Clear Communication: It’s Invaluable

I've talked about this a little bit and I'm gonna be brief about this but I have seen even spiritual leaders spiritual teachers be you know authors even some of these that our friends act in the strangest ways like where we might have assumed that they would have been more communicative about some issues that came up between them and friends of mine or whatever it may be you know there's times where I you know you you might have expected people you know your partner's you know your children your

parents you you might wish that they would communicate more and it's just not always the case in fact it's rarely the case it's hard for people to want to talk it it blows the ego out of the water it puts everybody in a very scary position to have to talk because with the talking could come you know rejection and it's really hard for people to accept rejection but you would think that spiritual teachers and so forth don't have that sort of you know fear but it's there plus sometimes there's a you know if a spiritual

leaders or teachers or ministers or authors or whatever if they think they're better than everyone else then they're not really wanting to want to talk because they it sort of makes them feel like the main question so that's another you know ego perspective but something amazing happened for me recently someone at a spiritual teacher of sorts that I requested to come to the this area I won't say who it was or when when it was but someone that I asked to come to this area and it was amazing because I have invited people before and

welcome to people before and all that and all too often there's a tendency where they ended up being very you know very selfish where the teacher becomes the teacher slash narcissist you know and like like husbands and wives and people we've married and trusted the the worst side sometimes comes out it's really a bit shocking and I've said this many times to boy it really makes me us tempted to say oh my god never again you know I for one love simple I a simple level of use let's be clearing

communication and all that to the best of my ability there's there's times when it feels like communication isn't the best choice for you for me or whomever and we need to respect that sometimes communicating with people what we're going to try to communicate they may not understand or it may be too complicated in my life a lot of times I chose not to communicate not not that I didn't do it a lot of times what I'm saying is the percentage of times when I didn't a lot of the percentage was where I knew

it could hurt other people if I were to implicate certain people or name certain people so there's times when I or we could really justify backing off on communication it's just the yeah what it is is the greater good so don't think that you must get everybody to communicate also don't think you should always run from it but it's kind of a what's the greater good and bloody hell you know if if you're at all spiritually mature I mean my god let's get our act together just do our

best to communicate but this guy that I invited to do some things within the next year or so the the only word I can think of it was so cute that he did this it's not just cute it's profound it's amazing because previous people I had seen some of them were so you know just we're just sort of you know ego centered and wouldn't wouldn't comply wouldn't work with other people wouldn't stick to rules procedures policies or whatever that they were involved with and one of them this person said they contacted me

and said listen when I'm in your area would it be okay if I take off for a while and go and visit another group you know it's a group that didn't that's involved with his particular study I mean I just sat there at that oh my god a spiritual teacher with integrity you know I mean I know that sounds strange but in my experience as I've seen it all and heard at all and I thought oh my god a communicator you know I love this and I just said you know what he may not understand why I'm saying this but that is the most

beautiful thing that you even asked you know what they were like oh okay thank you you know but I loved that it was natural to them and the the studies that they're involved with you would almost expect such a thing but again many times when I've expected such things from friends from teachers authors whomever you know it's not what I saw we need to sort of stop getting shocked and so forth and I need to stop getting shocked over such things because I've said many times I I'm probably easily more

impressed with students on the path that they really get it they too could get triggered now and again at some point in my communications with them but there are people like I just had my five-day mastery class and oh my god there were a couple of people in particular all of them were great but a couple in particular that they were so sincere that I mean they were listening they were getting everything many of the people in the group for that matter just to see the amount of absorption and integration and responsible behaviors I

think there's only one person that sort of tripped a little bit you know and and sort of let their ego get the best of them and they started you know the rumor has it that they started sniping a little bit about whatever you know just getting kind of you know funky about not agreeing with some of the things I believe in or whatever which is all fine and dandy but you know it's not what we agree on in these classes you know people are supposed to be responsible and and communicate if they have struggles are supposed to communicate so

just know you know again I mean this this even you know happens for me with me from me and so on but you know it is a bummer at times you know to find that folks might not choose to you know to communicate but addressing this directly for you all like I said we're tempted to give up you can be tempted to give up on friendships and those of you who are writing and calling there's no one thing I could talk about category wise like family or just partners you guys seem to be communicating about of things a lot of variables of

