Happiness: What It Is and Isn’t

hello there this is Michael Muir dad and this is our friday-night spiritual insights with Michael Muir dad so thank you for joining us so I want to talk about happiness and you know that includes the the real story to happiness what it is and what it isn't and you know the things that help us find happiness experience happiness and the things that take happiness away you know a lot of people think that that happiness is something that is circumstantial you know if this would happen then I would be happier and we

all have said that at least once if not 1 million times in our life if only but if only is actually a proverb so to speak an axiom of the Eco because it tells you you're missing something but if only you had it so as soon as it convinces you that you're missing something it's almost it's next line is usually and if only you had that you'd be better off so then what it does is it's like ghullam I think was his name right and Lord of the Rings you're out there you know looking for this precious

you're looking for this thing that you think makes you happy and when you don't have it you go crazy you start just having this psychotic experience it doesn't look like it because people cover it up by other names and just think it's heartbreak or infatuations and all the names we give for things that seem to make us feel better in our lives when in fact you're crazy you're you're losing your mind then you start to become desperate so this is kind of funny if you think about it somebody

ought to make a video to this effect but picture you know bars people going to pick up beat on each other and meet meet ups and hookups and all this and it's just coming to me as I'm saying this but you know it'd be great if somebody made a video where you know people are meeting like hey there you know the little lines a little pickup lines you know come here often and it would be great when when if the receive recipient party you know it says I'm not interested make sure the other person going precious you know kind of going

nuts and into that character because this person's turned them down you know took their ring away and it's like that people are thinking you've let me down you've you know hurt me and and and I'm making fun of it and making light of it but I am not ignorant to the pain that it causes as well you know it's it's really sad and so forth but no one nothing has the power to remove anything from us then why does it seem like it because we didn't own the happiness we borrowed it and acted like

it was someone else that gifted it to us or gave it to us or rented it to us or whatever light as though they're the landlord and we're just the tenant mmm and it's off man it's wrong you know so it's like it's nuts in reality who's really in charge here and when I've done healing work for all these years that I've done it when people come to me and say you know I met this guy a year ago and or this girl or whatever it is and oh my god I really fell hard for them do all they seem so

this and they gave me that and they talked about all this stuff but it's always amazing ninety-nine out of a hundred times when we talk about the healing that they want to do which was why they came to see me we find that at the end of the conversation recession we're not talking about that person at all we're talking about who they were making up for who they were compensating for well I'm really mad at this person that broke my heart okay and then we do some inner work and we find wait wow this

person is my dad who left our family early and I was hoping to find a guy that would be a provider let's say unlike my dad and then I was looking for my partner was really boring and kind of flatlined more like a friend than a lover and that you know and then I found this guy or girl and they were just wow they were real sexy and high energy and well yeah you know so are narcissists and Psychopaths you know so really do you want to just think that that's automatically going to set you up for something great no so you have to look

at what's really going on and it's quite depressing by the way when I you know tell you that we're gonna talk about how to do this we're gonna talk about how to heal this it doesn't always start with this beautiful high energy quite often it goes into a darker place the saying you know it gets worse before it gets better it's kind of like that it's not because I'm preaching a negative direction to anybody but what happens is as you first awaken to yourself you start to realize

how many layers of your Unseld for so long and that is disturbing that's what Jesus says the Gospel of Thomas you know instead of just seek and you shall find he actually says it differently seek and you shall become disturbed keep seeking and then you shall find and so on I'm paraphrasing slightly but that's it so it is upsetting it is disturbing to look at what we've become it is disturbing to realize you know well I was married for 50 years only to find out that all that time my husband or wife was having a second life with

the next-door neighbor you know what do you do with that I mean 50 years or five years or whatever it is it's like what then what's true and and how do I know what's true how do I you can't be happy with a divided life divided we fall now we could say the opposite of happiness is like depressed that's kind of a no-brainer in a sense but happiness or depressed mhm so people think they're happy because somebody's in their life the person leaves their life and then they're depressed obviously but it's not

