5 Ways to Improve Our Self-Worth

hi there this is Michael Moore dad and it's time for our spiritual insights with Michael Muir dad presentation thanks for joining us some of you have been joining us for it's been a couple of years I think since the Facebook live program was available we started doing these and of course it's also available on YouTube so wherever you happen to catch us that would be great thanks for joining so today we're going to talk about five simple ways to increase or improve upon your self-worth our self-worth five ways to increase and

improve on self-worth now we want to clarify self-worth self-esteem you know generically they might be the same thing to us they might mean the same thing but just if we're dealing with a little bit of you know being more specific self-worth is my true value where self esteem is more like a I am held in esteem it's like a position it's a little more ego based but that doesn't mean that if somebody means one when they say the other that that's a problem because that it's all really in our

interpretation our personal interpretation but generally speaking and I've done a video just on the difference between self-worth and self-esteem so you're welcome to watch that and it's and these are in our playlists on YouTube we have playlists like psychology spirituality you know and so on so you'd find that probably in the psychology one playlist I'm not sure you check so five primary ways and there's simple ways and they're effective ways they only allow our titles to be so long but these are

really five simple and effective ways to develop or work on or increase our worth and so on our awareness of our true self now the first step you know when we think about increasing our sense of self-worth I would say I would advise that you consider rating yourself just just see where you're at see where you're at with that where do you rate on a zero to ten where do you rate in terms of self-worth just take a kind of a guess you know you could say Oh probably a some of us would say a three some could say a six just see now don't

confuse it with self-esteem like I'm wonderful and I have a graduate degree and I have a I'm a CEO and that that's more a self-esteem inside the actual worth so that you know I have enough sense of self-worth that I have a good spiritual connectedness ask yourself it should be related to your spiritual value and then if that lands pretty well you know are you do you maintain self healing like do you see counselors do you do work on yourself so that the past is healed and so on do you take time to

work on this and you know kind of just consider these few things when you're rating if you don't mind and you know do you do you have relatively healthy boundaries you know taking good care of yourself not walls not defenses but healthy boundaries you know what works for you doesn't work for you and do you practice forgiveness and gratitude and spiritual concepts like that so you might wonder what does that have to do with self-worth but just use concepts like this just briefly do I have a oh do

I have an overall sense of physical emotional intellectual and spiritual value and rate yourself and see where you you know see where that goes and then let's talk about this just for a little bit so write down what you think you've rated yourself to be and then I'm going to go over five simple ways to improve upon our self-worth and as I do each of the five rate each one of these five as well specifically so you might say well the first one's a three you know and so on and then when we're

done you can average them all together there'll be five so if you give each one you know ten points the value highest value would be fifty and see where you rate in that you know did you know all the way you know and just see kind of how it all comes out just so you're being quite honest with yourself that's what's important is the honest answers but whether you use zero to ten or whether you use whatever rating you want to use just just be honest with yourself so let's look at each of these so the

first simple effective way to develop greater self-worth is kind of a funny thing because it has nothing to do with how much money do I have in my bank account do you have a close relationship with God spirit now there's prayer and meditation but you know what's happened with prayer and meditation case it's not obvious is if we've been doing this for thousands of years and people have turned prayer and meditation into something almost ritual and also they do it by rote it's kind of I'm meditating

because of just being quiet which is wonderful to do but I'm talking about a close relationship with God do you have a dialogue do you listen as well as speak not just pray for what you want that's not a close relationship with God that's a decent relationship with God but I'm asking if you're close do you approach speak to connect with God throughout the day do you start and end your day with God it doesn't have to be four hours of chanting just your initial thoughts and ending thoughts of the day

be with me God you know what would you have me do and feeling a closeness a trust a building and developing a sense of trust and connection with God that's a closeness rate that if you don't mind then the second simple whay method tool you know think about do you practice a program of self-healing now self-healing means yes again do you see a counselor but I'm talking about physical emotional mental healing do you work with a healer do you work with counselor do you look at yourself do you have 12-step study you know do

you have a diary do you have a journal that you use to kind of get to know yourself and it's interesting because self-healing also includes maintaining a healthy diet because diet and exercise because these can actually give you an invigorating feeling which would be the opposite of low self esteem the physical low that body drops instead wow you know gee you know energy breathwork even just a little each day and starting the day with positive attitudes because the mind is important to this and appropriate diet for you

