unhealthy doesn't work try to eliminate try to get rid make room for good in your life choose something better in your life it's not

that challenging but if i want to choose a better life i've got to say goodbye to the one that wasn't a better life make room for your good and it's time you know it's time to say you know god if i'm 50 years old 40 years old 30 years old 60 years old and i was abused at 10 i've allowed those ghosts to haunt me all these years now i'm not saying it's easy to let go of the cellular memory and emotional hurt from all that i'm saying i can say to myself i refuse to hate anybody involved

although their actions and so forth are disgusting you can say that i refuse to hate them one reason i can refuse to hate them is i have no idea what that was about have no idea where they were coming from so i'm not even going to try what i do know is if i try to make sense out of it it has no sense it's senseless behavior anybody that has ever caused you wounds including yourself was not in their same mind at the time so do you really want to sit there and try to make sense of that which is insane that's also a control freak by the way i

i must i i have to get this to make sense i have to get them to confess i have to get them i'm not saying sometimes that's not appropriate i'm saying have to have to have to creates more tension in me more tension in me means i cannot ingest and digest i cannot assimilate and eliminate properly i will make myself sick so you don't usually drink poison and expect someone else to die from it you don't drink the poison of your past and expect those who hurt you to die from it that's not going to get them back

it's not going to get revenge on them what you'll do is destroy more and more of yourself so take time make a list the hurts make a commitment to disconnect from them i refuse to hate them i wonder what i can learn from any of these i can learn maybe to be a better parent myself i can learn not to hold this in so long i can learn that i should have trusted a counselor center maybe i can do that now you know i can learn that not all men or women are bad just maybe that one i can learn whatever from it that now

suddenly becomes light bulb oh i learned something do you know what you just did you gave value to something that's valueless not in the negative sense i'm saying you turned it around and made it into nutrients that otherwise were you know just simply empty you know nutrient uh empty foods bioacidic foods or biostatic foods they were worthless you ingested them but now all of a sudden that's called magic you i mean in a good sense that's a miracle you took an event that was worthless and you manifested nutrients in that food

i don't know of anybody who could do that i don't know of any nutritionist who can tell you that magically they're going to create nutrients in food that is kind of junk food it's it takes a miracle to do that and so in my life i'm going to go ahead and let a miracle happen what can i gain from this now i gained now i'm wow i'm not saying you're making the event positive it was hurtful but i'm learning something from it so i have value not it i gave myself value from what i learned

from the event that's the second step the third step this is often this is discussed a bit in my book it's called the book of love and forgiveness but the third step in this forgiveness process is do your best to just affirm that everybody has a spark of light in them you can acknowledge that they didn't see that they didn't live when they were doing things to hurtful to you they were not coming from that spark that's not my business i'm just affirming there's a spark good riddance hope you nurture that

spark soon i'm simply affirming that it's there do those three steps many of you have heard me say this many times forgive me for the redundance but refuse to hate learn what you can and the third step affirm light when you do that all of this thing that is a body that ingests digests that you know assimilates and eliminates it comes to peace and things start changing in your body a vertebra pops into place on its own that was out of place muscles can relax you can because you're more relaxed you can

breathe differently you can receive a massage instead of getting one you know getting a massage receiving a massage you know instead of going through life experiences you're you're there you're present you're awake you're aware you don't just have christmas lights that are off they turn on everything starts kind of awakening and when that happens it's like the systems all fire up like wow mr president we're back online you know it's it's like wow everything kind of opens

up but it will help you if you know it eliminate those words get those words out somehow share talk let go of experiences that have no nutrients that have no value let go of them the forgiveness steps i said let go of them and let the dead bury the dead the dead me the one that no longer exists let that lie and sleep and die and pass away with those past experiences let the dead bury the dead uh krishna said it jesus says it but one of the ways it's worded is the wise layman not for the living nor the dead you know