different types of relationships and like you know like I said one important thing when they don't go well please do your best to not give up on everybody on all relationships I mean it's it's been such a weird month sometimes I just sit and think wow you know you know no matter what communication no matter what attempt is people misunderstand or take things differently and can kind of freak out and it's it's really a shame and I'm talking about business things too like you have to get an electrician to come

out work on the place he says yeah the job will take $100 let's say you hear him say the job will take $100 what he then could say later is what I said was it'll be a hundred for me to even come out to your house your bill is a thousand dollars well what do you do with that what if you do it what do you do with that if you're on retirement money and you don't have that all of a sudden you're terrified and then you got some sometimes you got these guys you know these brutes man kind of you know

bullying you into whatever I hear this I see this there's a couple times you know here and there that I sit with people and talk and listen to some of the stories and I'm a little surprised at the things they run into not surprised but surprised you know so be careful not to give up on everybody and be careful to remember whatever we're giving up on would be our self anyway you give up on me you're giving up on yourself you give up on Joe Blow you're giving up on yourself that doesn't mean wait around till they

change either it sounds like a contradiction it isn't it's just a little bit of a paradox it's an absolute truth if you give up on anyone hate anyone you know it's tempting to give up on your child when they go in you know three times five times eight times into rehab only to jump the fence and get out and come back to your house want more drugs and more money or whatever it's very difficult not to give up you can give up but don't think that you're only giving up on another person

that that person's a failure they still represent a part of us and that's one reason why I've had friends around me sometimes saying why do you keep putting up with that certain employer that certain friend or that certain partner or that certain whatever I've had that in my life you know consistently through my life one is I have to consider the source of who's complaining because they have their own jealousies and agenda so I have to take that into consideration at the same time on at face value why do

you keep trying less you know trusting this person or you know letting this have another chance and I often never sit around and explain it to them which might even make them think of being rude or or lacking communication which isn't the case it's just sort of hard to explain and I don't want to come across like I'm preaching and I definitely don't want to cross that come across like I'm wronging them for not being able to do a better job themselves so I err towards less information but in

case it helps you and anyone else that's know me for that matter why I don't give up on people is because I know that they represent a part of me and a part of the whole global humanity so I just feel like if I give up on them then you know who's gonna give them a second chance third chance I mean if I give up on them you know who's going to keep trusting them giving them you know showing them some faith now if you have that state of mind be careful of this sometimes we have to watch because if we think well

if I give up on them they will have no one else to trust them or to give them a shot be careful understand that God will find someone else for them to learn their lessons you have to realize that we can show a lack of faith if we overly trust that you know keep keep giving somebody a hundredth time somebody you know they people that bring up complaints that a thousand times about you teach a certain way or you wrote a certain book and they don't like it and they've told you this a hundred times you know I had a family

member tell me one time things that they absolutely didn't like about me and I listened to it it was hard to here these these bizarre complaints and projections and whatever but I just said okay let's just be clear you settle this right yes I did and you said it all clearly right yes is there any more you still have to say no I've said it all excellent and were you were clear though right yes I was so now we both agree we're clear and you will never have to tell me any of that again so don't tell

me that again because they had already told me all these opinions a thousand times so you have to draw the line for yourself where are the boundaries boundaries to be drawn there's nobody that says here's where they're drawn because boundaries are never a here of that of this it's never a box they flex they change mutable e you know and also they are not set by a rule or by a person is certainly not outside yourself it's something you have to ask yourself you have to check in and say okay I've

give this given this person a fourth chance maybe a fifth don't think the number of chances is where you draw the line okay seven chances that's a cosmic number it's very cool number after seven chances I know I draw the line or 12 there's a complete number e 12 12 you know tribes of Israel 12 signs of the zodiac and all that I you know you can't do that because you don't know if the lesson should have been learned by lest by by a chance to or by chance 22 all we can do in my opinion is our best