just people the jobs I have this job now how just because you don't consciously know it how are you not so you know how are you so sure that your your soul isn't saying hey sweetheart beloved it's time that we leave this job because I have a better one for you that's not the way humans think typically that's how the soul things but he the human self which the ego convinces us is separate from everything and therefore can't trust anything because everything is outside and not out for our greatest good so the ego

puts us on a tangent to seek and never find and the ego puts us on a tangent to grab and grasp at things pull them to us for a momentary sustenance it's like a supplement people are like supplements I'm a little low on vitamin B you know be complex or whatever wow this person served as a good B complex they gave me you know a stress release or an energy a higher energy this one gave me this this but people aren't supposed to be like supplements nothing in this world needs to be like a supplement it doesn't mean

all forms of supplements are wrong it's just that we have to see what they really are to us and not be deluded by them go ahead and use them if you must whether its nutritional supplements people or anything else but not to get delusional about it not to get caught up because then you're gonna crash you guys all know the idols fall and the greater you put them up this person is my one and only this this person is my one and only that then they come crashing down whether they throw into the bus whether

they reject you betray whether they pass away even in a state of love with you still they pass away and then you're heartbroken there need not be the crash but it's gonna happen often in this world and if it's gonna happen forgive yourself and when you forgive yourself if you feel happy afterwards you'll know you actually really did forgive because forgiveness restores you to who you really are it doesn't just restore what you thought you lost and won it back you don't say okay I'm gonna practice forgiveness

bring them back now that's not how this works forgiveness is synonymous with the concept of unconditional love and as soon as you put a condition on your happiness you are not able to forgive and you're not going to experience true happiness obviously because you put a condition I'll be happy if only I get this person back and I know it makes sense to the head but the soul knows better so our soul is soul every day just so much trying to teach us my beloved it says to the human self I'm just trying to teach you how to be more

like your soul self and the Spirit is willing but the flesh is weak you keep settling and fighting and resisting and pushing back on every lesson I try to bring to you to help you wake up the lessons are never slapping your hand the lessons are they can look like that but only because the ego-self wants to treat us as though we've been slapped when all we were really experiencing was an awakening like I need to think twice about whatever it is rushing into relationships prematurely or jumping into jobs just because of the

pay so the souls gonna say I keep trying to tell you not to do that and so the soul might say you know we have another job we're gonna go to you're gonna feel like I had a great paying job and I lost it the universe keeps punishing me taking away good things like good pay but it didn't take it away you got attached to it and thought you're supposed to stay there you're feeling that so you fabricate the universe is doing this so that you don't take responsibility for the fact that I probably need to be going somewhere else

how do I know that well apparently it is true because I'm going somewhere else you know it's kind of a funny thing but we can we can really discern what is really best for us or what's really going on by just looking around us instead of wishing and willing this is something we're different wishing and hoping something we're different it here's what is well I wish my partner was nicer to me okay but they're not so do you want to stay with them or not well I would if they were nicer but

they're not so what are we gonna do that's the reality and we think that's just terrible when in fact your soul knows knows that you'll be happier if you own this and see it no I'm not happy at all I'm gonna upset because you're making me see that my relationship is terrible that is like a sneeze it's uncomfortable for a second but as soon as you get it move forward you're gonna feel better so sneeze get it over with cry get it over with because we have a better life better

lationship for you so happiness is not something you buy happiness cannot come from the outside and there's two aspects of happiness and I've done a talk on it the other aspect which is called joy joy is a God feeling happiness is a human feeling it's not a bad feeling it's a human feeling but happiness is like a human version of joy okay happiness a human version of joy but if my happiness comes from the joy I feel then it's authentic and it's real it's great if my happiness because now there's two parts

