How to Heal Intimacy and Sexuality

There's almost no darker depths of hell than sexual abuses of various kinds. That kind of abuse can really mess a person up. And if you've been abused, I hope you're not watching, going, "Oh I'm in it. Now I'm messed up. No. It's all meant to heal.

Ultimately it doesn't exist in God, therefore we'll all wake up from this horrible dream of the things we have done to each other and have had done to us. So this is not who you are, we are. It's a made-up bullshit version of being a human being. It's not the real potential version, it's the BS. It's not God's will, therefore, why do it? Well we have done it.

Now what we need to do is heal as best we can from it. One way to do that is bring God into every thought, and every...and even cellular levels of healing. Bring God in. Bring God in. Bring God in. Never forget that. And if you don't know what that means - God - think of, call the divine mother in.

Just call the Holy Spirit ,which I call the divine mother, or the divine mother, which I call the Holy Spirit, call the divine mother and say, "You know, divine mother, mother aspect of God, Here I am. Come to me. This is what seems to have happened to me. I don't need to know all the reasons. I don't know all the reasons why or how and I don't need to know.

I only know that I'm bringing it to the altar today, because it hurts me. It has hurt me. It's affected my life. And Here I am." In your own words, in your own humble way. "Here I am." And sit and wait and just do your best to visualize your heart and your being opening up.

as though grace comes pouring in to give you something that you didn't receive in the old days. I'm really, really sorry about the ones that have happened. I've seen it affect family members of mine, my children here and there, you know. My ex-partner, that sort of thing. I've seen how it affects people, ruins them, ruins their brain, ruins their learning abilities, ruins their ability to communicate. They learn to live with secrets.

They learn to perpetuate keeping secrets. It's just a weird like. It's almost like it's living in a Dark Dimension in some ways. Now I'm not how do people of dark you know saying it's a dark experience only because certainly I having the most everybody on the planet has had some amount of wounding of shame around the topic it doesn't mean we all live literally in some dark hell with the more abuse we had and the more it has affected us the more it will feel that way so the question as was once asked if not

us then who will help this and if not now then when are we gonna give them so those are important questions if not us then who and if not now then win so I want to thank the folks publicly that have reached out and said a thank you thank you thank you no that was fantastic those of you sometimes who said would you be willing dude how about one more workshop or just one more time you know no I know I don't see that right now but I can feel something happening so all of a sudden I go oh my gosh I'm going to make a special trip nobody knows about to California because that's

where we felt in Malibu California outside of LA Los Angeles we filmed a lot of ours about section healing and sexual also enhancement the healing part and the enhancement so we filmed a lot around this and I was glad to be part of the project but the project got derailed in different ways different producers different promoters different people had different ideas of kind of what to do so it kind of like cleaners you know they went being you know all these different directions and so there's a piece of the movie here and a piece there in

different forms someone who had been preserved on the Internet as lessons oh not just me but other teachers that were of all there were half-dozen there's all of us teachers that mainly did the film it was supposed to be an actual film documentary about community development and it did end up that but again an hour out of dozens of hours of footage so that's another one of those branches and it's wonderful they didn't reach out with the film but I found out it kind of came to me intuitively why don't I ask for the

footage that I did since it's 50 different directions now why don't I just ask if it turns out and guess contractually I'm entitled to it so it's gonna it's going to take a lot I spent all day one full day plus some other hours just looking at the topics that were filmed more than I do and I've added to them into two videos it'll be a minimum of two different discs or videos and one will be all around the topic in interviews with people to show counseling and all the things about learning to access stuff and then talk

about it release it but then there's a second video which is more the interactive workshop like the video so you have all these couples that I worked with more than any of the other teachers they brought into the project and we're going to be able to show you what happened with them when I work with it so that that's kind of cool but that's part of what I'm describing I'm saying Wow the topic is coming back not to take me back to teaching again but to bring it to the world in a new form it's going to be quite expensive if any of you feel

compelled or inspired to send donations at all or specifically for that project you can put that on here if it's on your check memo or or you can just you know let us know that you're sending it for that or credit card even for them I'm not here to ask for money for that I'm just mentioning that you know it's going to be a lot of money and somehow this month I'm gonna try to set aside the funds head for California in a couple of weeks do the food and other programs of developing the editing