and if you've done your best my god you know let yourself off the hook if you do your best and something still changes then mourn the loss you know there will be divorces there will be endings of partnerships and and so you know so on and even kids you know you sometimes take a break because whatever you're trying to say if they're not hearing it it can do more damage than then good trying to explain it again and again you will be tempted to get frustrated and judge that's dangerous but also if it's falling on

deaf ears then you know what can you do there's all kinds of stories in the Bible about that sort of thing you know not casting pearls before swine it's it's what Jesus or Christ or God wants us to hear is this when it comes to casting pearls before swine it's like Jesus says in the course of miracles about a court of the crucifixion even if I say forgive them they know not what they do I'm not judging what they do so it's a difficult one to soak in but what I mean is even if I draw the line and

say look if we can't do this or that then you know let's try something else let's talk about it or let's give up on whatever we're gonna do let's just be clear about it and know that we've done our best I've said this so many times you guys have heard me say if you've done your best that's the best thing you've done your best then that's the best thing why go I've done my best and I should have done more what would more be if you've done your best doing your best

does not mean you should exhaust yourself things are gonna happen on planet earth and sometimes you know you run into the burning building and save some people but you couldn't save them all I would be pissed at myself if I were being honest with you I would I'd have a hard time just going well I've done my best I guess so a few people will just have to take the hit and die Michael would have a hard time with that I'm not saying I wouldn't get over it I wouldn't know what to do about those

thoughts but what I'm saying is we all have them and I would get a little like you know damn could I have done a little more because I look at life and say I am only here for so long let me do my best let me do all that I can in a situation and I'm sometimes just startled at the idea that other people around me don't often know that I'm doing my best and when they say oh you've given up I'm just shocked sometimes because they have no idea what extends what lengths I've gone through you know to repair

something or help something along but I've said it and you know if I have clients and they're able to hear me I'll talk like I like these kinds of talks I could do this for three days without thinking twice about where's dinner you know I could do this forever because I get in the zone and I do my best to live in the zone and I just do my best to give and let me just keep giving at the same time what would happen if I said let's keep filming what about the other people like the person you know that ends up holding the camera

or editing videos or you know down the road or you know it's doing all the internet work or what about somebody watching and what's to hear what I'm saying what about them when they say well my partner's waiting for me you know we're supposed to be going somewhere so even when we're doing good it can be an inconvenience on other people's lives so a lot of you say you know oh please keep sharing please keep talking at the same time my technicians are going don't talk for this amount of time and

definitely talk more than that so there's there's the the mundane details of life that I have to deal with and adhere to as best I can but it's to do that it means not like darn it I'm really angry that the internet won't allow us to do these little chats longer for whatever reason reasons beyond you know my interest or knowledge instead of being frustrated that they can't do better or more I just love doing it what we do and those of you who say you know please share some more on this and that

there's a lot of things that I've already shared and if you want something you can send in a message and I can continue and talk about that some other time but if it were up to me I could do this you know around the clock and sit in this same position you know my legs could go numb and I won't know it till I go to get up so I just keep going so I believe that we should and could do our best in life in every situation in every relationship even when you're making your own or someone else's dinner do the

best you can but the word best is the key know your limits know yourself the old saying know thyself the dow was saying to no others you're very amazing you're wise to know yourself though you're in there's a huge difference one means you know stuff and it means you see people you know people you can read people the other is the self exploration the the ability to know yourself and one of the things you'll find when you know yourself is you know know your limits but I have to add this seeming

contradiction again know your limits but where do you draw the line whatever you perceive to be a limit a limit or a boundary even there's always a calling inside that says can you just go attack further not more than you can handle but is there more you can do to learn more like to stretch your understanding of things that's that's gonna be a tough one for some folks to understand but in that all I'm saying is if I reach my patience level and only go there all the time then my patience never increases so