of happiness there's two aspects of happiness and that there is happiness and then there's joy once human one's more spiritual but then down here happiness the lower aspect of happiness the human version it splits into two one that is coming from joy and one that is coming from ego stimulation you know like a happy pill Wow I took some ecstasy I feel so so high you know this one guy telling me what's poor guy you know he's going yeah I was really getting into this ecstasy stuff you know years ago he's trying to convince me

that this was great and he's gonna really getting into ecstasy and Wow it just makes you feel like love for everyone well that's chemical it's not authentic coming from the heart soul experience it's a it's a stimulus of some kind it's like saying you know every time I light up a joint or drink a beer I no longer have problems but you do because as soon as you sober up they're there again so it's not authentic but this kind of you know he's saying yeah I we have taking ecstasy

well he said it was great you know you feel like love for everyone and so you feel a rousing up sex with everyone and he said the only thing is you have to take ecstasy but then you also have to take like a little blue pill to be able to get the body to get stimulated because the one takes away the other now you have to start thinking that through I'm just feeling this synthetic not real version of love but I'm taking I'm feeling this love for everyone then I'm wanting to have sex with everyone

but then I can't have an erection if I'm a male and so I have to take a pill for that to happen you know that should sound a little bit odd I think it's pretty funny because I think it's so ironic and I think it's funny that people don't get it it's just like ludicrous but at the end of the day what are we doing a pill to get happy really you know no no I probably need to refrain but I found sad Michael what do I do I need to fill some happiness first and foremost and what I do I mean

because I mentioned last week you know man it's been such a challenging last several weeks like intensely challenging and witnessing so many things experiencing so many things it's like wow this is just so heavy and how to deal with it and I'm telling you in its seconds there were moments in seconds it was different because of doing the internal work first things could literally be I could literally knock off on fingers one two points they're totally nuts here's something that's messed up today here's something here's

something we're all here's a communication that went awry here's I could name them and count them off on my fingers and throw out 10 things immediately that are just like that's how intense it was and I took those 10 figuratively and literally took those 10 to the altar mm-hmm and just did okay I have a spare minute here so doo doo doo doo doo doing the prayer work you know surrendering this to God calling upon you know spirits presence immediately felt a shift immediately then besides feeling the shift inside saw the shift

on the outside and immediately saw some of these things turn around like suddenly this got fixed and this got repaired and that's when you know the fixes the repairs are authentic healings rather than just little sort of manipulations on the outside because they're coming from something authentic inside so when I plug into God I feel joy the joy downloads happiness and the happiness starts to sort of wash over that which was sadness or depression or whatever else might be going on in our lives that's how it authentically can

happen that the highway of making this work furthermore not the highway but the high way furthermore it doesn't mean you can't do things on the outside as well just don't only do outside and nickel gate negate the inside when you do things on the outside what it would look like is okay things are messed up I do my inner work I see some clearing it feels better you know and there's one person who something went awry on a phone call let me call them and apologize for example or let me get that bill paid or let me check off some

things clean my desk or whatever it is those are things you can do on the outside just to sort of punctuated things into a different form Fung Shui is you know an ancient Chinese art that has to do with the proper placement of things like clearing energy in your life in your body in your house in your office and so on your environment so when you're not feeling joy you're usually not plugged in enough to God because God is your source of joy first of all not plugged in second of all not only are you not plugged in often when

you're not feeling joy and you're feeling sad or depressed or hurt or angry or whatever it is that means you're investing not only not investing in God but your in your relationship with God you're investing in a relationship with your ego you're listening to your egos whispers you know like this voice again using like the ghullam in Lord of the Rings where he's got that nice little voice going let's try and be nice and this other voice says no you can't trust anyone you're

listening too much to that ego voice the ego voice that wants you to murder your relationships destroy your your self-esteem and so on I know it may not seem like it's consciously doing that but it is undermining you and any of us to listen to the ego so if we want happiness it really is an effect of plugging in properly to spirit then I get joy in my heart and happiness in my life if I'm not feeling that then it's because I'm not plugged in and plug it into my ego so instead of joy I start to