to not sit in a state of regret i'm so sorry that people have been so selfish and hurtful to any of us but i would like to build a new life many of us have had so many hurts and didn't eliminate properly assimilate as well but eliminate properly many of us have had so many hurts we descended into low self-worth uh addiction self-abuse in so many ways and then patterns of relationships that were not at all lovely you know and um i could say for myself as a as a healer for so many years i've i've heard and seen much

and i don't know how many thousands and thousands and thousands and thousands of people i've had sessions with but i've seen a whole lot and sometimes sometimes it's taxing in a way sometimes it's like wow you know but i still even us as healers we still have to look at the the body of work the body of hurts that have happened take them collectively and say social workers especially hold it a minute all right i guess while i was working i inhaled or i ingested some of the toxicity in the in the

nuclear plant you know of life now it's affecting my system let me ask the spirit of god to help me break this down properly why was i there in what way did i take on too much myself break it down what can i learn from this well to check in a little more not go too far not to breathe into many of the fumes of the toxic environment not to take it on see that's being overly sympathetic in the negative sense and then now now that i did that process i can eliminate all that toxicity that i had absorbed in my being

so be careful if you're a healer if you're a parent and you dealt with children that were kind of off and getting hurt you know do your best guys find your home find your place find your center again in god no great healing no great ingesting assimilating or eliminating is done in the highest sense without being in our center in god god has the ability whether you call it the holy spirit or the divine mother or the christ god has the ability to say i love you so much let me help you with the whole process

let me be your digestion and so on and so on let me be that with you let me help you i know exactly what you would benefit from in terms of assimilating nutrients let me help you assimilate we try to fix ourselves and that's still self-abuse even though it sounds like it's a good thing why would you want to do that without the greatest guide why would you know i understand you think you can do surgery on yourself i just don't think it's the most advisable thing just relax let spirit come in and do

soul surgery on you let go let god you can't if you don't trust god and you can't if you don't trust yourself and you can't if you don't trust others i didn't say trust un trustworthy parts trust the trustworthy parts but any time you feel a zing any time you feel a hurt a jab oh geez i guess i got a little work to do and it only takes seconds the only reason we exaggerate it make it seem like it's too much for you to deal with for me to deal with is because you don't really want to let it go you want to be

pissed so you're going gonna oh why and when why you know why why and wine and wine and oh my god oh is this terrible and what a day and terrible you know and get obsessed on it that's not good for your system with food nor with life experiences just the the whole why and why and why and what and tension tension too much too much you're hurting yourself i recommend i got it something's happening and it's triggering and i don't want to go too far into the darkness with it i don't want that to get

too far into my system a good herbalist knows you don't just have herbs that tonify organs you don't just have herbs that stimulate immunity there are you know herbs for purging as well if you've eaten something toxic you drink it and it'll help you purge it out doesn't sound fun so don't just keep it down let it go in effect and toxify other parts of your life that's what this is about this whole talk people are afraid of the purging get it over with animals know if they've eaten something

bad they won't eat so that something can finish going through or they might eat something that makes them vomit so what does this talk about all i'm asking you to do is be as intelligent as your dog okay so hope this made sense and um these friday nights we do all kinds of different topics typically related to self-help and so forth but today i just wanted to sort of do a few pieces of topics woven together sort of weaving together topics and things that have been going on in the world and people's questions and so on lately

metaphor of health i guess popped in there because a lot of people are struggling with health the metaphors of you know calling god because of the deep work we've been doing in a lot of my groups in terms of communing with god so it was i can see where it's all kind of piecing together i can also just i just noticed i'm wearing a green shirt green very healing so um bless you all thank you for watching and uh i hope this is reaching you on a really deeply personal level i really do and i'm so grateful for uh those of you

who have sessions or that are friends and chat with me about things and allow yourself to go to a real deep place being honest with yourself a real deep place of healing and not being afraid of that sort of thing there's no reason to be afraid if you know if you think there is work on those pieces and find a safer place but you must let go of things let go let god all right you can join us for these fridays you know friday night presentations 5 30 always arizona time so check what that is for you because we're

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