I would like to go to my patience level and then just just see what else is beyond just from my own learning our own learning so keep that in mind when I when I say boundaries don't take it too literally and think Michael talks all the time but don't don't don't that's not what I say I'm actually saying do and do and do your best but no when the best is now reached as best you can know that but also when you're even when your best is reached for your sake for other people too if they don't get it then

don't cast pearls before swine don't don't and you know don't take that too - literally like as a condescending thing because you're not wanting to think of other people as swine that metaphor simply means you know I'll change the wording now sometimes the things you're trying to say they're not wanting to hear or they can't hear their their whole vocabulary might not hear it their culture in them may not hear their past programming in them may not hear it their gender in them may not hear it

there are things that some people just won't get duh do you actually think that makes them bad I hope not and if you think that means lesser than us that would be silly it's just not happening now and no the good news is just like I was talking about that limit and can you believe a little further know that even someone you don't like if they've passed away or just are out of your life and you think you know good riddance you know because they don't get it they don't believe the way I believe and we

they were a terrible partner fine believe that and get your divorce do what you need to do but do not believe you're better than but also know that their day will come to wake up they may not believe the way you believe so what their day will come to reach God in their own way if you don't believe that that's what I meant by not going just a little further than your own personal belief systems so just as I thought oh god you know I've got to be so careful about recommending teachers because they're really you know so many of them

are just not there I know let me say there are some we can all disagree it's not like I disagree with them just because I don't agree with their brand of toothpaste I'm talking about big things moral things and and even that's mutable or subjective rather I wrote a book on sacred sexuality and some teachers out there are thinking I'm a complete you know and that doesn't mean I am just because our beliefs are different different I'm talking about you know being hurtful and not caring for the

sake of money for the sake of fame or whatever I don't dig that I think it's ridiculous and and I and so we part ways a lot of these people but I've known many teachers and I may not agree with the brand of toothpaste and I may not agree with whatever else in their life and that's my problem if I some of the things they do are on a personal level or are different than me what do I care that's that's totally their business I'm only talking about if things get really excessive then I kind

of you know I sometimes have to draw the line but I tend to do my best to try and try and try with these people you know and and see what I can do to don't look it back around to some healing teachers I admire Alan Cohen great guy I'm sure like I said I could say he should part his hair differently who cares the great guy really does live a vast majority I'm sure if not everything that he teaches great rates ol Dan Millman as well I think is a great soul I've met many men and women teachers that I thought just

had such such a beauty to them that I just sit in awe you know and I love I just love when people are really living the life you know and I love doing my best to live the life it's a drag when people sometimes give up on us or don't don't understand our angle or some of what we're saying or doing but if I've communicated then I know I've done the best I can and I hope you get that too but those teachers like dan Milne of God I've seen I've seen that guy go out of his way and really shine you know

stories I've shared I'll only be brief with this because time's running out but I remember a kid that was in a lot of trouble he was in the trouble with drugs the law and everything else and he was friends with somebody that I knew and you know and this person brought this kid around you notices to meet me and say hello so I was saying hello and you know they said I heard you know Dan Millman I said yeah I know that and they said wow that person you know what I was suicidal I read that guy's book his key

is his you know classic way of the Peaceful Warrior and and he said it and it kept me from killing myself and it changed me quite a bit you know I said wow that's amazing so we were sitting in a restaurant I think and and then the kid went and got a drink or something came back and sat down and my phone rang and I picked it up and I said hello and I said oh yeah hold on and I said it's for you to the kid and the kid looked like he was embarrassed like oh my god bill collectors found me through you like he doesn't even know me but his

guilt and his conscience made the presumption that this is bad news you know that I said for you and the poor kid he almost dropped dead and he gets the phone he goes hello and the voice said hi this is Dan and this kids face just you know it's like God you know and that's why I said teachers have to you know do their best just to be nice people so that so because we're representing something good you know and again we we can make mistakes but we just try to do our best and anyway the guy says is this damn

moment the kids face just went into shock and Dan took a minute to talk to me when the kid went to get a drink I dialed down I said Dan would you be willing and that's the kind of guy Dan it doesn't mean I hand out his phone number because let's pretend I handed out dance number to a thousand people and only one tenth of them called him he's eventually not going to be happy about that and is it because he's a bad guy no he would draw a line and say you know what even to me Michael I'm not

gonna give you my number anymore because what you did was you know hurtful to me and he would be right so we have to be careful because even spiritual teachers even you and I we have to we have to you know draw a line somewhere but but can we keep going can we try and can we communicate if stuffs going on in your life like all these other folks that are connecting with me and sending me messages god I'm so sorry about it because sometimes I sit man on my own and just think I wish I could do more to help people a lot of people are