in LA and walk away with a finished project without it dragging on and needing to let the sticking here raise the funds so you know it's probably only in the thousands it's not like tens of thousands but if you call they're not great one way or another even if you only feel cold no funds are available be sure to see it when we you know get it out there I don't I think we'll make video maybe DVDs and have a for sale but you know I don't know I'd like to you know like I said earlier when we started once again I'm like could we just do it

for free and Apple available on the internet you know we can't just keep doing everything for free because again somehow make the funds to pay the other things that we'll see I don't know how it's going to be presented so back to the point behind it that that project I'm mentioning not to raise funds a mission mentioning as an aside as one thing that's come up there are some really really beautiful students who have just said you know this has changed my life some of them have gone into coaching around intimacy couples which

includes sexuality but not exclusively so what it what an amazing thing to hear that I've helped people heal such so dramatically than they've gone that direction so understand there are people out there that can help you if that's a struggle area for you a strained area for you a constricted area but when you look you've got to be careful what you're looking for if on this planet and I have all the dealers and teachers on the topic that have written books that have done workshops I know no momentum oh no of them all at the very least and

I don't know that there's one more than one or two males on the planet that I can refer you to learn I think I'm sorry for that but I can therefore be careful if you decide to work with a male and not only what I not recommend them some I would recommend against but I can't because I'm not gonna name names about people but there's just a lot of predatory lenders II have a lot of sexual addiction energy in this area so there are several women are really amazing female teachers some have the notoriety that were popularly

written books like income Dinah Richardson is a wonderful author sweet good energy in Japan she doesn't really enable the addiction stuff she really almost only works with couples for that matter because she wants to keep it that clean but she's she's a good author and a good teacher but there are a couple of others what I'm going to do is try to make it Network more available somewhere in the near future where I could have some place available saying here's we call or work with whether it's in person or verbal

coaching on the phone but please whether it's you or other people you know it's not just people that have been blatantly majorly abused even the slightest inhibitions because it's it's like why would there be flowers in your garden that you don't want to have colored or scented kind of doesn't make sense I want a great flower it kind of doesn't make sense we are meant to be flowers we're meant to have an essence an energy of brightness color or whatever and abuses of any kind tend to dim our color dim or light so please don't walk away

from neglect or excuse not pursuing healing it's not healthy and if you know anybody abused you know just maybe the most tactful way possible to explain you know to move in that direction even if it's a little bit you can try a little bit more of a lightweight look I'm just healing in general instead of giving them a book on sexuality or sexual abuse you know there's a buzzkill right fun for the whole family let's all read from our sexual abuse manuals you know that's not gonna go over well for most people but you can start with some

topic of healing a book that talks about how healing the lack of healing of accessing then sometimes people want to go a little further it's a very difficult topic but if you're out there and you know people it seems to be hard to broach that topic with them and say hi you know I'm your friend and I just think you ought to look at that it's gonna be dangerous um so whole disown us friends just because you bring that up so you know just consider calculus and see what you can do with it sometimes I

find the best way to deal with that is to talk about it not to them so you're sitting for dead with dinner and you're going god I just heard this really interesting thing or I saw this interesting show or I heard this interview or whatever some way to bring it up read this book read this article whatever about human sexuality knowing that they have some trauma without saying overtly yeah and it was so interesting to now I I think I've come to understand that even if we have lots over a minor amount of a major or a

minor loving abuse I can see how it makes sense to to not let those people from the past so own us by us carrying the trauma you know and you're saying it about you you see and then they're hearing and sometimes light bulbs are going up instead of going you know what you ought to do that's that's too intense with people who have been abused and there's a reason for them people of any kind of abuse have felt it when they were abused and usually weren't sitting around saying hey abused me please usually when you're abused you're not

feeling like you are in control so when you discuss healing you have to let a person feel like they're in control so you can't say you need to do this and that because the telling them is taking as you're controlling me even though that's not your intention that's how they hear it so instead you make it on the slide like wow I was just reading this it's amazing that I feel better already you know you plant seeds and they may take the bait for lack of a better phrase or they may not but it's

