Dealing with Trauma and Post Trauma

hi there it's michael mere dad here and it's time for our Friday night spiritual insights with Michael Moore dad I think what we're gonna talk about we're gonna talk about something generic generic Lee we could call about healing but I guess we're gonna probably skip into a few topics related to healing one of them related to post trauma and the effects of trauma in our lives and I have a lot of videos on healing you can watch on YouTube or sometimes you can there's DVDs you can buy as well but

just check it out if it's a topic that's important to you I think it's important for people all people to know about these topics that I'm gonna cover here today but also especially for professionals counselors healers body workers to understand how all this really works in a nutshell because you know it's a shame because healing emotional issues and when I say healing it's physical emotional energetic so it really covers a lot of different areas but healing sometimes by some professional has made such a

intellectual topic you know just kind of analyzing the chemistry perhaps of the body with trauma and the neurology of trauma which is brilliant it adds something but really we need to understand these things holistically so I'm gonna just go for it here and and say that first we're spiritual beings temporarily inhabiting human bodies so the body is certainly to be considered but it's not really the the only piece here when it comes to healing so you folks watching any of us on earth for that matter you

could have trauma related to war past life childhood marriages partnerships you know whatever it might be how you were raised or how you've raised others could be traumatic for you addictions there's all kinds of things that that can have and can affect us in our lives so you know in a nutshell when we come into this world if a person just just came in fresh from spirit and they beamed him as an adult let's pretend you would have a pure energy you would be your your aura would be radiant and nice

and full your chakras energy centers in the body they would pulsate opening and closing not shutting down that's different that's trauma they would have their natural ebb and flow pulsation of light into the centers this the chakras our spiritual centers and then they go in and they feed to things primarily the nervous system and your glands the glands then would be looking for a homeostasis and always maintaining homeostasis or a balance and then the glands would then keep the organs and even the blood cleaned and healthy and

everything would be a wonderful eco system but instead we have an eco system a system made up of the ego low self-worth erroneous false beliefs about ourselves not being worthy not being life enough loved enough beautiful enough and so on creative enough prosperous enough in the end so on and so on so you beam in perfectly that would be great but it would just be a matter of time before the toxicity of the ego system would get to us it would be you beam in and and the first criticism might just flow right off but

then another one and another one and people yelling on the road or criticizing each other you get into a perhaps a relationship and unhealthy projections and transference going on work you know whatever it might be there's just it's gonna take a toll at some point and when trauma happens that's if you beam in perfectly but you're not beaming in perfectly typically even if you think children are sweet innocent beautiful and they are innocence but they're also coming in with stuff they're coming in

with karmic stop that's you and I coming into this life with karmic stuff Jesus had it Buddha had it you have it I have it we come in hopefully to clean the slate of our past whether it's our past last at the past hour the past relationship the past this lifetime or the past lifetimes depending on what you believe in the point is the past has to be cleared and cleaned cleansed healed and healing has to be done not one time consistently consistently and we have traumas typically happen persistently to

us on this planet dramatically dramatically persistently and we're looking for the opposite which is not a persistent traumatizing but and and drama but rather consistent healing miraculous healing and you know it's an amazing thing because people really underestimate the effects of trauma criticisms hurts put downs rejections abandonments so one of the smartest decisions anybody could make is to see a therapist see a counselor not because you're messed up you see a counselor a therapist because it's refreshing but if

you pursue a counselor get somebody that's I call it progressive you you need to ask them and say to them I don't I'm not looking for a girlfriend here to chat I'm not looking for a person I'm not looking for just chit chat I want a counselor who first of all has experience but also not just experiencing years but a breadth of information knowledge so if I have some trauma we can go there if I have some childhood or a child you know a family of origin issues if I have some addiction issues

whatever my stuff might be as far as I know it to be somebody that kind of knows the background of those areas but another concept of progressive is they give you homework they work you when you're in a relationship they say okay so you're in a partnership how long is the partnership been and what do they like what's going on pros cons biggest fears you know and so on biggest issues when you talk and you have a challenge with relationships what do you do in there what goes wrong what doesn't work in the conversations how's