struggling this is one of the only things I can do is to reassure you and let you know this too shall pass and in closing I'm going to say this let's be there for each other through these times abandon each other and I think I think we back it'sscary not karma because then that implies what you did was bad but what it what what you carry is your own guilt or your own lessons continued you know through you so be careful be there for each other I mean let me like send questions so I can help don't end up

alone if you've lost a loved one or if someone's passed away in some other form or instead of passing away maybe just exited your partnership or whatever it was your kids for some reason throw a tantrum they don't to talk to you I'm very sorry I know that's hard that's why I've done books and courses on forgiveness and so forth we just finished our love and forgiveness course we were thinking of doing one more class next Wednesday as a just a sort of an overview but we're not

going to be having that one because my staff is all maxed out there needing to get a bunch of other things going so we won't have that but you know please please do what you can to be there for each other I have the Friends of Michael near dad Facebook page where people reach out to each other quite nicely and quite mutually and equally it's not a Michael preaching or teaching kind of a site it's where we're all sort of you know touching base it's not all bad news like people just sharing troubles people

are also sharing them amazing insights and questions and so forth so it's really great that's one site anyway but whomever you have out there you know whomever are your friends your spiritual family men try not to lose them because if you know if I let's say I myself or to say I don't like certain things about the publishing world and if I stop publishing books I have to weigh in there that some people learn and grow from the books even if there's something challenging so the publisher could say

we're raising the rates of publishing and I could say that's it I'm never printing another book I could also say what can I do to help do you need to raise your rate yeah but you also you already know that we raised our rate last year and most authors don't want to pay any more I might say no I'll pay more if that's what you guys need for helping you I'll pay more and then maybe I'll have to raise the rate of the book or maybe I'll keep it the same and just make less on it that's okay too

what can we do to help each other love is an action love is something that remember that love is a consciousness it's not a romantic term it's a consciousness man so everybody needs to get kind of grow up and wake up love is a consciousness and all consciousness has some power right think about that therefore love is the consciousness that has the greatest power of all even on earth because God and love are the same but if God is too much of a term for some people try to understand that love is powerful the power of love and don't say

you know or believe anything about love if you don't know how to practice forgiveness don't say that you know how to practice forgiveness if you will not communicate it's just it's all contradictory there's this flow God love right all the way through forgiveness you know just love forgives it's what it does love forgives so if love forgives then what form will it take my forgiving you is leave and never talk to me again that way I'm forgiving you that's not forgiveness love could be instead I'm

forgiving you and I'm here if you need me I'm here I'm willing to talk I'm here if you need whatever it is you know person might need as best I can within my limits I'm here you know that's kind of a cool statement so if you part ways with a you know a boss or or your business associates or your partner's your children your parents whomever it is what I've always done is to say if there's something I can do that's healthy oriented I'm here which means I never completely say no to anybody when

it comes to love and forgiveness I would never not deny anybody forgiveness which also means that I will not deny them communication if there's any way to make that happen without it becoming you know contrary to the greater good because like I said there's times rarely but there's times when I just say it's best not to even bother because it's it'll take too much time or you know or effort or you won't understand it it'll make it worse will hurt somebody or whatever you know there's times but just try God is

love love is the consciousness of God and you know love forgets you know fruit forgives and and forgiveness demonstrates itself through patience tolerance healthy tolerance communication and so forth so do your best to stay in the zone with all these things I'm not saying you have to go and call back the person you you know you had a falling-out with last month or let you know whenever your challenges were arising it may be that it's gone too far but if you can redeem things redeem them if you can't then redeem them in your

heart absolute love god I've had close friends that for bizarre reasons I've never even known sometimes it disappeared you know they went on their merry way they got into other relations even other religions sometimes I've known people that were close to me we're all of a sudden they hooked into another religion that was more fundamental and therefore they could not allow themselves to communicate with me anymore and they just disappeared no word just disappeared and wow I mean i sat there like well I don't take it