feel fear and instead of happiness that came from joy I have what sadness depression and other symptoms irritability that come from being disconnected separate and afraid so there's a cure mm plug back in humility prayer you know excuse me humble prayer and and just be vulnerable you know open up but a lot of us someone said recently you know well I want to change you know for example there was something going on in their life and they're saying you know I would like this to change and I would like to

be happier and I said remember part of you wants to be happy what do you mean part of me well fine then it's the bigger part no part of you wants to be happy and part apparently part of you does it how do we know because it's not happening so how do we know which one's winning the one that's happening if you want to be happy but you're not yet there's still a too big of a part of you that doesn't want the happiness now please don't fill judged or you know all disheartened and disillusioned just

dispirited from that just hang out for a second it happens to all of us if my shift is not happening I don't yet want it badly enough does that make me a bad person not at all in fact it could mean that when I wanted to be upset and angry now I don't know it was consciously want to be upset don't you but what if somebody left me and I really don't want them to leave me and it really hurts me I don't want to like smile and be happy the next day because then it's like nobody realizes how badly I wanted that

relationship so in part I play a role I need I need to be upset I need to be upset and sad and you know so that everybody knows that I'm actually not getting what I want we play roles and most people don't want to admit that but it's true we play along and we you know a little extra tears and a little extra this or that you know when in fact we're if we turn to tune in to our soul self we'd be like comments good that that's over with jobs included we're afraid of the future well if this person left or a

job ended I don't want to look all that isn't centered then I won't have any sympathy from anybody and people might not help me find another job and I am afraid of that there's little investments but I was saying to somebody in a session you know part of you does want and part of you doesn't want to just bounce back and have your health money job person you know partner or whatever and it wasn't easy for them to hear but I gave some bit vivid examples you know and I was saying things like

well if for example and I've used this one for many of people you're all you're all upset you're angry that someone betrayed you and you were with them for five years or 50 years or whatever now you got to be really upset you got to tell people you know after 50 years five years whatever look what they did to me can you believe this and you're getting a lot of support because you're hurting I get that but here's what you don't want to say here's what's actually happening inside even on the outside Oh

God can you believe it oh my god I don't even know if I can get out of bed I'm depressed because I had somebody betrayed me the way they portray and you go on and on but if you were in touch with your soul what you would say is this Wow I just had a major Epiphany I had this relationship and it was lasting so long and it was so deep and invested that when it ended I got really angry hurt and angry but I continued looking at it and for a moment I wanted to say you blankety-blank how dare you and then

I talked to myself let's look at this the real the real version of the relationship which is what well I guess if I have to be honest I wasn't really in love with this person I got together with him despite my mother or they had money or they were promising they looked like a promising prospect for a leader kind of person or she was sexy or they were handsome or whatever it you know they made me feel good about myself they had a great sense of humor and my family never had that so it felt that whatever your reasons that means you

basically rented them you used them so you would be saying that if you were sold you if you could speak from your soul and so Wow you know this was kind of a real mind-blowing epiphany I basically used this person so at first I was like wanting to be Oh what was me and then I thought oh oops I use this person at first I wanted to say you blankety-blank and now I'm like I want to say sorry not that you do say sorry because it can confuse people and sometimes make them think that hurtful behaviors is okay I'm

not saying to do that but I am saying inside your soul to say I get it you know most of the time when this happens not all the type of most of the time we were compensating you know this was like a friend or I was abused as a child and this was a safe person so they were you know kind of boring but they were safe so you used them for the safety and now you hate him for being boring so we don't usually own our agendas in relationships we even sound vicious to even think and speak that we had agendas but nobody wants to protect you know to

own that and and step up and own that like I said people don't like to just put that out there and say it's possible you don't have to preach it to the world because you might be judged by others but you do need to own it for yourself I am NOT happy because they left me turns into I'm not happy because they left me but then again we were using each other they wanted me for my this and I wanted them for their that and now we're both kind of ticked off but really all that happened was reality came around I'm a