the sexuality what works what doesn't work they really need to do that what works what doesn't work that kind of thing let's find out what the patterns are behind it do they know how to do any tracking or are they just gonna say it's all about your mother you know the gratuitous answer that people often use and it's not to say that all counselors do that but it's very common that counselors are trained to sort of analyze you in some way some counselors but also they're trained to

sort of keep a distance not only physically and energetically and emotionally but keep a distance even on the mind level to not ask too many questions they want you to do the talking well I'm the one who needs a therapist what kind of a guide am I you know so you might want to consider you know getting somebody that says look I'm not gonna let you get away with around here man I'm gonna work you I'm gonna make you look at your stuff and I don't mean where they bully you of course so I use words like you know a

little vulgar language here and there to emphasize a point that you know you're not there to chat you're there to work and you're there to find out what's going on what makes you tick what are my patterns and they're not afraid to say you know what's going on sexually and talk about sex or they're not afraid to you know talk about God either no God the piece that they can say well what are your beliefs they don't have to have the same beliefs but are they willing to talk about your need to have

a relationship with a spirit to guide you through a lot of whatever you're dealing with in your life so counselling is very important the other thing though back to trauma and post trauma you know trauma again people don't realize my definition for trauma which should be the definition for trauma throughout the world is anything that lacks Love's presence some of us are like well I don't have any major traumas anything that lacks Love's presence I've known people that were you know hospitalized

as infants and you think all no big deal their children they bounce back they remember it they remember it in hypnotherapy sessions or they cognitively remember it now they just know something was terrifying you know I remember I broke a bone when I was a kid and you know there there was the simple memories but one of them is I remember laying on a cold stainless steel table to get x-rayed and just that I remember the cold stainless steel you know it's not I don't remember the pain I don't remember how bad the you know painter

all I know is oh my god it was like they expected me to lay still on this a woman you know in her young years doing exams for the first time female exams you know you could say well it's part of life so it's not traumatizing it is it is to the person who's going through it and not knowing what it means you know the significance you know it's there's embarrassments and things like that one time but my dad and a friend of his went with me to a doctor because I was gonna play sports and you had to have certain

immunizations or something whatever that was about you know I go in and he and his friend follow me in I don't know why but they follow me in doctor says pull your pants down you know they have to do the the testicle test and then is shocked or something and you know it was like it's awkward like like you know there's an embarrassment you know that you have even as a kid you feel a little shy ashore something and I'm saying even simple things like that can seem traumatizing breaking a bone having an accident

teasing taunting rejection betrayal all these things and you can say hey you know what toughen up you some older person could say to you you know your parent or somebody could say I went through that not you know you just deal with it nobody ever just deals with it it stores in your emotional body your energetic body your physical body it stores and what does it do when it stores well it basically is sitting there trying to become a problem not what I say trying to become the healing miraculous energy around us is not

hopeful for that of course but the ego system is to turn everything into pain and suffering emotionally physically or whatever energetically in our lives so the ego system behind it is not looking for the best it's not looking for the the best solution the best outcomes it's you know it'll just tuck that away you know a little whiplash there in a car accident no big deal a little sore for a day or two you don't know that a vertebra is slightly out of place it's out of place long enough that the

muscles start to kind of accommodate they go okay we're we're gonna hang out over here now you know nothing's being set back into place and the muscles go Kate we're gonna stay where we are instead you know a certain the vertebra pops over here pops in that direction and then the muscles go okay so we're gonna be over there until someday and they start getting used to that and then you know it could be a year two years later you start getting headaches don't know why it's related but maybe your

head being slightly cocked to the side you know is also gonna turn your spine a certain way to accommodate or adjust to that next thing you know that's got your hips pulling a certain way next thing you know you have one foot that's longer than another and you don't know why any of this is happening and people just say oh you've always had one Lake longer your mom might say or you know people just kind of just go along with things and I'm not saying you know that you're bad for having any of

these have that happened these things I'm saying that the world lives in ignorance and doesn't live in a natural holistic and homeostasis kind of state of being people instead adapt would they call it adapting it's not at all really adapting it's a negative adaptation so it's kind of like a horror movie where a nuclear bomb is ignited somewhere you know in the world and and then some creatures emerge because of it some some mutation creatures you know that's what it's like to say well my neck just