personally in the sense that I I love and admire that they have that other tradition but if they wanted to talk or if they needed to talk or ever wanted to bounce back I mean the relation you know bounce back in the relationship I could easily do that I really I really sometimes have felt a little hurt shocked or surprised or you know like people feel when things happen like that but I'm pretty happy to say that still always willing to be there as long as their sanity you know as long as their sanity I can't do it if it causes harm

but as long as there is a sanity and and people will sometimes pretend that they're stable I don't mean psychologically I mean that they're stable meaning their agendas their intentions and all that are good and then and then they're not that really gets confusing when you're already juggling difficult situations but do your best guys and if in doubt reach out to people go you know look at the 12-step groups codependent groups look on something online look up codependents see if there's something that can kind

of turn a light bulb on that'll kind of just flash you into a new level of like insight I got it you know and then try something else you know and so on but aligned with love align with peace it's a drag when when when things other things can't align with that but air to the side of peace you know I'm looking at the wall over there which we've seen when I film without behind my back got all these pictures of just beauty and peace and you might even see them in the mirror I don't know but there's just a

lot of things up there and it's like that's the life we're supposed to be living but not just in a fantasy world of greenery purple and blue but by the inside and to do that I think that true friendships can help make that happen nothing will help that happen more than a loving forgiving heart love I love you all and I forgive you all and I pray that you can do the same for me but at the same time loving and forgiving hearts but at the same time good friendships I believe that friendships can be sold relations soul family even

closer tighter and healthier than partnerships have been at times or even family has been at times please know that much I'm not saying the others can't be healthy I'm saying that simply that even friendships when they're real oh my god man give thanks for him like I mentioned the likes of Dan Millman and people like that I mean talk to Dan in years just busyness and all that but but I know that I could you know I know that I could call him and he would talk to me today or honor a favor like I did with

that kid and he would still do there's really beautiful people even that they don't move in with you they're just beautiful Souls and you can count on them so I'm very appreciative to appreciative to you if you're watching the person who who said recently is it okay if I visit this other group I'm involved with when I'm in your area I just and that is so beautiful so give thanks to all the beautiful things that we do for each other with each other and the things that don't seem so beautiful

just love and forgive okay if I can help in any more you know other way you can post a question or if you're my friends of Michael Muir dad Facebook page a group rather you can go there and post questions you know just to keep them as concise and clear as you can because I can't always understand and interpret them when they're written in facebook form but just do the best you can to be clear on what you're asking I'm saying that not because of you but so that I get it and can answer properly okay I pray you

guys really know my heart you know people don't always know that my heart or your heart and so on I know that but things in life go on and it reminds us man how important it is and how rare it is that people really do get our heart and can you know just practice love and forgiveness any of you that I know out there who have ever been challenged ever with me on any level I don't care your high school friends and we're able to get back with me and find love again oh my god blessings a thousand fold a

hundred thousand fold because those are the most rare people on the planet those that not only have a honeymoon phase of friendships and whatever they are to the crash and then to the honeymoon you know can return but to a thousand fold meaning honeymoon honeymoons over and then lists so bless you all forever been able to to find me again and connect at a deeper level because I'm always willing to do that okay and I pray you can get that and practice that in your friendships you do have to figure out how to communicate that to

people to let them know cuz users will jump right back in with you when they hear o you're celebrating the openness of love and Here I am everybody they're all gonna jump all in there and try to use you again that's not what I'm saying and you must be careful but to be able to communicate with people and just consistently let people know that you're shifting some things that your open family members whomever you're open to talking if they need but you really are set on one thing insistent so to speak

on one thing which is healthiness you know respect and if we can have that then you know let them out there shot if it spins out of control take a breath and walk away if you have to okay I hope this all made sense guys many blessings and sorry about the struggles that are going on the last month but endure do your best I mean drives me nuts too man but endure and remember support each other through this because man if we don't have support you're gonna have a hundred times the job to deal with the challenge of relationships

and if you can't work with this month's challenges that have been going on what are you gonna do when things intensify even more in the world goes crazy all at once when they see the bigger ships that are coming okay I pray this has made sense many blessings and thanks for listening bye bye