little extra mad at them because they're the one who called it off instead of me you know and which means I'm mad that I didn't have the courage which means I'm angry at myself more than though and it all starts turning yes I'm mad at them but then again I'm also mad at myself but then again I'll just forgive them and I'll forgive myself it's that easy but it's not always easy for people that want to defend it and pretend it didn't happen we may not always be able to see

our role in these things but we could if we'd sit still long enough to look at it you cannot have happiness when you're in denial you can't have happiness when you're a control freak you can't have happiness when you refuse to forgive you can't have happiness when you want to stay angry it just won't work if you want to have happiness which comes originally like I said from ultimately from joy and that comes from God on the outside it also comes from repairing relations practicing

forgiveness there's something that happens we think that happiness is a pill on the outside so we keep looking for the thing that's going to make us happy and what I'm saying is taking the energy that the the pressure the the layers of weights off of happiness it gets to come up so what are the weighted things that keep happiness from coming up well judgments hurts hates control like I said I just name those things but also on the outside what if I'm what if I'm low on certain nutrients go ahead

add those to your inner work don't replace them for but you know add them you know we don't you don't replace the other but you add okay I'll take some maybe I'm low on B vitamins maybe there's a hormonal drop you know maybe I'm low on sugar level right now you know my pancreas maybe maybe my thyroids down and so I'm sitting here every day meditating oh mama you know come on god I want to feel joy and that happiness Michael said and in fact your thyroids low so you're not it's not

physiologically kicking in you're you're sort of fighting your physiology yes ultimately your spiritual being but you seem to be for now a human being so we have to bring the spiritual self in and still accept that we're human and try to find that balance so that we can have not only the joy of spirit but the happiness of body and human self so yeah hormone levels and so forth and then also the psychology behind it how can I be happy if I'm at a job that's incongruent how can I be happy if I'm in a

partnership that's in congruent how can I be happy if I'm having conversations that don't seem very you know like a lot of bickering or competition or whatever it happens to be so if we want happiness then we have to see what we don't want and I know some positive thinkers tell you don't focus on what you don't want they're wrong you you must own what you don't want before you start looking at what you do want it's both that you have to do healing the old and bringing in the new you

can't just jump forward into the new there sadly mistaken which is you know it all comes out in the wash in the end they're good for something the positives but they miss an important piece you can't just hype yourself into happiness because then it's just another stimulus that you're using positive thinking techniques and teachers and channels that tell you focus on happiness she'll be happy you also have to determine you have to become determined to stop being addicted to unhappiness you have to decide not to

any longer feed the beast of depression and so forth and it's still going to come up once in a while no matter how you know I mean Jesus himself there were moments where he felt a heaviness you know they described in the Bible a heaviness besides moments of Tears their heaviness and that happens you know we're healers and so forth and we're healing and we're working with people and it's hard not to not to hear feel pick up occasionally the the quantity of heaviness in this world the painful things people do to

each other it's it's you know it's pretty it's pretty sick also just the weight of the world as we know it in the form of the fact that the world is an illusion and yet it every day waits us down in our bodies so that's almost a subconscious fight that depresses us because the depression the opposite of happiness is you know it's chemical it's psychological it's kind of a combination of things so we want to turn all of it around I tend to use a phrase hid things from all sides

so yes get the hormones check but they don't fix your soul but check them check your nutrient levels you know it doesn't hurt and are you getting enough sleep of course there's another one some of you folks out there can post other things other ideas you've heard or things you've experienced so you're gonna go you know what I I took melatonin you know or someone's gonna say I took this or that and it really kicked in I'll tell you one thing a supplement called Sammy sa M - II like

same but Sam E and sold - usually Costco and I think Walmart carries it I would if you you know if it were me I'd probably choose the extra-strength version and I think there's two popular brands this isn't a commercial break I'm just saying there's this this thing called Sammy and there's more than one manufacturer but it is without getting into the physiology the effects of it and all that the chemistry of it you can google it but it was outlawed in America for a long time because it worked you know and