slightly was out now my body adapted no you mutated anytime you're adapting quote-unquote to something traumatic that lacks loves presence you're really mutating in a negative sense not not evolving mutating and I know that's all probably gonna sound quite strange quite you know weird but your mutation I became a smoker because you know peer pressure that's still a lack of Love's presence so you go with that and you didn't smoke you didn't give in to peer pressure so your friends rejected you

that's still traumatic and I know some things will seem more traumatic than others it's not the point the point is would you do that to a child would you betray them slightly would you reject them slightly would you peer pressure them slightly into smoking you wouldn't and that really helps really Drive at home the fact that something's not quite right with this you know something's not quite right with how things are being done to us we can say it's okay but anybody where the conscience would know that you wouldn't

do that to a child so therefore it probably wasn't okay for it to happen to you now again I'm not trying to make it such an evil that you can't overcome it overcoming it is different then because I'm talking over overcome it as in healing that's different then you know having some sort of mutation happen because of it so trauma is gonna set in and it could be you hear some really terrible news and when you did you had just eaten and it upset your stomach believe it or not that terrible news was traumatic and

then your body is always saying where are we right now how we doing we just had trauma uh-huh okay what else stomachs full okay not digesting well okay it's programming it's memorizing all this just like the whiplash what was happening when you got the whiplash and then all of a sudden 20 years later you're getting a massage and they work on your neck and you start crying or something and is it the pain of the whiplash maybe not maybe maybe an hour before your mom said I'm getting a divorce from your dad car accident

whiplash those emotions got locked in to the musculature or maybe the bones too in in relation to the you know the accident the whiplash so all of a sudden the whiplash is holding my sadness and fear about my parents divorcing this is happening all the time guys what was going on at the time and then there's also tracking to see what patterns are are being held present within our being too but what was happening at the time and you know these things kind of Lodge so now in that example I was using my stomach was full now it's upset

I'm not digesting well my body's programming my brain everything's programming saying a sensitivity in the stomach maybe I even started to ulcerate a little bit in the stomach because of this anxiety about my parents you know or bad news coming or whatever so my stomach starts to get a little funky next time I eat it's almost impossible for my brain to not say uh-oh you know last time we ate something happened so be on edge it's just almost a natural thing because the ego likes us to live in the past and

to not trust in the present that's just one statement that I could stack a you know hundred of Proverbs and aphorisms related to just this topic but you know so now my stomach's off a little bit and it's not always just one trauma sometimes it's a building up of trauma so sometimes it's you know the stomach one traumatic time that you ate you upset stomach another time in another time now it's a pattern it's not an event it's a pattern so now your body's pattern that way that the problem is you

may never know it you may god oh my god you might you might be fifty before the five year old stuff shows up it's just such a bummer that's why true healing doesn't drag you to the past and some people say oh you know there's no sense in visiting the past you're not you're bringing the past to the present to clear it that's different than you being dragged called regressed repress you know regressed and digress to the past if you don't heal then you're always being dragged to the past you know

you're always not even realizing it someone horribly rejected you or betrayed you romantically when you're young let's say and then you know all these years later someone expressing like an interest in you and you start getting anxious you don't know why it could be holding from any time in your life experiences or lifetimes for that matter the fear of that did you know just did a session with someone who although some problems with relationship in this lifetime it was also very evident that and this happens

a lot it's not like this is an isolated development for this person it was important for me to be able to point out this is something you came in with not just this is happening which sometimes I would say this is in this case it's they're called scars of the soul you know that's one phrase we use for it but there are things you've come in with that you you're carrying from other times on a soul level you know not just a lifetime this lifetime but you come in and I said to this person yeah you came

in with some of this and you're a couple of experiences that weren't so hot in relations is related to your apprehension about relations because of your vows in other lifetimes the vows of whatever you know celibacy or whatever it might be so it's not like this is a bad person at all great person great they could be a great partner to somebody that'd be great but they're still carrying a little of that and it can it could just cause a question mark you know like in a cartoon a little question mark in your aura you know