something to consider now I don't pussyfoot around if I'm doing the client you know session like you know with a client and doing the session and I don't I don't say you know hmm I heard that there's such a thing I mean they're hiring me for that so I can say it straight out but if you're the path you might have to be a little more stealthy about bringing things like that in any case I see this topic is there for people I go to unity of civilian people to this day and even again recently it's come up

where people are saying you know Michael there's you know there's people that would like you to go back and do one of your lectures on just intimacy not necessarily even sexuality but intimacy because how I teach is typically very safe and very beautiful you know it's almost artistic rather than overt you know what I say you know gosh thank you and I really appreciate it I'll look at it I'll think about it I'll consider it but I do think about it you know because it's it's difficult so it's come up again lately and then I'll think about

it maybe once every year or two that I'm gonna do there's a Health Conference coming up I think this October of 2017 and they've asked me to be they have a lot of speakers but they asked me to be the keynote speaker which is quite an honor of course and the first thought I had because of all this conversation and like leeanne's maybe I'll talk about that so we'll see I may or may not go that direction there but but as a male people get very challenged with you talking about sexuality or healing they just

they just assume here another perpetrator and it's sad but I understand because there's just so many cases of that had such gross quantities of that on this planet but if I overly let such scared or hurt pain and angry people keep me from talking about this or teaching this then I'm letting them actually harm the world the planet because I'm letting their fears and angers control me and keep me from teaching so some people have said well why are you not teaching is is it because some people are so rude about it

or or whatever you know attacking sometimes all that no that's a little bit of it but it's a variety of things I think that just to share if you don't mind I know there are times where with teaching this topic it's hard to teach it because I don't see a lot of support by other teachers I see abuses by them so it's hard to stand in this crowd and being called one of them when I don't believe in what they're doing so I've always kind of stood alone then I created a website some time ago where I could say hey to any of the people out

there that are looking for a kind of a safe website even the practitioners of secret sexuality I will pay for the website how it's free you don't even have to paint it on the directory of practitioners there was very little interaction from those people and those who did got blessing because there are the healthy ones healthy handful in the country and on the planet but I came to realization guys and you might think about this in your own life sometimes we're trying to help people that do not want help and that means we then both

sink if we let that curb us so I had the website did all these things and thought wow I wrote the books and those have been you know those have sold really well and all that but the website I thought wow putting this out there for them and none of what a participating they're paying to be in directories elsewhere they're paying to be in directories that are related to groups or individuals that are actually abusers of the topic or addicts of the topic of sexuality they're paying to be participants in that they won't for free

being one is more healthy related and that was like oh my god in a moment it was like wow I opening I felt sad for it and live for them but also more like bewilderment but now I don't need to be bewildered anymore because how long do you want to be bewildered about the same thing to get over the government and just get to the Wow like okay reality check and move forward so I didn't put as much any energy anymore into that website although we'll keep it or or we go I don't know if it's still active right

now but we'll be reactivating it just so the education pieces out there and it may be able to carry the videos that I'm now going to be editing these films and converting them to videos so we'll try to get on that as soon as we can because I know that that the folks that work for me don't have a really enough to do I'm kidding so they'll get to that as soon as they can alright and just start finishing up and recapping slightly if the area of sexuality intimacy and whatnot is in any way and you know inhibited take it to

the light and bring the light to end whichever way you want to look at it bring light to it you should let light shine on it even if it's subtle stuff have no stone left unturned bring it to the light and it could be if you've had some abuses forced sex or just shame you know you know just kind of shame kinds of things mom used to say this you know boys are all they want is this or dad used to say that or you know grossed kinds of things you know if you have brothers sometimes they're a little bit crude and you know there's that kind of

stuff there's our past life stuff start just sit and do inventory and ask yourself where do I stand with this topic and a lot of people go well either I'm fine and it's startling it's just amazing that when we get to talking they'll they almost be like well besides this this this this and this this is happening unclogging it's like wow how did you leave that out of the first round of the conversation you know one exercise I've often done done with people is you can have a couple do this or as a healer