it's kind of nice there's a blend of things in there it has st. John's wort and other things that are good for you know healing depression but this doesn't claim to heal depression what it does is it plugs holes in your to nutritional level or your nutrient level that would then turn that around your your physiological version of being higher your energy you know energetically so depression opposite of happiness is also not only physiological but it's also energetic and emotional but energetic

your vitality level so chi kun you know doing some conscious breathing can stimulate energy and Chi into the body to help counter the physical version or the energetic version of being unhappy or lacking happiness again the happiness is an inside job but supported on the outside so think of it like that and try this from all sides understand that you know you're going to have days that are more challenging and that will tempt you well I'm feeling so challenged I mean there's well you know there's days when

it's like I just Wow we say to ourselves man I'd like to just curl up in bed because I'm physically tired energetically tired or emotionally - or whatever it is the fact that you feel any version of tired is the opposite of happy and vital and even if you're happy and vital in this world there's people around you that aren't liking that and that weighs you down so there's so much trying to pull us the other direction we're in a we're definitely the minority those of us who believe in love and

health and self-help and meditation and inner peace and so on you know we're we're the minority and then when you look at the minority that are into that how many are authentically into that and then we're really a minority because a lot of people talk it you know it's okay to you know wear an ohm symbol on your shirt as you have another beer but I mean come on you know it's okay to to you know listen to your favorite mellow keep things light and cool and reggae music and you know as you you know cheat

on your wife or husband or whatever so you know listen to Bob Marley while you you know do the neighbor I mean it's just ridiculous so I don't believe in those things but I mean we all slip we all make mistakes but I mean saying first catch your lifestyle that's off look for hypocrisy in your lifestyle not a moment you slipped here or there but start with the the biggest issues if you can some people would say start with the minor issues and work your way up to the earth if that is if you do it I'll support you on it if you'll at

least do it but a lot of people won't even get to the bigger issues because they'll slip too much even working on small issues so I would just say work on whatever you can authentically work on but change something change anything that is weighing you down creating an in congruence contradicting and so on because divided we fall Jesus is explaining and of course in miracles' at one point depression comes he says almost like a splitting headache is when your head is going to different directions it's

splitting you would like to do this but you're doing that and now the weight of that decision or lack of decision is weighing on you so you get this headache similarly he says when you're depressed you're dispirited which is like saying the opposite of inspirited or inspired so when you're not living an inspired life you're living ad spired or expired life so it's depressing and another way to say it is the divided we fall another way to say it is the rugs getting pulled out from under you and each time you get

up and it gets pulled out it's tiring you're in a relationship that's very narcissistic and someone's gaslighting and pulling the rug out from under you and it messes with your mind you just don't even know what's sane anymore and I know some of you you know come to me for counseling with similar things my mom does this my husband or wife does that and so on my kids or whatever it is and the games you know to just mess with your mind that you just don't even know what end is up because when you're told

to big enough lie often enough you start to believe it that's the old saying and even the the most you know sane strong person by nature you start to wear down a big enough lie often enough that's what Hitler did that's what other megalomaniacs do you know who would think that you could just pull this off take over a nation a country imprison people and burn them alive I mean do you think you could easily just step up and do that no you have to lie to them and make them believe something enough now this isn't

like I'm giving you some politics or you know global crisis kind of lecture I'm saying even in your own home someone tells you something that isn't really true you'll never amount to anything your parent says or a partner who says you leave me nobody also wants you and there's a part of us forgiving them using a play on words but dumb enough to believe it okay there's a part of us now weaken up now you can say that's terrible that they would do that but you also don't have to believe it you don't

you don't have to choose to believe in you are choosing well no they brainwash me but you also allow that but I had no choice I was just a five-year-old I understand that now that you're not five anymore and you're 55 why aren't you at a counselor so keep making excuses and it won't fly repair what they've done prevent what they're doing and repair what they've done so that you can move forward and I keep saying and stick together use your counselors use your sponsors use your life coaches use your