above your head like you see characters and cartoons do so it's something like that so traumas are really intriguing to really understand the chemistry the biology the psychology because but it's all connected and that's one of the problems people don't put it all together you know it can't be shouldn't be any way separated into pieces separated into pieces means you're only getting a piece of the story I really want to understand what's going on instead so you know post-trauma means

really that you're dealing with a trauma that happened before and it's carrying to you now so if I say I have post trauma from war post trauma from childhood technically what it means is I'm being affected today by something that happened yesterday but yesterday isn't even here anymore for all intents and purposes in the psychology and the neurology of the body as well as energetically and so on in all of my being for all intents and purposes it is still happening because I'm still experiencing it it's still in

my system it's still every as far as I know it's everywhere around me still you know somebody that had a parent that was a and some a lot of times they have you know alcoholic and a parent who raged when they were in an alcoholic these poor children man they grow up never really sleeping only AB sleep because they never know when suddenly startled dad's home and it's gonna start going badly you know so they're living in this program of maybe half sleep when they're going to sleep their nether

it's called hyper-vigilant they're being hyper-vigilant meaning to protect themselves they have to stay a little bit awake but he's not here anymore come on for all intents and purposes for them it is they they never know when they can let go I've shared this story before but there's a experiment with you know the animals and they took these lab animals and they gave him a little shock every so often I know that doesn't sound very fun and nice and pleasant to hear but they would give their lab animals a

little shock like at predictable times let's say every hour then they took a separate set another set of animals same animal and said okay let's just chuck little shocked at intermittent time like anywhere it could be three seconds three hours five minutes whatever and then they checked the chemistry of the the blood and chemistry of the of the animals and they found that the ones that were predictably shocked like every hour would only tense up at the moment it was gonna happen they would remember and these are just animals they would

remember here it comes it's been an hour they could feel it they knew the hours coming they would tense shock happens no problem now I say no problem of course it's not great to be sure they have the little shock it wasn't majorly detrimental shock like electrocuted but it was a little shock so they would but they would only tense for that time we call that coping it still not loves presence but we call it COPI all right now there's no other signs of any challenge or trauma to the animal it's like no big

new they just tensed a little we could tell they tense at the time the chemistry tells us adrenaline or whatever they tense for a moment and it passes which is a lie because what they can't tell is everything and anything else could they read the emotional body did they understand the energetic body no the sole body of anything a person or an animal known they only look for what they want to look for it didn't find it and to them it meant you know our conclusion is people only tense at a certain time if they know it's gonna

happen and they're okay they're not okay but the part of the story that I need to get to is the part the animals that were shocked at intermittent times or unpredictable times here's the key they stayed tense all the time Meeny when you know to brace for something you can seemingly hand a little bit better when you never know you stay tense shocked traumatized all the time so you are living trauma and it is in the sense post trauma it still happen in this case it's happening now too but it's also based on what they knew

happen before so they stay tense so you and I we have a bad relationship fine that's an event we have two bad relationships we're having a pattern that's starting to form three we have a pattern so whether it's rejection abandonment financial loss job loss whatever it happens to be friendships that go people pass away it happens once and then it starts to become a pattern and so on but as soon as it becomes a pattern and almost everything does become a pattern as soon as it becomes a pattern we just

stay tense why should I let my guard down I know it's gonna happen again it's the only way I can protect myself that's the thinking of the the body when the body is controlled by the ego now our spiritual self would say you know I think what I'm gonna do is heal the pattern then it's not likely going to happen as much possibly not at all that sounds like a great you know preventive just like preventive medicine that people don't though the world doesn't invest enough in as much as palliative

or allopathic kind of medicine so this is kind of how trauma you know takes place how it takes a toll on us and you know we go through things like momentary challenges but sometimes dark night of the soul we're like almost everything's falling apart and that happens a few times sometimes several times per lifetime free and Jules and whether you're going through trauma and just because your event you might say is a traumatic but not a dark night of the soul not a major few years where everything goes wrong instead I