I've something done this with people but you can take yourself or in another person that feels like they have hurt inside around the topic and you can kind of what I call wrestle and ask them to access their feelings about sexuality and then you could wrestle wrestling meaning kind of a resistance not literally wrestling competing but more just writing together a little moving and resistance kind of dance you know and it brings up tears it brings up rage it brings up all kinds of feelings for the person's partner the client whatever

it is you know but you do things like that now before I go further I want to just mention if ever you work with somebody on this whether it's a friend and I've had people you know gals come to me they say Michael will you work with me you know my first response has always been no because I'd rather teach you how to do it teach a girlfriend if you're a girl a female I would rather teach a girlfriend of yours how to do that or your partner how to do that a lot of people don't have a part of them do it right we have a partner and I

don't say well how about a girlfriend or whatever I've had gals who have gone and asked safe males some cases it's gain males to come and talk to them about men and sexuality so that they can understand men a bit more I think that's so beautiful you know some people it's like those are things you should be discussing outside your home or outside your relationship and I'm like bloody hell you need to talk about it everywhere you know it is possible not literally but there's a lot of places that you can talk about it because

sometimes if your partner's messed up and that's the only place you to talk about it I'm gonna go anywhere right you know so you know my parents were married I think over 50 years I don't remember seeing them kiss but I definitely don't remember them being in any way affectionate other than maybe a rare couple times and that's 50 years you know so it's kind of a strange thing because love love comes to us in our heart and it's it's almost like it's so natural it's like a natural spark that that

has come from the heavens above within ourselves and above it's like a spark that is sparked off a fire and it's an amber just sitting there warming our hearts affection is just that spark warming and becoming its own fire not its own separate from the original fire but it's you know it's all whether the Ember from the original fire of God starts warming our hearts and then it's like god I feel so warm I'd be happy to hug you or smile hi how are you Jimmy that's all the same it's the affection how its shared is about

appropriateness you know you need the grocery store clerk it might just be a smile and how you doing but for me I even say things to people like god that's a great outfit if I believe that I don't make stuff up but that's a beautiful outfit on you or wow that's a really cool hairdo because that's affection and I'll say it because I mean it so you know some people of course will take it like he must be hitting on me you know I think think gross things you know but I'm not gonna stop doing it just because some people are unyielding

they're gonna project projective stuff onto me it's unfortunate that they do it and I you know I've heard my fair share of stories like that about me or other people but I'm not gonna stop the infection of some form or another and for people to be able to safely share a hug and sometimes even a kiss you know I've seen that happen to have that happening and he's just beautiful and sometimes it's meant to be that it goes even further in a nutshell though to not confuse you know I just assume when somebody says the word intimate

that it means sex remember that sexuality is is one facet expression of intimacy smiling hugging complimenting sex and a couple other you know things could be expressions of intimacy so consider that but you'll never really be able to launch into further expressions of intimacy good expressions the reigns of the Sun called expressions of love called intimacy it's on it's on you can't really get there if you still have stuff that pulls in the reins that are trying to shine out to the world fools their men shames them beats the

hell out of them darkens them then you're just living in hell you're hurting your you being is like hell not just living in it it's as though you are hell and it's really really sad you can say well but I was abused I was taking advantage of and I'm not eating in of an extinct clothes no problem it's my choice you're right I need to be in control good for you you are that's fine and I'm not opening up okay I'm just telling you you died today you're coming back not only with the darkness you left this moment but with

interest rates on top of it compounded you know he'll why you can't find a safe way you can't say I don't have the partner Michaels saying could be there for me I don't have the section healer there start with book start with a counselor on any issues for that matter but just learn to breathe and ask yourself what is this right here I mean first of all bodies are illusion so I can't make it good or bad really spiritually speaking what I can do though is say to myself you know the body is what of course the miracles

called a messenger or sort of a symbol okay it's a communication device to communicate everything I believe this body is always communicating something that's why we can read the faces the body posture we can read that because the body the soul is always community using the body to communicate where it's at so when people slump the soul is using the body to say I just don't feel happy when we have lots of stress lines on our face that's the soul communicating something so is a smile