you know if you eat too much food oh you know that proverbial thing that people do Thanksgiving oh yeah we took a nap after lunch because we were so full I never really understood why people eat that much quantity wise it's just it's kind of strange to me foreign as all I could say not saying I'm better than anybody else I'm just saying I don't quite get it over indulge and then you have to crash and sleep doesn't that kind of tell you something it's not like you're just talking about a fiesta and siesta you

know because that could still be just a nice quantity of food that makes you feel good makes you taste good feels right and even if you decide to take a siesta it's like just moments of you know siestas we're not meant to just totally crash out like crash like you're drunk out of your mind on food and you had to just collapse we're looking for things that lift us help us because self-worth can be facilitated sort of carried on a platter of vitality and physical and emotional and intellectual yes is the same as

self-worth you know if your body is dying dragging you down is your if your body energetically is just feeling dead and dragging you down how can you say it's as easy to fill value worth okay and there are things that beyond these five that I'm naming because I could easily add some and some are going to just simply over overflow or or cross over with some of these five but it for example to increase your self-worth be of service honestly we have service and that still lower flows or you know crosses over with some of the five of

them in the name but being don't forget being of service now the the third thing we're going to talk about besides the physical vitality one quick story I remember one time I was speaking at a health conference or affair and Expo or something and these children very young teens I probably fourteen ish they were all brought this like a group they were in a special home kind of a thing because they were challenged students and behavioral issues and they all a lot of them or all of them have drug issues

so the coordinator of this Expo said you know mr. Barr dad we would you mind for some reason I'm feeling called to introduce you to the kids or else they they wanted to meet you or something they were probably ten of them and I said I'd be happy to so they she brought them up but I say hey guys how's it going and you you bridge and you connect with them connect with people and and these folks had at a level they can understand so I'm like hey how are you man how's it going you know just kind of get in in the trenches

with them and I said well let me show you around you know and you know they don't know that I'm gonna go do a talk soon or whatever they you know they don't need to know that right now I'm just a person that's supposed to be befriending them spiritually that's what I feel guided to do so you know hey guys let me show you around my in this cool in there Wow Wow look at that paintings of this and music here and putting on headphones or listening to you know Stephen help her and play his music cuz he was at the

conference and so on it's really cool but then we went by this one booth where they were selling things like wheatgrass juice wheatgrass juice and super blue-green algae juice and the booth was giving little free shots and if you don't know wheatgrass is great for vitality and super blue-green algae is really incredible stuff they make an alpha and omega at least in these days this was probably 1988 so in these days they have those two I don't know if they still do but alpha would be like your morning

shot to wake you up an Omega or of a call me but anyhow they took the wheatgrass or the super blue-green whatever they wanted to take they took a shot and then we're walking and we didn't even get like 20 yards or whatever from that booth and they're all like looking at each other go what's going on and they're like I feel stoned I feel high and they dug it because they're all drug addicts and they're like this is great so they felt what cocaine and other things made them feel except it was real it was organic it was

not damaging it was invigorating my point being that also gives you a sense of energy to get things done which increases your sense of value and it gives you higher vitality level which is more congruent with your sense of value so you know the right diet the right cheek own exercises breath you know just breathing kind of just you know doing conscious breathing while you're stretching a little bit doing things like that really can make a difference for folks the third item has to do with boundaries now I've done full lectures

on boundaries and you guys probably know that but developing healthier boundaries does affect your of worth because unhealthy boundaries means people Puddle me pummel me with with derogatory behaviors or comments and so on healthy boundaries it's I I Know Who I am I may not know perfectly nor I may do I know all the time 24/7 but I know most of the time meaning any of us could say this I get a pretty good sense of who I am therefore I'm good to go other energies don't pull me down as easily as they may

have once upon a time so that's why boundaries can ensure and assure you that you're going to maintain greater sense of self-worth but here's a really cool trick because they did say five simple ways to improve self-worth so the connection with God doesn't have to be you know hours of increased you know intense prayer meditation just start talking to God like it's close to you close your eyes and if it's only angels you want to work with through that or Jesus or the Divine Mother Holy Spirit