just had a really bad several months or weeks or days for that matter even hours don't underestimate it don't brush it off well it was nothing like a dark night of this so it was nothing like Trump majorly traumatic all of it is a lack of Love's presence and it all adds up if you on a 0 to 10 scale and 10 is a major trauma major major worst thing you can imagine happening and you say well I don't I don't have anything over a 5 that's been traumatic just lots of twos they still add up two plus two plus two

plus it's there is 10 you didn't have a 10 you had several twos still add it up your your chemistry is still gonna be toxic your blood is still gonna be acidic your muscles are still gonna tense up your joints bones are still gonna wear down because something is off something's not quite right your emotional body your energetic body your meridians your chakras your aura you know it's gonna be affected so you know it's it's ours instead to say okay let me heal the past using progressive means

healing like the work I've done over the years and some other healers counselors therapists to talk stuff through so healing can take the form of body centered work emotional work don't just go and get your aura balanced and think you're good to go that if they're effective if they're authentic people that work on energy systems that you know they'll work on even Reiki and so forth they're gonna do some amazing wonderful healing but they may not that doesn't guarantee that they're trained on emotional work or

counseling I would just recommend working with people that are as diverse as possible a hypnotherapist that also is willing to to hold you if you're having a breakdown a body worker that also knows how to help you access some of the emotions that are coming up when they're doing the bodywork I mean they could be great at their thing don't get me wrong somebody that only does this or this or this or this you know that's fine but I really recommend people going to people that have some diversity behind

them to be able to handle and one of the ways to know that is if they're they have a rich background that usually has kind of equipped them for you know just about anything so you know just you know consider that so work with people that help you heal the past but don't forget to also work with people that help you create a new future new life like later for example life coaches life coaching it can be worthless if you don't heal the past because you're just shining the outside of a tomb inside there's just

still trauma and hurt and lack of low self-worth and all that and you're just shining it up going I am gonna succeed whatever you know it's gonna all be undermined by trauma so I believe in holistic and I believe in heal the past and recreate a new life every January I do my co-creating a new life course and but I do not neglect healing stuff in fact I spend a little time in that course making sure that we understand what leaks are things that are still draining us in our life I don't just say let's launch into a new life I can't I

would be remiss to do so because I would be you know advising people on how to launch into a new life but not spending enough time explain you to them to make sure they've healed the past so work the past with the right people recreate a new life with people coaches are good for that counselors can sometimes help you you know prepare for a new life for example if you've had trauma related to dating or relationships a counselor could walk you through some of the patterns and low self-worth and whatever there but good

counselors especially if you had childhood trauma good counselors also know how to say okay so now what would you like to do what would you you know would you like to you're ready to date it seems to me like you're ready to dating how do you feel yeah I feel like I'm ready great how about we navigate that together how about you tell me how your date went last week and what's going on and are you leaping into intimate involvement are you overly cautious and scared let's walk it talk it through so even

counselors therapists can walk you through navigating a new life okay remember addictions play into some of these things you can say well I don't have an addiction because I don't smoke or drink you might think you don't drink or do drugs that's not an addiction you know you might think that's an addiction but you don't have one because you only smoke that's still an addiction you can say I don't smoke either but you are a food addict believe it or not addiction you know there are healthier addictions

than others there some are healthy addictions and some are not and when I say healthy addiction I know it sounds like a contradiction of terms but some people basically you know an addiction would mean I I am i compulsively reach out for something like food drugs whatever but even if you reach for your Bible to help you through the day because you're struggling you're compulsively grabbing for the book it's still a form of an addiction but it's a healthy addiction healthy meaning it's one that has less harmful effects

obviously to your chemistry or less dangers to your well-being but also healthy means something that actually feeds your soul so you would almost not call it an addiction but the reason I'm calling it that is that if I jump and I've seen a lot of people fundamental let's do this of various religions when they feel like something's challenged they they grab that book and they you know flip flip flip read read read and and it's like there's a desperation oh my god I got a reader okay Matthew 23