chaplains use whatever you can to feel supported in that it's a little more difficult when you're alone doing these things but do what you can you're entitled to happiness and I did use that word in a good way not entitled like some you know entitled person who thinks they deserve every you know every there's like spoiled and they have commands together everybody I'm talking about you are entitled to miracles you are entitled to happiness meaning God wills it for you therefore you're entitled to it

entitled means it is part of your title you're a holy child of God therefore happiness is not a tall order not being happy means something's wrong being happy that's organic that's perfect I should expect to be happy not in a expectant you know like having expectations away but it shouldn't surprise me well of course I'm happy yeah this is what it's like to be plugged in with God that's the way it should look that's the way it should feel that's the beauty of being part of

God and reminding ourselves of that we come out of the dark you know the darkness in the dark night of the soul or the dark moments of our lives so happiness is something you're meant to be feeling guys all of us and there's moments when we're not in the mood to be happy because we're angry that something didn't go our way or for me it's not usually going to be a thing that could happen that would just like I'm not happy I feel happy almost all the time for me it's typically when there has to

be like a hundred things happening at once and it's like wow and then even then that has to usually last a long time to weigh enough on me to just be like oh and then I just sometimes try to snap out of it I don't force myself to snap out of it like as though I'm being wrong or bad I just give myself an opportunity to snap out sometimes maybe I'm gonna just go well I don't really feel like doing anything and so well I think I'm gonna just okay I'm just gonna breathe and make myself

go and trim roses today I walk outside trim roses great because I refuse to become paralyzed or immobilized by it whatever it is I refuse to let it control and that might make a difference right there just movement and which is I like I said a little cheekbone a little energy a little air but it's also I accomplished something and I'll feel a little better sometimes it's gonna be of course I do the inner work but I'm talking about what to add on the outside so it might be I'm going to trim some

roses it might be well you know things are just wow so out of control today's everything's just so nuts the last weeks you know what I'm going to do is I'm going to go up and sit in a hot tub or something you know if I did that when I was living in an apartment even many years ago single just go and sit in the hot tub something to kind of break the trance of life for some of you it's a song abandom album for some it's a you know favorite movie or whatever whatever it takes just find something that symbolizes like

Earth Wind and Fire saying when you feel down and out sing a song and it'll make your way you know it'll it'll bring you out to make you want to move and shout and dance and you know feel something different so just consider these things never let life this world a person anything immobilize you and get you stuck into a downer a depression if you're down that's okay go down cry do what you need to do stay in bed if you need to but be careful not to become immobilized do something else and break it up at

some point give yourself five minutes ten minutes put a little time limit on it it's called a boundary on yourself so that you go okay time brush off and I'm gonna go and do something and it could be anything I mean honestly make yourself get in the car go and get some ice cream I'm not saying the traditional yeah when your bum do that somebody left you should eat a gallon of ice cream I'm not giving you that lecture I'm talking about the movement part not the addiction for an addiction but the movement break the

trance do something different okay and last but not least make a difference when you are helpful to anybody else feeling bombed feeling down go to the store I don't care what you buy bubble gum but when you're in the store lend five bucks your hand five bucks up to the person behind you who's in line pay their way five bucks or whatever leave it'll help ship something because there's almost no greater thing to do on the outside greatest thing is ultimately with God inside but of all the tools

outside one of the greatest things if not the greatest be of service when you make a difference it's really hard to stay bummed because something happens first of all of course you feel better then there's also good karma but also there's a trick to this a good trick meaning you realize if somebody else was happier today because of something I did it must mean here's the key I have a purpose it must mean I have value and it's hard to stay depressed when you have value or purpose because in

immediately when you say value purpose it means therefore there's something I can do and instead of immobilized you're ready to roll okay so I appreciate you folks listening I appreciate your time always I really do and your support god bless you all and join us so peace be with you bye-bye