God itself whatever just have some sort of very friendly kind of contact communication connection and in the second you know yeah simple programs of health and vitality but the third boundaries it's as simple as this and many of you who have heard me say this but practice treating yourself as though you were a young like a child that you loved your own child your inner child someone's child that you had to adopt because of tragedies how would you treat that child and that's one of the simplest ways to live your life

perfectly beautifully I probably wouldn't put that in my system that don't would you tell that ten-year-old to do this or that if the ten-year-old became 16 and they were on their first date would they be dating someone like you're dating then don't don't do what you wouldn't advise others to do or you are a living hypocrite you are an embodied hypocrisy now I'm not saying be hard on yourself over that but that's part of the point that you don't want to be too hard on yourself with so think of it as a child

and gently lead yourself in the proper direction now the fourth item practicing forgiveness now what what does forgiveness have to do with self-worth everything has everything to do it with self-worth because as you think of others you think of yourself as you judge others you judge yourself as you forgive others you forgive yourself if I'm not gonna forgive myself it's because I'm being too hard on myself right if I don't forgive you I'm being hard on you ah that's the opposite of what we're really looking for I want to

practice forgiveness meaning let myself off the hook go easy so practice forgiveness as I forgive others I'm forgiving as I let others off the hook I'm being easier on myself and letting myself up to that because if I'm not being easy I'm being hard on myself if I'm being hard on myself how could that generate self-worth some of us are born into families that are hard on us and it can affect our sense of self-worth yeah self-esteem even so we've learned to say you know wow if I treat myself like I

mentioned in the previous item if I treat myself like I like I wouldn't love beloved child doesn't that sound like the child would feel valued yes because it is if I am demeaning to that child I'm gonna feel a low self-worth because that's what I put out there to that child and the child ultimately is me and when it comes to forgiveness as I forgive others I forgive myself so it's like giving permission to go easy on myself the fifth item gratitude very simple practice an attitude of gratitude

now this is not just okay well thank you nor is it thank you for you know hardships yeah give thanks for everything but do it intelligently don't say well today really sucked so I'm gonna give thanks for that wonderfully terrible day that's not really true accurate nor heartfelt what I'd recommend is being able to say I'm giving thanks not for the hardship but from what I learned from it I'm giving thanks that from that one challenging experience I caught on that I probably need to do some work on that type of

person that irritates me or that challenging kind of an experience and so on so it's things like that give thanks for but that's only the one level of practicing an attitude of gratitude gratitude also in this context for today gratitude also means you're going to start assembling your value your worth for example how did my dad go oh it was okay somebody says how was your day off it was all right wait a minute cuz he a person with low self-worth can't really find value in much at all oh you know my dad was okay there it's

like well so so and there was this issue and that issue and that made me tired and that made me sad and that made me have less money and everything's negative so positive thinking would be another we could add if the list were seven simple things I would add being of service and I would add you know this other item so you know positive thinking negative thinking drains you but I'm I'm saying that it also overlaps with gratitude the positive thinking a bit so think in terms of gratitude being like

where you learn to integrate the value of every experience now I learned to integrate either negative experiences I integrate the value of what I learned from them positive experiences get the you know to get to integrate the value of the wonderful experience like wow you know I got a raise at work wow I get to give thanks for that and integrate that and it helps me recognize my value but bigger and broader since then consider those kinds of things where you say well I've got a raise at work last month and then this month

someone sent me a gift of some kind and then oh wow something else and then something else what I mean by gratitude in the greater sense is you give thanks and you start assembling these chunks like puzzle pieces to make you a more complete picture of value so you start to realize instead of because see people with low esteem and low value they're going to be watching for the other shoe to drop what's gonna what's good what am I going to lose next what's gonna be taken from me next and instead a person

of value is going to be able to say and in self-worth it's gonna be able to say okay where can we take this I think what I'll do is this and I'll take that you know almost like I call it assembling relationships assemble the positives of all that you ever had in relationships assemble them and let them become not a Frankenstein partner that you've assembled but a Frankenstein so does meet you a puzzle that is you I'm assembling a new self I know that I want someone who's into spirituality I want

someone who's I'm ready for this I'm ready for this great those are pieces that I now have tasted and I like them and they're part of me therefore that's what I'm going to attract as for negative experiences I've had not a problem I learned from those a B C and D therefore that's what I'm ready to now apply in my next relationship so it's like a person who refuses to lose I win left right up down forward backward I learned and I improve because negatives become positives pod as positives become

positives and I just become far far a better person so gratitude assembling a sense of self-worth and like I said there's others you could add being of service being of service isn't just I think I'll donate time at the local shelter being of service also means you recognize that when I give donations if I have extra funds and I give donations it's wonderful because I can afford it now Moore came to me now this is amazing I'm assembling a higher consciousness of prosperity see so affluence and prosperity and abundance