you know they go after like like an addict that's why I still call it an addiction because it's not an inspiration so you have unhealthy addictions then you have healthier addictions and then you have inspirations inspirations mean in the moment I felt guided to open the Bible or whatever it is whatever and you read a section and you go wow that really fed my soul just purely to feed my soul or to help me with an issue that was coming though that's pretty cool pretty healthy stuff you know on the other hand not doing anything means

that you're still remaining part of the problem you're not wanting to change your life your well-being whatever the case might be to be compromised healthier addictions that's okay it's it's I would look if that's you I would say okay it's better I I no longer reach for potato chips and donuts and soda when I'm stressed sad betrayed abandoned you know I don't reach for those but boy I've got to create one of my green smoothie things you know whatever they call those things smoothies or juices or

whatever you know when you when you anxiously have to grab for your health food it's still something still off there's still a chemistry there there's still a you know a compulsion adrenaline cortisol still happening in the system so inspiration is different inspiration means to be inspired to be in the spirit is what it means so I know I'm in the spirit when I say okay instead of oh my god I got an anxiety I have to drink something alcohol or smoothie I'm still having to that's hard way easier way but

the easy ways over here the third option which is to say I'm gonna take this moment and say here's what I'm feeling I'm going to look at what's really about what's what am I feeling here I'm starting to feel like instead of I'm gonna have something first I'm noticing I'm anxious would be an example instead of I need a drink I am anxious I'm gonna be with it for a second so I recognize I'm needing a drink and I accept it hidden behind it as anxiety hidden behind that anxiety anger fear

whatever comes up you you know you take a look at it and what I'm gonna do is give this to you God I'm gonna give you my need for the drink or whatever it is I'm gonna give you also all my emotions behind the need for whatever it is I'm gonna give it all to you I'm gonna give you my circumstance if there's an obvious tangible circumstance like I'm at work and I feel this way I'm gonna surrender work I'm dealing with my boss and they're a tyrant I'm gonna surrender

my boss everybody everything every emotion I'm just gonna give it all to you God because this is not your will it is not my fate to have to deal with this kind of stuff I feel it it's not feeling peaceful I'm gonna give it to you that's what you do to empty your cup in a prayerful fashion it's not an excluding bodywork or anything else you're gonna do this is just a quick example of a quick healing so I empty my cup then I say what I really want is to fill a peace and happiness for example love and

abundance peace and happiness whatever so I take a minute all this could happen in two minutes right so I just fill up with feeling peace and happiness over and over I let it kind of anchor in there I might even say do it at least a half dozen a couple dozen times at the most or you could do it until you feel a significant something shifted the shift could be either less negative trauma whatever you know anxiety or it could be the positives all of a sudden I feel wow I feel peaceful and so forth that you know you can try for that instead of

just doing a couple dozen times I would say do a half dozen or a couple dozen times just so that you've done something even without the shift do it if you have more time you might even feel the shift in the second time you call that in with you do it when I say a dozen two dozen times I mean the breath you call in that you know on the inhale peace and happiness when you inhale and so it is on the exhale and just imagine that washing over you and helping you feel more peaceful so done done there and then I give thanks when I'm done those

of you who know my book healing the heart and soul talks about all this five-step healing soul level healing process you know you basically recognize accept surrender refill and give thanks the first three steps recognize accept and surrender are about emptying your cup and then refilling and giving thanks are about filling the cup the first three are about emptying the cup second two about refilling the cup and so that's what I said earlier about inspiration when I do that in that moment of emptying and refilling I felt

a bit inspired what I feel inspired I'm likely going to be guided or given something energetically perhaps to where all of a sudden I don't feel the compulsion to have that energy drink or that alcoholic drink I don't feel I've that's called I mean the spirit see I surrendered what was causing me to need to drink replaced it with God now that I have God's presence to it even peace and happiness is related to God's presence now that I feel something new wow the urge for the drink the smoke or whatever

it was passed that's healing now if in the event I do this healing process and then I still feel the need for like I I still feel great I'm gonna have my protein drink anyway go ahead because you've done your inner work the outer won't matter as much but if I if my outer is I did my inner work but I still must have a smoker I still want to take a drink do it it's okay try not to but if you're gonna do it do it without shame and be guilty because the more I do my healing work each time