so it's taking someone's hand so is Jake either face you know good to see you how you do it with shames with this that the other is what it's all about so what do you carry into the body you know so think about it your your body is this holy vessel which is the vessel it's not your holiness and it becomes an expression so how do you want your vessel to communicate which your soul feels about love and then love expresses its intimacy and intimacy can express a sexuality do you want it to Express you wanted to convey

shut down and turned off and dark and so on or the opposite the opposite is not hyper sexual and that's that's the unhealthy opposite we don't want dualities we want here right in the middle find your Center help yourself find your own sexual center and if you say but I have no partner and so on you know what just try some inventory first Who am I what do I believe about sexuality well I believe it should only be this I believe it okay where'd you get that well it's just seems right where'd you get that

well my mother said really what makes you think that mom's the you know the textbook on that topic so just ask yourself some of these things find out where you have erroneous beliefs and be willing to retire them not for the extreme opposites but be willing to retire them to find your center of sexuality you know what is your center in the topic what's right for you now that you I'm talking about is it the wound did you know I don't want you to go by that as your as your guide the best I can be today spiritually and

personally and psychologically what sexuality does that person in me want to to share what what sexual album do I want to emanate or to bring to the world so just do your best to be healthy and remember the moral is sexuality should always be something with love and respect if you've had that in the past then just some degree your soul will fill a trauma or your body will fill it trauma you could say well I didn't have that sex will wait was there love and respect if you can't say yes then there's likely

a little bit of an apprehension or regret there no problem you don't kill yourself over judge yourself over beat yourself up over it just own it so that we can say I don't think I'll do that again then you've learned no next make sure that you have anybody who can with are with or will be with lovers back secondly safety do you feel safe in every way with the person they're sharing with also can you both be responsible you're responsible for your feelings become responsible for money if I chose to be with you I chosen

I don't need to be bitching about you did this you talked to me I chosen I need to be responsible I'm not it's not a healthy experience it's not a sacred experience so he needs to be responsible and you need to be responsible don't do anything with me that you don't feel like you should do and if you end up doing something you think later you didn't want to do we only need to be you know you need to make your decisions right right so we need to be healthy with each other people in life and then communicate communicate what you're

thinking feel where you're at which we'll do won't do and let them communicate there's it's very important which is sort of a branching off of responsibility last but not least if you give those pieces together you know love and respect safety responsibility communication then you will be able to trust and surrender with whomever you're with including yourself and your own pleasure sometimes it's just where you're at sometimes that's what you're going to do I just feel like I would like to release some energy or I feel

like I want to just feel really beautiful kind of tingles through the body then that's fine you know they're just doing ultimately all we ever really want is God and we're either expressing that or the frustrations of not feeling God so if you have frustrations about being look up you can act them out sexually by just pleasuring and being frustrated and letting out tears and screams it don't pillow other times I feel so grateful feeling connected to God you we can touch him and be touched in and for pleasure but kind of laughing

bliss out inside because of what it means which is thank you God you know so I hope this brief you know sort of a dissertation or or you know bit you know dialogue on this it helped in any way it's a little little different than some of the talks we often do but it's a talk that sort of needs to be done and I want to thank those of you who have sort of been approaching me to come back and do something say something about it and it's also a way of sharing with you that I I mean it's my website look here by the way here's what's

happening in my life and that is people things incidents consonances synchronicities are coming to say Michael can you help anymore you know and I see that as God saying look Michael I know you kind of backed off and thank you for the work you did on it what would you mind doing a little you know extra credits or work helping the world in some way so those videos that all release are going to be a part of that and whatever else I can do okay thank you guys very much remember there's also CDs and talks about this

online something for free and some are purchasable and then I've also got books on it one called sacred sexuality a manual for living lists and one's just an intro to talker and sacred sexuality and they're both beautiful the manual the bigger one is more workbook related it's got lots of different what to do now you can do this it still teaches but it also has a lot of exercise it's the other one is an easier read it's softer something you could share with almost anyone because it's very very almost almost poetic or artistic in a way

anyway blessings to all of you peace be with you and we'll hope to see you soon join us Sunday for a really wonderful talk