those are attributes of positive thinking but there are also attributes because if I have those in my consciousness I also learned being of service can bring these if I think giving takes away from me you're not in a prosperous abundant consciousness nor are you going to have self-worth as an effect so self-worth isn't something you get from an external like badge self-worth is something in my opinion self-worth is something that it almost just rises up and you go one day wow this is kind of cool it's so natural or

organic if you do the things I'm describing these five 2/7 because I added a couple it just starts to show up now if if by chance you're out there and you're watching you go well but I do those five most of the time but I don't feel sometimes great self for it well first of all we all have her down day learn from that and keep going you know rise from that too but you might also apply the five things but you might be missing part of one of them which is like I said the word integrate you might

do but you not might not allow yourself to be to become so yeah be of service for example but do you really understand how beautiful it was give somebody a donation or give somebody a financial gift or practice tithing but do you do it with fear do you really get it and so on health you know if you say well Michael said health is a part of it and vitality and you go out there and you force yourself to work out hard and pump weights and so on and you don't really love it you don't really get it then it's not going to have the same effect

it has to be do what you love and love what you do and keep that in mind forever self-worth I you know I'm a spiritual teacher you guys know that I've been out there so on and so on for touring and teaching not once not once have I ever encouraged or allowed an audience to applaud after a talk some speakers that's not acceptable at all because their value is not value its esteem their esteem is measured by the lauding and the wonderful Oh applaud applaud applaud now mind you sometimes people have applauded I

haven't asked or encouraged it or insisted upon it I usually those of you who know me I do a talk go right into a meditation so they can't applaud because I take them right into eyes closed meditate and that's cool when they're done with meditation they move on to the other parts of the service now my point isn't just that I did something that seems wonderful to some people but never and not do you know I also don't talk about it a lot I don't announce it every day I never asked for applause because

then that's almost asking for applause 40 years of mentoring and teaching and not once asked for it nor insisted applause but my point was my value my sense of worth I already know I'm good and that's not an arrogant statement if I was terrible at teaching I would know it first of all it wouldn't have any success it wouldn't it wouldn't have any effect I wouldn't feel good about it because I have a conscience some people can be terrible at it as long as they make money they don't care if they're good

because they just get the money my conscience wouldn't work like that so I actually know that I must be good because I feel value I feel Worth I feel good from it I can see it I can feel it in people while I'm teaching and talking and yes they give me feedback but I don't I don't need the feedback I don't mind signing autographs signing books that not a problem at all but if they didn't ask for it I wouldn't go you know they're not asking for autographs that was me I'm not I'm not

celebrity enough when you know then you know you don't need the outside to confirm or prove it so you know for me it's a fairly simple or easy thing I just feel it I know and and I'm grateful because without spirit guiding yeah wouldn't be good at this or anything else so that is my source another idea about your worth is to recognize which is back to step 1 God is the source and it just like there's this funnel the whole universe funnels into the smaller opening of the funnel pouring into my

crown down into my heart and then washing over my entire being how could I not feel the value or worth you know it's like you want to do backflips because you just feel so good and when I do talks it you know there's just a vibe you can you know I can feel it a musician knows when they're out of the zone they go something just clicked wow we were doing a jam session and everything just clicked and one time there one time there was a jam with like all the greatest musicians in the world they were all somehow they congregated

it before you knew it you had you know one guy from the WHO and one guy from the Beatles and Delton John and all these different artists in the same room there was led zeppelin guy and all these guys like wow you know when you have the best you're gonna get the best and several of them said that was the huge salute worst jab session they could have been in a garage band with high schoolers and felt a tighter connection why because all of those guys thought as individuals in the moment nothing guarantees you to find the zone

other than humility and the right intention was soon as you go in with your head it's gone it's lost so it doesn't it's not an esteem it's not by my own efforts self-worth and such by my own efforts and so forth it's I step aside I set self aside that's saying at your case he used when he did his readings I set self aside and that's the idea that's how and why he could do such tremendous readings better than any other person in history I'm not talking about better than like Jesus himself