I feel my compulsion for my addiction the more I do my healing work the compulsion is gonna start fading because I'm healing on the inside it might take first time it might take hundredth time but it's gonna shift because you're actually authentically truly healing something which means it'll it'll it'll change its strength it it had over you seemingly it's how often you do it how compulsively you do it's over that starts to change whether the addiction is sex drugs rock and roll okay so

there's a bit of feedback hopefully that's thorough enough to help and give you some insights on a direction to go counselors therapists and whatnot but also a little bit of post-trauma I've done videos on the effects of negative thinking I've done it on regret shame trauma you know rejections abandoned let's you know there's all kinds of things out there so you know just check them out hundreds are available on YouTube different topics but it's certainly somewhere in the dozens I think on healing but I also

have DVD sets that have groups of topics that aren't available on free on YouTube for groups of topics and I have healing Volume one and healing volume two and DVD sets that have in each of them for diverse topics like regret shame guilt you know dealing with each of those so you can check those sets out they're pretty cool and they healing the heart and so uh healing your life the way hug healing heart and soul yeah I was right healing heart and soul the book it's it's got a lot in there for you know

what you might be looking for it too as far as techniques if your if your struggle is relationships my book creating fulfilling relationships really really thorough manic get it oh god you know what a lifesaver it can be I'm not trying to sell you on things I'm just it's such cool stuff the only if I were doing this you know and struggling in relationship even if it's a relationship with myself the book has three sections spiritual relationship personal relationship with myself and with others so you get that

man I would be making notes in the margins and highlighting things related to me because it could be like a manual called creating fulfilling relationships the subtitle is turning cell mates into soulmates you know like prison cell cellmates into soul mates meaning how to transform all your relations and it involves you know intimacy and and communication and you know everything that really is needed to be healthy within yourself and with others so I like to do that I like to be thorough when I write books people say

oh you should have split that book into two parts one book on relationships for example with yourself another one into relationships with others why because then you'd sell two different books instead of one you know and I still charge the same price all of it in one book instead of two books I understand marketing and all that stuff it's just not my thing I'd rather give what I can always in whatever I do so you know I I do phone sessions if people are interested or sometimes you know of course in person as well and you know it

I'd like to give what I can in workshops lectures and talks like this you know I don't try to speed through and be done with things or books that I think I can split off into three levels or three volumes of the same thing I try to give it all when I can on any topic the way I look at life is I'll give what I can so that when I'm gone there's something there it's it's complete I wasn't halfway through a relationships book so people can't know how to have fulfilling relationships no let me just

give it all to you on relations there it is work it and it'll work you know so um thank you for joining us and I pray that this has made good sense and helped you tremendously and please remember and it's not like you have to have a Michael kind of a shtick going on make this your own you know let these be your beliefs if they make sense to you and you believe them then let them be your beliefs but bring it to people you know share the program as they say in 12 steps bring it to other people give advice if you look at my relationships

book and you learn about that the pyramid of dating or relationship that's it's brilliant check it out sometime but it's beautiful man helps people so much and or in this talk today you know healing the heart and soul healing trauma you know if you heard something that made sense even if it's just my advising that you there's a great place for counselors or coaches that can be yours now to share with people and if you just change the life of one person recommending the right kind of body work

or energy worker or whatever god it's just so worth it remember that that one of the most underestimated techniques or tools for healing is to be of service to other people being of service makes you feel valuable truly authentically people not ego you know ego based value but valuable and when you feel valuable there's something that happens to your root chakra as well as the rest of you but your root says I have value to be here like I feel valuing alive wow I helped that person today and Wow and and it changed their life it gives

you um vitality it gives you love which is you know enough but it gives you vitality it gives you vitality which then feeds your nervous system and your energy systems you'll sleep more thoroughly and deeply but yet you'll wake up more on on tasks aren't ready to go and not have to pump down so much coffee or caffeine to get yourself going these internal things man like service they make a difference so apply what you can don't underestimate any piece of this let alone the whole enchilada that we

talked about here alright again thanks for joining us god bless peace be with you bye-bye