we're talking about a person - as a psychic clairvoyant not a person that's completely Christ it a person that is psychic clairvoyant of all clairvoyance in history there's nobody with a greater accuracy nobody with a and and here it is it's all founded in humility not aren't I wonderful you know he didn't he didn't try to get on Oprah or whatever which which you know more often than not you you just you get people that aren't in that zone there they talk what the talk they talk well they write books and

sell well but they're not always actually deeply authentic they just think to get on you get an agent you could be Jesus reincarnated if you don't have an agent you're not getting on that show you need to be part of the game you need to have your agent and you know you need to play the game and understandably so they want agents because they want people who could talk their language and assure them what they're gonna get as it as a person on their show I get that but all of that doesn't assure your

self-worth not at all best-selling author doesn't assure yourself worth maybe self-esteem because esteem is something you get externally so develop self-worth and you can tell me you have worth but if you're dating Psychopaths you must not have much worth no offense you can tell me you're worth but if you're a major addict you must not have very much worth I'm glad that you feel you do and I'm glad that maybe you're working on it congratulations but you're not going to convince me you have high

sense of world if you're selling yourself out worth selling yourself doesn't work if you're bargaining away and selling yourself out the bank is empty you no worth metaphorically so think about that you know when the dust settles where are you a thing is now looking back we are rating ourselves if you consider these 5/7 ingredients to true self-worth how did you end up rating if you look at each one how would you rate each one of those five or seven how would you rate each one Michael said connection to God

Michael said health you know Calla sense of healthiness and and self-healing no boundaries okay are you are you following all these are you making I'm talking about even the additional not just the title of each of the 5/7 but even some of the extra filling that I put in there yeah do you practice forgiveness really knowing that as I release others I release myself and do I practice an attitude of gratitude if you want add service and so on so and positive thinking so think in terms of how do you ranked and if you could say

five of them are seven categories whatever you want and you average those together all you have to do is figure out an average so if I said I had five categories and I rated three and 1/6 and another two and another nine and another you know just kind of do the math if you did five categories fifty maximum points possible add up your number of all of them and it'll give you a mean average as it's called so you might realize you know if I average two and four it's three find the middle number if it's

four and eight find the middle number six so see where your rating and you rot you realize how accurate were you that's going to be interesting for you to find out where did you right now were you close when you guessed I hope so that might confirm that you have a bit of self-awareness which is good you might be way off that's cool too why because we can learn from that go cheese I really was off you might find I actually have better sense of worth that I I did what am I gonna do with that I'm gonna make that grateful I'm grateful

for that integrate it and it takes me up a notch I feel better now about myself what if it goes the other way negatives turned into positive guys positive positive negative positive take everything the right direction so you could say I learned I learned that I thought I was an 8 and I'm a 2 I thought my you know this was a 8 it was a 2 this was a 6 and it was really just a for whatever it is bummer you might have to breathe you might shed a tear but come out of it saying but now that I know what can I learn from it and

that's what I meant earlier integrate and turn it into something it's an interesting thing but worth it doesn't come from external and it doesn't come from just achievements a sense of worth to me is built upon everyday it's a mixture of all these categories I named and I personally can say you know yeah I care about other people I try to be up service and that does improve my sense of Worth and you know yeah I do see gratitude and I do kind of you know when I see myself do something and I if it's

done well I feel a sense of accomplishment and that can help that can go the ego direction of accomplishment or of course the spiritual and just keep feeding your soul feed your sense of value you know there's these minimum of five essential things you can add a couple you could make it 12 steps make it too many you won't be able to keep track of them and then you'll kind of forget about this whole thing so keep it to a manageable number of simple things you can commit to these are the five or the seven

simple things that I'm going to do to improve my sense of self-worth and then take off from there and teach it to other people I don't copyright these conversations guys I make them up as I go they just come to me you can then write a book about it seven you know simple ways to improve self-worth but but find a way when you talk to your kids you know you can teach them it could talk your girlfriends you get together with your guy friends girlfriends you know and you start chatting you know hey I heard this

thing five things let's do something real quick guys let's have fun how would you rate your self-worth and you get a rating from everybody and then you say now let's let's kind of look at these categories this one guy I heard once said there are five or seven categories what do you guys think and at the end of it if they're real mega mainstream they won't get it at all because they'll be like I thought college degree is how we get self-worth so you know you might be over their head

but whatever level of group you're talking to or individual you're talking to bring this to them because it'll change their life forever if you get even one point across to them alright thank you so much for listening and letting me share this so join us where you can how you can we greatly appreciate it peace be with you bye bye